Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat? ( Archived) (85)

Mar 28, 2009 9:38 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
sassy49senior
sassy49seniorsassy49seniorItty Bitty, Nebraska USA274 Threads 4,632 Posts

I came back to CS after my break-up because I truly was
hoping to find a gentleman that would have some of my
same interests, but willing to step out of his comfort
zone, as I would also and try something new. Would like
to find someone who is here to try the dating scene and
see if it may lead to wanting to be together.

But it seems most are here mainly for friendship or just
to be in the forums to see how many people they can rile
up. I enjoy the forums but seems we tend to forget this is
connecting singles. (JMO)dunno
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Mar 28, 2009 9:44 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
USThumper
USThumperUSThumperMexico, New York USA4 Threads 3,957 Posts
sassy49senior: I came back to CS after my break-up because I truly was
hoping to find a gentleman that would have some of my
same interests, but willing to step out of his comfort
zone, as I would also and try something new. Would like
to find someone who is here to try the dating scene and
see if it may lead to wanting to be together.

But it seems most are here mainly for friendship or just
to be in the forums to see how many people they can rile
up. I enjoy the forums but seems we tend to forget this is
connecting singles. (JMO)
Mornin Sass. I enjoy these forams but truly would like to find the right one for me. It may take a while though, and in the meantime we can have fun here.
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Mar 28, 2009 9:48 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
pretzelman
pretzelmanpretzelmanLas Vegas, Nevada USA43 Threads 1 Polls 2,956 Posts
I confess...I am here for the chat! I think it is redundant to sign on to an international dating site, if you are looking for a partner! But that's just me! Unless you are wealthy, why would you look for a partner halfway around the world? You are not likely to ever meet.

The fact that most(if not all) of the states forums go unused is evidence that people are not serious about finding a partner. The last post in the Nevada room, was by me in early February! Not a single post since then!
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Mar 28, 2009 9:48 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
I enjoy the forums & have met a few great friends here. One is going on vacation with me & I can't wait!! applause banana

I guess I was looking for someone special when I joined this site. After all, it is called 'Connecting Singles'. But the more I'm on here, the more I find that I post mainly to talk to my friends.

I'm just going with the flow anymore. If it does happen, great. If not, I've been alone (without a significant other) for 3 years now. Been away from the ex-husband for 17. I'll be fine.
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Mar 28, 2009 9:52 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
pretzelman
pretzelmanpretzelmanLas Vegas, Nevada USA43 Threads 1 Polls 2,956 Posts
sweetowen: I enjoy the forums & have met a few great friends here. One is going on vacation with me & I can't wait!!

I guess I was looking for someone special when I joined this site. After all, it is called 'Connecting Singles'. But the more I'm on here, the more I find that I post mainly to talk to my friends.

I'm just going with the flow anymore. If it does happen, great. If not, I've been alone (without a significant other) for 3 years now. Been away from the ex-husband for 17. I'll be fine.
confused I thought you and Dazzle were an itemconfused
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Mar 28, 2009 9:53 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
druidess6308
druidess6308druidess6308Aliquippa, Pennsylvania USA79 Threads 13,695 Posts
Good morning, Sassy! I originally came on here to find a special man to share my life, and with the patience to sift through to find the right one.

Some things have changed in my life, and other changes may be coming, that have made it necessary to spend some time focusing on me and my life, and my family, and not having the ability to focus on a romantic relationship for a while. So, now I remain for the forums and connecting with other singles to have fun and make friends. We'll see what happens when I'm ready to get romantically involved again, but for now, that's not even on my radar.

hug bouquet Love you, Sis! You and the other dear friends I've made so far, and more that I will most likely make in the future, are why I stay.
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Mar 28, 2009 9:55 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
petalbabe
petalbabepetalbabeOgdensburg, New York, Cork Ireland61 Threads 1 Polls 3,101 Posts
sassy49senior: I came back to CS after my break-up because I truly was
hoping to find a gentleman that would have some of my
same interests, but willing to step out of his comfort
zone, as I would also and try something new. Would like
to find someone who is here to try the dating scene and
see if it may lead to wanting to be together.

But it seems most are here mainly for friendship or just
to be in the forums to see how many people they can rile
up. I enjoy the forums but seems we tend to forget this is
connecting singles. (JMO)


Hi Sassy...

I think the biggest danger here on CS (especially now a lot more people are unemployed and have more time on their hands) is to use it purely as a means of general communication and company, rather than a means to find their potential partner. There is absolutely nothing wrong with using it that way, and I myself have made some very good friends here, both male and female.

But I do think that it can become a habitual thing, to log on in the morning for a bit of idle banter and a way to communicate and not feel alone. I myself do that, to a degree. I have to say if I was working I probably wouldnt be on here half as much.

Saying all that, my main reason for being here is still to hopefully find my future love, and God Willing, it will happen.

As long as you are happy using the site for whatever floats your boat, but see it for what it is, then it can only be an asset to your life.
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Mar 28, 2009 9:56 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
pretzelman
pretzelmanpretzelmanLas Vegas, Nevada USA43 Threads 1 Polls 2,956 Posts
druidess6308: Good morning, Sassy! I originally came on here to find a special man to share my life, and with the patience to sift through to find the right one.

Some things have changed in my life, and other changes may be coming, that have made it necessary to spend some time focusing on me and my life, and my family, and not having the ability to focus on a romantic relationship for a while. So, now I remain for the forums and connecting with other singles to have fun and make friends. We'll see what happens when I'm ready to get romantically involved again, but for now, that's not even on my radar.

Love you, Sis! You and the other dear friends I've made so far, and more that I will most likely make in the future, are why I stay.



Now, I'm really confusedconfused
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Mar 28, 2009 10:00 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
azdesperado72
azdesperado72azdesperado72Flagstaff, Arizona USA6 Threads 155 Posts
Personally I'm looking for that someone special. I have been through hell in past relationships so I am a bit particular and expect to get to know someone a bit before letting my heart get attached.

Sadly, the few women I have emailed that have similar interestes haven't so much as read the emails, so I don't know exactly what to think of the site at this point.
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Mar 28, 2009 10:06 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
sassy49senior
sassy49seniorsassy49seniorItty Bitty, Nebraska USA274 Threads 4,632 Posts
druidess6308: Good morning, Sassy! I originally came on here to find a special man to share my life, and with the patience to sift through to find the right one.

Some things have changed in my life, and other changes may be coming, that have made it necessary to spend some time focusing on me and my life, and my family, and not having the ability to focus on a romantic relationship for a while. So, now I remain for the forums and connecting with other singles to have fun and make friends. We'll see what happens when I'm ready to get romantically involved again, but for now, that's not even on my radar.

Love you, Sis! You and the other dear friends I've made so far, and more that I will most likely make in the future, are why I stay.



Love you too Sis, I also have made some terrific friends here and would not change that for anything. But I have stated in other threads that I am a woamn who needs a man in her life. Yes, before a bunch start giving me advice about loving myself. I do love me, I feel fine living with me, but a part of the puzzle that oges with my journey is still missing and I will continue to look for it. hug
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Mar 28, 2009 10:10 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
sassy49senior
sassy49seniorsassy49seniorItty Bitty, Nebraska USA274 Threads 4,632 Posts
pretzelman: I confess...I am here for the chat! I think it is redundant to sign on to an international dating site, if you are looking for a partner! But that's just me! Unless you are wealthy, why would you look for a partner halfway around the world? You are not likely to ever meet.

The fact that most(if not all) of the states forums go unused is evidence that people are not serious about finding a partner. The last post in the Nevada room, was by me in early February! Not a single post since then!




I know why you are here Pretzie and I feel blessed to have you as friend. But I am still searching and after a few phone conversations or talk with mic. on the computer, yes I am willing to go the distance to meet or I would not be here. I wish the best and many happy years for you and Sharon. You are both so lucky to have found one another. teddybear
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Mar 28, 2009 10:16 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
thewall2
thewall2thewall2montreal, Quebec Canada61 Threads 10,499 Posts
chat
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Mar 28, 2009 10:17 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
HJFinAZ
HJFinAZHJFinAZSun CIty, Arizona USA870 Threads 1 Polls 17,068 Posts
I already have a date..grin DO I have to leave the forums??sigh
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Mar 28, 2009 10:18 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
tainogirl
tainogirltainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago215 Threads 2 Polls 3,777 Posts
sassy49senior: I came back to CS after my break-up because I truly was
hoping to find a gentleman that would have some of my
same interests, but willing to step out of his comfort
zone, as I would also and try something new. Would like
to find someone who is here to try the dating scene and
see if it may lead to wanting to be together.

But it seems most are here mainly for friendship or just
to be in the forums to see how many people they can rile
up. I enjoy the forums but seems we tend to forget this is
connecting singles. (JMO)


When I first joined CS I was having no luck finding anyone and then THEY encouraged to join in the forums which I did. I had all good intentions of finding someone but then I caught Forum Disease and have not been the same since.crying They made me do all sorts of awful things like sending flowers, mail,doing threads and polls - its just awful! And I haven't been looking recently for someone.crying crying Curse you forums!mumbling grin Anyway I think there are some great people here and if I meet someone that would be great too. I'm gonna go now and take my meds for forum disease.crying
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Mar 28, 2009 10:19 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
HJFinAZ
HJFinAZHJFinAZSun CIty, Arizona USA870 Threads 1 Polls 17,068 Posts
ME????innocent Stir the pot on occasion??confused NEVER!!!!devil

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Mar 28, 2009 10:21 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
Chavsmustdie
ChavsmustdieChavsmustdieRomsey, Hampshire, England UK1 Threads 88 Posts
pretzelman: I confess...I am here for the chat! I think it is redundant to sign on to an international dating site, if you are looking for a partner!



Thats the express reason for my signing up here, i WANT a partner from another country. Someone a little different and endearing.
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Mar 28, 2009 10:23 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
Scubadiva
ScubadivaScubadivaNew Jersey, USA106 Threads 11 Polls 2,689 Posts
sassy49senior: I came back to CS after my break-up because I truly was
hoping to find a gentleman that would have some of my
same interests, but willing to step out of his comfort
zone, as I would also and try something new. Would like
to find someone who is here to try the dating scene and
see if it may lead to wanting to be together.

But it seems most are here mainly for friendship or just
to be in the forums to see how many people they can rile
up. I enjoy the forums but seems we tend to forget this is
connecting singles. (JMO)


wave Hi
Well, connecting singles doesn't exclude connecting on a friendship basis. I'm one of those people for whom looking for a relationship is absolutely pointless. I'm flying out of the US next week, I'll be in Europe for a year or two and then it's back over to the US. There is no way anyone could seriously put up with that, let alone come along. It'd be nothing short of a miracle to establish anything serious given the circumstances. So I think it's actually fair to say to people up front: hey, friendship only. At least that's how I see it, you know. dunno
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Mar 28, 2009 10:25 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
Chavsmustdie
ChavsmustdieChavsmustdieRomsey, Hampshire, England UK1 Threads 88 Posts
Scubadiva: Hi
Well, connecting singles doesn't exclude connecting on a friendship basis. I'm one of those people for whom looking for a relationship is absolutely pointless. I'm flying out of the US next week, I'll be in Europe for a year or two and then it's back over to the US. There is no way anyone could seriously put up with that, let alone come along. It'd be nothing short of a miracle to establish anything serious given the circumstances. So I think it's actually fair to say to people up front: hey, friendship only. At least that's how I see it, you know.


I would in an instance :)
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Mar 28, 2009 10:26 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
Chavsmustdie
ChavsmustdieChavsmustdieRomsey, Hampshire, England UK1 Threads 88 Posts
*instant




Holy hell, good engrish there
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Mar 28, 2009 10:27 AM CST Do We Truly Want To Date Or Just Chat?
USThumper
USThumperUSThumperMexico, New York USA4 Threads 3,957 Posts
Scubadiva: Hi
Well, connecting singles doesn't exclude connecting on a friendship basis. I'm one of those people for whom looking for a relationship is absolutely pointless. I'm flying out of the US next week, I'll be in Europe for a year or two and then it's back over to the US. There is no way anyone could seriously put up with that, let alone come along. It'd be nothing short of a miracle to establish anything serious given the circumstances. So I think it's actually fair to say to people up front: hey, friendship only. At least that's how I see it, you know.
You could always take me along as a toyboy
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