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5. Have Fun With It

If you think you are in a relationship with a player, sometimes the best thing you can do is just have fun with it. Think of it as a friends-with-benefits type of situation, and let yourself enjoy that whirlwind of lust and connection with each other.

When you make a game out of their game, you’ll find that you’re less likely to be hurt. It’s also about lowering your expectations about this partner without lowering your standards about love.

6. Keep Your Boundaries Clear

When you’re interested in a player, it’s best to keep your boundaries clear. Of course, they may completely ignore those boundaries – but it’s still important to keep them clear for yourself.

As you become closer, you may be willing to be a bit more lenient towards them – and that is exactly what they want. Breaking your boundaries means giving up an idea for a relationship you deserve. Don’t let your date interest ruin it, even if your relationship goes so well that you’re ready to invent pet names for each other.

Related reading: Boundaries in Relationships – Keeping Them Healthy

7. Don’t Feel Compelled to Seek Revenge

Even if a player hurts, you it isn’t necessarily a personal vice against you as an individual. Players often see themselves as the main characters in a dating game. So when they make friends with people or enter romantic relationships, they see it as a successful quest and not for the pain it actively causes.

When they hurt you, you may be compelled to seek revenge, perhaps by sleeping with their friends or wrecking their stuff. If you’re a woman, don’t do that. Ultimately, this is going to cause you more pain than what it’s worth. And while you are perfectly within your rights to feel hurt, it is best not to act in such a way.

8. Be Ready to Move On

“Good people give Good Memories, Bad people give Good Experiences, Don’t Judge, Learn your lessons and Move on”

Kunal Tandel, author

Players often have a multitude of people they are romancing, along with multiple backup plans for dates. They may break up with you in person. However, they may also end the relationship by ghosting you and never establishing a connection again. You may get so used to the feeling of being on the back burner that when they ghost you, it can take months before you finally realize you’ve been dumped.

These things happen so often that it’s best to set yourself up with a mental timeline and be ready to move on. We find that two weeks to a month of being ghosted is a good amount of time to determine if it is time to move on or not. When you move on, don’t allow them to pull you back in; they had their chance with you, and you should not allow yourself to be placed on the back burner any longer.

Dealing with a player can be hard, especially when you find yourself falling in love with them. However, it is important for your mental and emotional health that you can handle being in a relationship with them without the fear or worry of finding yourself heartbroken. As you take the time to learn how you can spot who the players are, how to play their game against them, and how to manage your feelings and expectations you will find that the world of dating just gets a little more interesting.

Rise Above And Triumph!

If you fall in love with a player, the breakup can be painful. But, you can get through it. Rely on your friends, meditate, pray, engage in self-care, eat amazing food, watch movies that make you laugh, and listen to great music. Ultimately players end up alone. You can write whatever future you want.

A player in dating is usually a person who uses their charm to emotionally manipulate others into falling in love with them. When their victim happens to fall in love, the fun ends for them: they drop the relationship and head to their next target.
For players, love is merely a game. And the way to win the game is to enter as many lives as possible and leave a string of broken hearts behind.

Will a player ever fall in love? While they may not necessarily fall in love with anyone, it is always best to live with the assumed answer that is no. Remember that for players, being in a relationship is akin to playing a game. While there is a chance they might fall in love, their interest does not lie in building a connection.

What is a player in dating
8 Signs You’re Dating a Player

It’s a rather common mistake to overgeneralize things. Indeed, players have certain attributes that cannot and should not be ignored. However, it’s important to search for the strong signs rather than blame all the people on a dating site for playing.

Take a look at these characteristics and judge people around you objectively.

1. They Come On Strong

One of the biggest attributes of a player is that they come on very strong. In other words, they’ll tell you lots and lots of sweet things, tell you outright lies, and play mind games. If you see this, don’t rush into believing they really mean everything they say.

Players come on strong because they need to charm you as quickly and efficiently as possible to have a successful booty call. It’s a severe problem if they don’t worry about the emotional intimacy most people who want from a real relationship.

2. Emotional Unavailability and No Sense of Commitment

When you go out with a player, you may notice they are emotionally unavailable. While you seem to think you’re in a serious relationship, they don’t support you. Also, they may seem unwilling to change their relationship status on social media or not meet your emotional needs

In the dating world, when you are going out with someone, you should usually feel some kind of commitment from them. However, players tend to play by their own rules and will look at relationships as games. This means they feel no need to commit to you or anyone else fully.

If you’re also into casual fun, that’s OK – but if you want something serious, you’d better avoid players.

3. You’re Doing Most (If Not All) of the Relationship Work

A healthy relationship is all about give and take. This means that you both put in the effort to try and make it work. That’s why doing most of the work in the relationship is one of the most common warning signs of a player in dating.

To get a better idea of your relationship balance, think of everything you and your partner have done together in the past year:

How many of the things happening were your initiative?
How many times were you the one to write and call first?
How many times did you say “I love you”?
How many times did they say the same?
How many times were you able to be physically intimate without it resulting in sex?
If you think about it and grow concerned about the numbers or the lack of balance, you may be dating a player. Or they are just a person who doesn’t meet your relationship needs.

Related reading: 10 Basic Needs in a Relationship: Are You Getting Them Met?

4. No Consistency

You can always count on players to be consistently inconsistent:

They may keep going MIA
It’s OK for them to ignore your texts or calls
No matter what happens, they just seem to be completely over it.
When you think the relationship is over, they’ll start to love bomb and pull you back in. This leaves many women feeling confused and causes them the unnecessary pain of being heartbroken over and over again.

to be continued/....

Found a book stuck away to read one day. So...it is the Drifters by James Michener. It was written in 1970. I can relate to much of it having been there. Some I never saw though.
The premise is kids who rebelled and headed to avoid the draft or vacation in Spain and then just never went home.
He does a guy character who is a Jew. And in the book highlights college campuses that had protests that were pro Palestinian that were being put down and controlled by the Jews, etc.
So this is nothing new. The kids who are protesting on college campuses today are a continuation of 50 plus years of the Palestinian issue.
Interesting..proving there is nothing new under the sun.
I remember telling mom that this country was so bad that we needed a revolution. She said that never gained, only lost..work in the system for change. When I was 40, SHE was for a revolution. She saw our government would not allow change, nor our elite. I told her she was too late. Because I had gotten used the status quo and had no fire left.
Every generation of youth was ready to revolt and re-new our country. Now it appears the last one, Z, and more are so beaten down from birth that they just have given up before they start.

Yes.. yess.. yessssss...

what do non-smokers do after making love?

This is not about smokers vs non-smokers as lovers, not about stamina or anything to do with the actual act. It is ALL about how the non-smoker adds that final wrap-up to a successful event.

Doesn't even have to be own experience - pass on what you heard from friends over the years as more and more of them quit smoking.

MY friend's been a smoker, been a non-smoker, was even married to a non-smoker, and she says smokers are best, because the whole thing is rounded off so perfectly by that last drowsy contented five minutes before sleep.

But maybe not every non-smoker is snoring before their partner even gets back from the bathroom, hence the question.

This is particularly a question for the ex-smokers (or what you heard from ex-smokers), and I'm literally asking for a friend?

One of the founding members of the Allman Brothers band passed away at the age of 80. He was a singer and guitarist, born in West Palm Beach, Florida and retired in Osprey, Florida.
Betts had some health issues dating back to a stroke in 2018 and died from cancer and COPD at his home today.

Ramblin' Man - The Allman Brothers Band

News first came across on the forums where galrads/sdarlagg was a regular. I know he was hospitalized more than a year ago and recovered. On April 7th robplum announced he was again in the hospital with pneumonia and pulmonary fibrosis and the update came through today that he passed away on the 10th.

I was in Dayton, Ohio last year on vacation, about one hour from Columbus where he lived. It came as a surprise my brother drove me to Columbus to see a famous museum and German restaurant, so I had no advance plan to contact gal. Always in my thoughts would be to get in touch if I get the chance to go back to Dayton this summer.
It just wasn't in the cards.

There's a void in the CS family as his absence is noticed...

In the previous decade the percentage of Americans saying that religion is the most important thing, or among the most important things, in their life plummeted to 53% from 72%.

Interestingly “Unaffiliated” is the only religious category experiencing growth.

The Hush Money trial is still in jury selection. A second jury member has been dismissed.

"You know, he looked less orange, definitely, like, more yellowish, like yellow," said a dismissed juror yesterday. When they left the courtroom, she said "everybody was talking about it."