Being Stood Up (183)
By the way, it's not a pity thread. Just sharing for discussion purposes. 
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druidess6308: Right now I'm in the process of being stood up for a date. I am finding that my reaction to this is to laugh, and to be thankful that I'm seeing this man's true colors so early, before my heart got involved.
His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
Yep!
I have been stood up without a call, when I was much younger. I don't remember who did it or how many times, but I know that if a man stood me up now, I would probably first call him to find out what happened. He could be suffering from alzheimers or got been hit by a truck, or both. Seriously!
Did you call him?
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druidess6308: Right now I'm in the process of being stood up for a date. I am finding that my reaction to this is to laugh, and to be thankful that I'm seeing this man's true colors so early, before my heart got involved.
His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
Well, at least he's allowing you an easy way to weed him out before you get to a point where your feeling are possibly hurt. Would have been nice to get a call or a text though.
For me, I've never gotten upset about such things and just go on about my merry way.
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druidess6308: By the way, it's not a pity thread. Just sharing for discussion purposes.
Everyone that knows you can tell, Dru.
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I just knock all the windows out his car... No just kidding. Just move on and know all men are not like him.
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druidess6308: Right now I'm in the process of being stood up for a date. I am finding that my reaction to this is to laugh, and to be thankful that I'm seeing this man's true colors so early, before my heart got involved.
His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
Wait it out first and see what explanation he offers. Only then will he show what he’s really about. Maybe he’s had a heart attack due to the excitement of meeting you, and is stuck at a hospital.
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druidess6308: Right now I'm in the process of being stood up for a date. I am finding that my reaction to this is to laugh, and to be thankful that I'm seeing this man's true colors so early, before my heart got involved.
His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)
Sorry that is happening to you....though it is still possible something came up & you will be hearing from him....
however, if that doesn't occur than it truly would be his loss as he wouldn't even know the wonderful person he could have met....
I tend to react the same as you....if people I am beginning to know let me down i tend to write them off....i do feel hurt a bit,
and i get over that & move on.....
i've never stood anyone up for a date without having contacted them
first....sometimes things have come up when i've had to cancel a
date at the last minute....especially with having my own kids, anything can happen so that's just the way it is........
hope it works out for you....
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Dru, watch Last chance Harvey with Emma Thompson and Dustin Hoffman, I know you'll like the film, and you'll know which scene it is I am on about here, why I'm suggesting the film.
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lusciousmile: Everyone that knows you can tell, Dru.
Thank you, Lush. There are newbies, though. And I wanted to make it clear before I got any of those types of posts. ------ This thread is Archived ------
Sparky55: Well, at least he's allowing you an easy way to weed him out before you get to a point where your feeling are possibly hurt. Would have been nice to get a call or a text though.
For me, I've never gotten upset about such things and just go on about my merry way.
For me, I've never gotten upset about such things and just go on about my merry way.
See, I used to let it bother me, when I was younger. I was also less secure then. It's the first time this has happened to me in a long, long time...so it was interesting to find how differently I'm reacting now.
Yes, I would think more of him had he called or sent a text...or even an email. As of now, I think very little of him.
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You are right. He is not worth your time or thoughts or energy. He is just showing how ignorant and inconsiderate he is.
I have never been stood up, so have no clue what that feels like, nor have I ever stood anyone else up either.
I would consider that unforgivable, unless the other person had been seriously injured or died or something, in which case, I'd still expect someone close to them to have notified me.
I have never been stood up, so have no clue what that feels like, nor have I ever stood anyone else up either.
I would consider that unforgivable, unless the other person had been seriously injured or died or something, in which case, I'd still expect someone close to them to have notified me.
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could be hes a player.dont call him.
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lusciousmile: Ok.
He sounds like a two-timing, rude, raw, self absorbed man. Good riddance to bad trash!
That's my gut feeling. I've been watching this behavior develop over the past week. Ever see something coming and just decide to watch it play out? I was finding it interesting. He sounds like a two-timing, rude, raw, self absorbed man. Good riddance to bad trash!
It will be interesting to see if he does contact me again, and what he has to say. I'm finding this an interesting study at this point.
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pubwrite08: I just knock all the windows out his car... No just kidding. Just move on and know all men are not like him.
Oh, I know that although there are slime like him out there, most men are really good. One just has to weed through the slimeballs to find the good ones. He seemed like a good one at first, but then they all do. As do the women who act like this...I'm not slamming men here, just slimes of either gender.
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druidess6308: See, I used to let it bother me, when I was younger. I was also less secure then. It's the first time this has happened to me in a long, long time...so it was interesting to find how differently I'm reacting now.
Yes, I would think more of him had he called or sent a text...or even an email. As of now, I think very little of him.
Yes, I would think more of him had he called or sent a text...or even an email. As of now, I think very little of him.
Just think of the fun you can have when and if he does call.
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CaptainBeirutIII: Wait it out first and see what explanation he offers. Only then will he show what he’s really about. Maybe he’s had a heart attack due to the excitement of meeting you, and is stuck at a hospital.
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The posts might indicate that this problem is restricted to females -- apparently, we males don't get stood up. Hmmm (lol)
Hasn't exactly been my experience, IYKWIM.
But, it does tend to simplify the weeding process, eh?
Hasn't exactly been my experience, IYKWIM.
But, it does tend to simplify the weeding process, eh?
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druidess6308: That's my gut feeling. I've been watching this behavior develop over the past week. Ever see something coming and just decide to watch it play out? I was finding it interesting.
It will be interesting to see if he does contact me again, and what he has to say. I'm finding this an interesting study at this point.
It will be interesting to see if he does contact me again, and what he has to say. I'm finding this an interesting study at this point.
You mean like a froth?
Of course I have, but I normally don't let it go to waste.
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BlueSkyJ: Sorry that is happening to you....though it is still possible something came up & you will be hearing from him....
however, if that doesn't occur than it truly would be his loss as he wouldn't even know the wonderful person he could have met....
I tend to react the same as you....if people I am beginning to know let me down i tend to write them off....i do feel hurt a bit,
and i get over that & move on.....
i've never stood anyone up for a date without having contacted them
first....sometimes things have come up when i've had to cancel a
date at the last minute....especially with having my own kids, anything can happen so that's just the way it is........
hope it works out for you....
however, if that doesn't occur than it truly would be his loss as he wouldn't even know the wonderful person he could have met....
I tend to react the same as you....if people I am beginning to know let me down i tend to write them off....i do feel hurt a bit,
and i get over that & move on.....
i've never stood anyone up for a date without having contacted them
first....sometimes things have come up when i've had to cancel a
date at the last minute....especially with having my own kids, anything can happen so that's just the way it is........
hope it works out for you....
Thank you, BlueSky...I do consider this more his loss than mine, believe me. Funny thing is, since I've seen his behavior changing and had my gut feeling, I'm finding this doesn't even hurt. You know how if you see a punch coming and you prepare to absorb it, you don't feel it as much? Same thing. Apparently, I've learned how to apply the lessons of martial arts to life itself.
And yes, I call quickly to cancel if something comes up, not just stand the person up. Even in the midst of a life/death emergency, I would call.
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His text message yesterday indicated we were still on for today. Then no further contact to confirm time and location. It was supposed to be for lunch today, and it's now noon here. Obviously, he's rude and disrespectful, which means he's not worth any more of my thought or emotional energy.
So, how do you react when someone stands you up for a date? Do you let it get you down? Mope and cry about it? Or when you set up a first date, do you have other plans made just in case s/he doesn't show? Do you laugh it off or cry it out? Have you ever stood anyone up for a date? If so, why? (And no, I haven't.)