Separating work from personal relationships. (33)
Jan1305: I seriously believe the two don´t mix, but I teach English to adults so occasionally there are problems.
None of my students have ever blatantly come on to me because usually I teach groups and I am very professional, keeping a distance which makes it difficult for anybody to flirt openly.
However, sometimes I teach on a one-to-one basis and the classtoom dynamic is naturally different. This is when it gets tricky at times.
What are your opinions about getting involved in this situation?
I know what I think, but I´m interested in other views.
None of my students have ever blatantly come on to me because usually I teach groups and I am very professional, keeping a distance which makes it difficult for anybody to flirt openly.
However, sometimes I teach on a one-to-one basis and the classtoom dynamic is naturally different. This is when it gets tricky at times.
What are your opinions about getting involved in this situation?
I know what I think, but I´m interested in other views.
I think it's all fine unless things don't work out...and then I think it can make for a very uncomfortable atmosphere for both...even worse if someone becomes vindictive....
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i dunno i have absolutely no experience in wich i can use to compose an opinion with . super sorry
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I dated a co-worker once, when I was young...and we had to keep it secret or one of us would have been fired. He was a cook and I was a waitress...and I'll never forget the day I walked into the kitchen with a huge trayload of glasses and our eyes met with "that look" in his, and I dropped the whole trayful...broke a ton of glassware! You should have seen me try to explain that one! 
I've never dated a co-worker since.
I've never dated a co-worker since.
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Old saying...don't crap where you eat.
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druidess6308: I dated a co-worker once, when I was young...and we had to keep it secret or one of us would have been fired. He was a cook and I was a waitress...and I'll never forget the day I walked into the kitchen with a huge trayload of glasses and our eyes met with "that look" in his, and I dropped the whole trayful...broke a ton of glassware! You should have seen me try to explain that one!
I've never dated a co-worker since.
hat look was that? get a roomI've never dated a co-worker since.
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caspatch: hat look was that? get a room
Yep...that look!
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I got involved in a big mess one time and I didn't even date the guy ff's....
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druidess6308: Yep...that look!
you didn't drop the tray you threw it to free up your hands to call and reserve that room. honestly now ------ This thread is Archived ------
caspatch: you didn't drop the tray you threw it to free up your hands to call and reserve that room. honestly now
No, the tray just fell off of my hand because I got totally lost in that look. Only took one second, or less. It was a very hot look.
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Hugz_n_Kissez: I got involved in a big mess one time and I didn't even date the guy ff's....
That sounds like a bad situation all around, Hugz.
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I've never had that experience, but I think it would seriously damage the professional relationship. Just seems too hard to seperate the two.
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druidess6308: No, the tray just fell off of my hand because I got totally lost in that look. Only took one second, or less. It was a very hot look.
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Go for it. He must be cute. So knock his sock off.
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caspatch: thats your story and your sticking to it
Yep...I seem to have forgotten that my hand existed when I saw that look in his eyes.
This is just tickling you no end, isn't it Cas?
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Big_John: Go for it. He must be cute. So knock his sock off.
i think she did already
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Big_John: Go for it. He must be cute. So knock his sock off.
If that was directed towards me, John, I did. I was already dating him...and we had plans for after work..that's what that look was all about. I was 21 or 22.
Honestly, a look like that from the right man would make me drop whatever I was holding again, too. I still react that way.
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druidess6308: That sounds like a bad situation all around, Hugz.
The guy and I were only ever attracted to each other but thought better of dating because his ex was the office manager and I swear she was a psychopath...welllllllll that didn't matter...she was jealous and bullied me for 4 years over it until she ended up getting me fired because there are no bullying laws here....
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Jan1305: ....
I know what I think, but I´m interested in other views.
I know what I think, but I´m interested in other views.
If my heart told me I loved someone regardless of working together, etc I would tell them. Simple as that for me. If it doesn't and they express it towards me I would apologize that I did not share their feelings and hope that things would be fine, I would cover my butt though and make sure someone knew I had turned them down so things would not escalate if they decided to get vindictive.
It's just a matter of situation really what are you yourself comfortable with and what factors might alter that comfort etc... yes over analyzing but it is impossible for me not to on things like this, I'm trying though and gave a basic answer anyway.
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druidess6308: If that was directed towards me, John, I did. I was already dating him...and we had plans for after work..that's what that look was all about. I was 21 or 22.
Honestly, a look like that from the right man would make me drop whatever I was holding again, too. I still react that way.
Honestly, a look like that from the right man would make me drop whatever I was holding again, too. I still react that way.
Hey if the shoe fits!!!!!
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None of my students have ever blatantly come on to me because usually I teach groups and I am very professional, keeping a distance which makes it difficult for anybody to flirt openly.
However, sometimes I teach on a one-to-one basis and the classtoom dynamic is naturally different. This is when it gets tricky at times.
What are your opinions about getting involved in this situation?
I know what I think, but I´m interested in other views.