Love is selfish ( Archived) (209)

And I am not the first person to say it.

Anybody care to discuss this notion?

It is selfish in a good way, cutting ourselves off from being with other people, in that we are with one person. We are selfish.

We see selfish as a bad word, but it is not, selfish can be good.

Thoughts oh wise ones.

I think love is shellfish sometimes.......

Well, we only become unselfish in the partnership.

I mean imagine, if you fell in love and committed yourself to one woman, how bloody shellfish is that when you deprive millions of women with your dashing good looks and charm???? Eh, eh???

Something fishy going on with that me thinks.

I agree...love can be selfish, but it has to be....sometimes you need to focus yourself on the object of your desire, and make that happen. You can't be all things to all jellyfish...

See, I knew I was barking. Despite rumours.

I am having a love affair with tomatoes, where does that rate me in the shellfish rankings?

Hi Sommer, well if you get a couple that are so intoxicated by their love for each other that all they want is each others company 24/7 then that is fine, but some can still be deeply in love but also need the company of others or perhaps a bit of "me" time to persue personal interests, hobbies, sports etc. If the all consuming partner can't handle that sacrifice of a little time apart then they are the ones being selfish IMO.

I warn you, carry on like this, and you could have a crime of passion between his cucumber, and your tomatoes...

On a more serious note

My take on it:

The last thing love is, is selfish.

What you are describing is being faithful, but that’s something else. That’s not a feeling, that’s a choice of life, a bit of our moral code, and a preference.

Love is not selfish

For starters, even though they are different kind of love, you can love many at the same time. There is actually no limit to how many you can love, sincerely: Your husband, your children, your mother, your father, your siblings, your grandmother, your best friends, and so on.

But why I think love is the opposite of selfish, is that when you love, you offer the most intimate bit of yourself to other, and you offer it completely. You reveal yourself and you know that you’re making yourself vulnerable, sometimes in the most scary way, but you don’t care.
You are there, for them, in the most unselfish way one can be.

Even if you restrict yourself, or only have one to love, that is still not selfish. It is, like I said, you being the most the most generous and unselfish one can be.

What he said....only better...