This seems so true!! (5)

Fitting Each Other In: Surviving Your Schedules

Life sometimes seems to get in the way of everything fun.

My biggest pet peeve in the world is getting up in the morning and knowing that my entire day has been planned. Between school, work and responsibilities at home it seems like I’ll never find time to actually have a relationship. Sound familiar? This is a problem that plagues many of us and makes trying to maintain a healthy relationship incredibly difficult.

Many of my coupled friends have come to me ranting about the fact that they never see their boyfriend because he’s always working or their girlfriend never has time for anything but studying. There have been many, many, many times when my boyfriend and I have been at each others throats for what seems to be no reason at all. In the end we usually discover that we’re both just totally frustrated by our conflicting schedules.

Don’t lose hope! What many people don’t realize is that even if you can’t spend the whole day together and only have one hour to spend, that little chunk of time can be the difference between a good day and a bad day. How you ask? It’s not quantity, but quality. It’s time to look past the negatives and rejoice in the 45 minutes you have to spend alone. Here’s how.


A lot of couples run into trouble when one party takes over the responsibility of finding time to see the other, so try to balance it out. No, I don’t mean keep a written tally of who went to see who and when or anything like that, but try to show the other person how important it is for you to see them. If you find yourself trying to see your boyfriend, but he’s going out with his boys instead, or your girlfriend brushes you off when you show up to bring her a coffee, there might be a bigger issue at work. It could be nothing, but it’s better to keep your relationship healthy so you won’t have to worry about that.

Stop stressing and add some fun into your days, even if they are short spurts of lovey-dovey goodness!

Niki Naderi

Coffee Breaks

So maybe you can’t go out for a proper coffee date and spend a few hours mulling over your lives. Fear not! Surprise her at work with a couple double doubles and sit with her during her break. Get up early and bring some caffeine to him before he heads out for the day. It’s all about using the time you actually have and spending it with each other.

Go outside the box to think of ways to make the most of the all too scarce “free time” that we are allotted each day or week. Even 20 minutes of conversation can really make the monotony of everyday routines disappear. Having your significant other make the effort to come down to your work or surprise you on your doorstep will not only be beneficial to you and your mental health, but it will mean just as much, if not more, to them as well.

Park Benches

This is one of my favourites. If you can steal away for a couple of hours, don’t waste that time around crowds in the mall or a restaurant. Get away from all the noise and the chaos and just be alone. You can do this in any season. Bundle up and make the trip because it’s important for you two to remain connected throughout everything that you deal with outside of your relationship. Chatting on park benches is an excellent way to achieve that!

Early Morning Or Midnight Meetings

I am the first to admit that sleep is extremely important to me. However, let’s say your boyfriend works the evening or midnight shift and you work all day, which means you have absolutely no chance of seeing each other. After a few days of calling in sick to work, you’ve really got your back against the wall. Well, this is when you make a decision: do I go to bed late or get up early? Sacrificing sleep is difficult, especially if you need it to get through the marathon of each day, but it is ultimately worth it. Whether you decide to go for a midnight stroll or an early breakfast, your sleep deprivation will seem secondary to the sweet make out session and lovely company.

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some sacrifice required

No matter how you decide to fit each other into your chaotic lives, it’s important to keep in mind that you shouldn’t do it out of obligation. Both of you will have to sacrifice to make it work and it’ll only be worth it if you really want it to work.

great posts KDH. Not that i have to fit anyone in right now

ur assumimg i have a life