I don't get it ( Archived) (9)

There's something that's really bothering me. It's about my roommate. I honestly feel like he is trying to make me mad. He asks me things like "If I leave the faucet running would you get mad?" he does it in a joking way, sometimes I feel like he doesn't. I don't understand why people feel they need to test my patients. The thing I do is I don't really respond in an angry way because if I do that means he gets what he wants out of it and I don't want that. It's not the faucet running that He does other things and asks me if they make me mad too. What makes me upset it's the fact that he is purposely trying to make me mad. By doing these things to irritate me he is immature at least in my eyes. It's like they want to see me mad and I don't understand the logic behind it. The reason I don't get mad often is that when I do I don't really have control over myself and I do things that I later regret. I don't want to get into fights and things like that because there are consequences. I just don't understand what kind of pleasure someone would get out of making me mad I really don't.

Living under the same roof, you all have the ability to make each others live's HORRIBLE. Research some roomate horror stories, and relate them to him. If you don't speak to each other much, have the conversation in front of him, maybe with a freind over the phone. It shouldn't take more then two or three of those conversations for him to realize instigating an acrimonious relationship with ones roomates, is just plain foolish.

It is a bad idea. He tried to get me to take some rotten milk and put it in my roommate's closet. I didn't do it because I didn't want to piss him off. I had no reason to do that. If he wronged me in some way I might be more willing but even then getting revenge isn't something I should do.

If only I were exposed to some gamma rays like Bruce Banner then he wouldn't like when I am angry. I like the Hulk way.

Unfortunately caveman talk is one of the only ways people get the jist of what you are trying to say. Yeah I know what you mean though. I gotta be firm with him. I feel like too many times I give people the impression they can walk all over me and I won't do anything. That's far from the truth. I just don't want to do something irresponsible and stupid like get into a fight.

Seems to me you've taken the high road long enough. Maybe it's time to show him that he's gone too far? I'd take him aside and have a talk with him (he doesn't get to respond) in a stern tone of voice, stinky eyeball, and let him know in uncertain terms that enough is enough or you'll have it all out. Then walk away and let him stew over it.

He's an immature kid who does it because he knows he can and because you don't bite back. There is no logic there. Sad but true. If he annoys everyone else and just won't quit, then maybe you guys need to throw him out and get a different roommate. Maybe he thinks his tenancy there is safe and maybe he needs to know that it isn't if he doesn't change his ways.

that should read "in NO uncertain terms"... dammit...

hi.i think this is a case of,,it worked on his family as a kid,so now the rest of his life the rest of us must take it,its saying- i want attention im not entertained by you enough,,your not looking after me enough mumy,,im used to having things my way to keep the peace in the house,,ect ,ect