First Date-- But What If : (22)
Just come right out and ask him, but remember most people will lie to you with their answers. Just look into your heart and ask yourself can you trust this person. Then protect yourself anyway!
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Sassy, I say this with all discretion, if you see it's inevitable, whether it is embarrassing or not, it should definitely be a topic of discussion before hand. Not buts about it.
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Just remember..."No Glove, No Love"!
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Big_John: Just come right out and ask him, but remember most people will lie to you with their answers. Just look into your heart and ask yourself can you trust this person. Then protect yourself anyway!
T/Y John, I do have that trust problem, which I don't like
calling a problem. I really do trust almost everyone and
believe they are being honest. Has been an issue with my
family, but I have given up on trying to change, this is
the way I am.
I just know it will not be an easy thing for me to do.
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sassy49senior: I have been chatting with this guy via mail and phone
for several weeks now. He lives about 5 hours away and
has a heavy work schedule. We are planning on a first
meeting/date as soon as he gets a day or two off. Will
meet half way. Not so concerned about this on first date.
But what if we hit it off very well and continue and
eventually making love?
I just am having trouble with the concept of asking him
if he has protection and if he has been tested for the
STD'S and HIV. I know if I sleep with him I sleep with
everyone he has been with and vice/versa. Do you feel
he may ask first or do guys at my age even think about it?
I know it is very difficult for me to try to figure out
a way to approach someone my age about such an important
thing, without showing embarrassment.
if it is the right time go for it but take protection with you. that isn't saying your easy just smart.i know women that do and they ain't easy. good luck, and come home with a SMILE ON YOUR FACE, if not you'll w3ind up groucy like me for several weeks now. He lives about 5 hours away and
has a heavy work schedule. We are planning on a first
meeting/date as soon as he gets a day or two off. Will
meet half way. Not so concerned about this on first date.
But what if we hit it off very well and continue and
eventually making love?
I just am having trouble with the concept of asking him
if he has protection and if he has been tested for the
STD'S and HIV. I know if I sleep with him I sleep with
everyone he has been with and vice/versa. Do you feel
he may ask first or do guys at my age even think about it?
I know it is very difficult for me to try to figure out
a way to approach someone my age about such an important
thing, without showing embarrassment.
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caspatch: if it is the right time go for it but take protection with you. that isn't saying your easy just smart.i know women that do and they ain't easy. good luck, and come home with a SMILE ON YOUR FACE, if not you'll w3ind up groucy like me
Thanks Cas, Have not met yet and am not getting too
flustered. But I do know I guess I am a wee bit old
fashioned. There will be no intimacy on the first
meeting.
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sassy49senior: Thanks Cas, Have not met yet and am not getting too
flustered. But I do know I guess I am a wee bit old
fashioned. There will be no intimacy on the first
meeting.
didn't mean to imply. but if he's what your looking for wouldn't that put a smile on your face and spring in your step?flustered. But I do know I guess I am a wee bit old
fashioned. There will be no intimacy on the first
meeting.
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Yes Cas it sure would, but we have said nothing to one
another to imply we are going to be anything but friends.
In fact he is still looking and so am I and we have both
been honest about that. Why quit looking when we have not
even met, eh?
I bet if we ever were to meet and have a grouch contest
I would win by a landslide
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Sassy, how have you dealt with it in the past?
Do the same now.
Do the same now.
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sassy49senior: I have been chatting with this guy via mail and phone
for several weeks now. He lives about 5 hours away and
has a heavy work schedule. We are planning on a first
meeting/date as soon as he gets a day or two off. Will
meet half way. Not so concerned about this on first date.
But what if we hit it off very well and continue and
eventually making love?
I just am having trouble with the concept of asking him
if he has protection and if he has been tested for the
STD'S and HIV. I know if I sleep with him I sleep with
everyone he has been with and vice/versa. Do you feel
he may ask first or do guys at my age even think about it?
I know it is very difficult for me to try to figure out
a way to approach someone my age about such an important
thing, without showing embarrassment.
Sassy, you better. And you bring the protection. There is nothing wrong with you asking him questions like that if it gets that far.for several weeks now. He lives about 5 hours away and
has a heavy work schedule. We are planning on a first
meeting/date as soon as he gets a day or two off. Will
meet half way. Not so concerned about this on first date.
But what if we hit it off very well and continue and
eventually making love?
I just am having trouble with the concept of asking him
if he has protection and if he has been tested for the
STD'S and HIV. I know if I sleep with him I sleep with
everyone he has been with and vice/versa. Do you feel
he may ask first or do guys at my age even think about it?
I know it is very difficult for me to try to figure out
a way to approach someone my age about such an important
thing, without showing embarrassment.
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My son was telling me last night, of a young lady at work, who has had time off work, came back for a very short stint, and off again. She can hardly walk, and does so, as if she's been riding a horse for a week. Reason being she caught herpes. My son was not impressed, doesn't want her near the place!
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Just see how your first meeting goes Sassy, and if it seems like there are sparks, then you guys may both be more comfortable discussing the issue, and by the time the next encounter takes place you'll be all prepared and hopefully there won't be any uncomfortable moments to deal with. You'll know exactly what's what!
Congrats on the hope of meeting a possible match! I think it's wonderful!
Congrats on the hope of meeting a possible match! I think it's wonderful!
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venere08: My son was telling me last night, of a young lady at work, who has had time off work, came back for a very short stint, and off again. She can hardly walk, and does so, as if she's been riding a horse for a week. Reason being she caught herpes. My son was not impressed, doesn't want her near the place!
This I don't think is funny. I feel sorry for her. Who's to say she didn't take precautions? She may have asked and truely trusted the guy too.
Either way - shouldn't you be mature enough not to laugh at some poor girls misfortune.
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"IF", people did not live in such fear of the this & that's, they would learn to really enjoy life..
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ladybird_jc: Better to be safe that sorry.
If you're happy to risk catching a std or worse then thats your call and its your body.
If you're happy to risk catching a std or worse then thats your call and its your body.
We have not even met yet so I guess I will wait until
that time comes. If we seem to get along well and may
be a chance for something more then I will have a chat
with him.
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I have been chatting with this guy via mail and phone
for several weeks now. He lives about 5 hours away and
has a heavy work schedule. We are planning on a first
meeting/date as soon as he gets a day or two off. Will
meet half way. Not so concerned about this on first date.
But what if we hit it off very well and continue and
eventually making love?
I just am having trouble with the concept of asking him
if he has protection and if he has been tested for the
STD'S and HIV. I know if I sleep with him I sleep with
everyone he has been with and vice/versa. Do you feel
he may ask first or do guys at my age even think about it?
I know it is very difficult for me to try to figure out
a way to approach someone my age about such an important
thing, without showing embarrassment.[/quote
first,if he convinced u that he have plan to sleep with u together,that time u have right to tell and ask ,dont feel embarassed,that is for u and him..u need to be takecare of yourself.u can tell him in the nice or sweet way..
for several weeks now. He lives about 5 hours away and
has a heavy work schedule. We are planning on a first
meeting/date as soon as he gets a day or two off. Will
meet half way. Not so concerned about this on first date.
But what if we hit it off very well and continue and
eventually making love?
I just am having trouble with the concept of asking him
if he has protection and if he has been tested for the
STD'S and HIV. I know if I sleep with him I sleep with
everyone he has been with and vice/versa. Do you feel
he may ask first or do guys at my age even think about it?
I know it is very difficult for me to try to figure out
a way to approach someone my age about such an important
thing, without showing embarrassment.[/quote
first,if he convinced u that he have plan to sleep with u together,that time u have right to tell and ask ,dont feel embarassed,that is for u and him..u need to be takecare of yourself.u can tell him in the nice or sweet way..
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I have been chatting with this guy via mail and phone
for several weeks now. He lives about 5 hours away and
has a heavy work schedule. We are planning on a first
meeting/date as soon as he gets a day or two off. Will
meet half way. Not so concerned about this on first date.
But what if we hit it off very well and continue and
eventually making love?
I just am having trouble with the concept of asking him
if he has protection and if he has been tested for the
STD'S and HIV. I know if I sleep with him I sleep with
everyone he has been with and vice/versa. Do you feel
he may ask first or do guys at my age even think about it?
I know it is very difficult for me to try to figure out
a way to approach someone my age about such an important
thing, without showing embarrassment.