how long after divorse ..WHAT NEEDS TO HAPPEN??? (26)
phoenixrising1: WE HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HOW LONG I SHOULD WAIT....AT LEAST A YEAR IS THE FEELING OF THE CS FRIENDS....
WHAT ARE THE THINGS THAT MUST HAPPEN BEFORE I SHOULD FEEL WHOLE SO AS NOT TO BRING TOO MANY EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS INTO THE NEXT WITH ME... (BAGGAGE)..WHAT ABOUT THE HUGE HOLE AND THE LONELY NIGHTS...WHY DO I NEED TO WAIT NOW WHEN I NEED HER MOST NOW?
1 LETTING GO AND FORGIVING
2 GIVING UP ALL OUR HOPES AND DREAMS....LETTING GO
3?
4?
5?
WHAT IS THE PROCESS....TO PREPARE FOR A NEW LOVING RELATIONSHIP??
THANK YOU
KDS
WHAT ARE THE THINGS THAT MUST HAPPEN BEFORE I SHOULD FEEL WHOLE SO AS NOT TO BRING TOO MANY EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS INTO THE NEXT WITH ME... (BAGGAGE)..WHAT ABOUT THE HUGE HOLE AND THE LONELY NIGHTS...WHY DO I NEED TO WAIT NOW WHEN I NEED HER MOST NOW?
1 LETTING GO AND FORGIVING
2 GIVING UP ALL OUR HOPES AND DREAMS....LETTING GO
3?
4?
5?
WHAT IS THE PROCESS....TO PREPARE FOR A NEW LOVING RELATIONSHIP??
THANK YOU
KDS
You need to believe in yourself first inorder for anything to happen. You have to let go and let God!
yes i have learnt that cause i'd not let go properly i couldn't move on .now i have done this i feel im in a better place to have a loving relationship.
3 meet somone kinda nice
4 spend some time gitten to kno her
5 do what feels good for both
6 whaddya doin readin this git out there and have some fun , the sun is settin on our world soon ppl like us will b e looking at the lawn not from the green side but from the roots,go to bingo ,chek out some of the bags that hang out there . chek out the legion, there not all 80.my big brother told me that the best place to pick up chiks was church cause there mothers think your a good guy and they relax a bit . or a better way is to post on c s lots and get your personality out there .no whining and wingeing. be up attitude. nother thing , canada forums is pretty dead,but i always go here cause im can. the good place is international forums . a lot of ppl from can went inter and never posted here again. you can tell cause there is a look counter on the site ,they look but never say a thing. cmon ppl post and talk befor the can forum goes completly dead.
thus sayth gordy the old sillyfosifer
thus endith my sunday morning once in a while rant
4 spend some time gitten to kno her
5 do what feels good for both
6 whaddya doin readin this git out there and have some fun , the sun is settin on our world soon ppl like us will b e looking at the lawn not from the green side but from the roots,go to bingo ,chek out some of the bags that hang out there . chek out the legion, there not all 80.my big brother told me that the best place to pick up chiks was church cause there mothers think your a good guy and they relax a bit . or a better way is to post on c s lots and get your personality out there .no whining and wingeing. be up attitude. nother thing , canada forums is pretty dead,but i always go here cause im can. the good place is international forums . a lot of ppl from can went inter and never posted here again. you can tell cause there is a look counter on the site ,they look but never say a thing. cmon ppl post and talk befor the can forum goes completly dead.
thus sayth gordy the old sillyfosifer
thus endith my sunday morning once in a while rant
thankyou mychelle
i reply to you directly
i reply to you directly
Dear sweetvelvet
i did try to send you a reply to mailbox but i am blocked..ok no problem..
very valuable advise and i treasure it...thankyou so very much..
truely
kds
i did try to send you a reply to mailbox but i am blocked..ok no problem..
very valuable advise and i treasure it...thankyou so very much..
truely
kds
gordy22222: 3 meet somone kinda nice
4 spend some time gitten to kno her
5 do what feels good for both
6 whaddya doin readin this git out there and have some fun , the sun is settin on our world soon ppl like us will b e looking at the lawn not from the green side but from the roots,go to bingo ,chek out some of the bags that hang out there . chek out the legion, there not all 80.my big brother told me that the best place to pick up chiks was church cause there mothers think your a good guy and they relax a bit . or a better way is to post on c s lots and get your personality out there .no whining and wingeing. be up attitude. nother thing , canada forums is pretty dead,but i always go here cause im can. the good place is international forums . a lot of ppl from can went inter and never posted here again. you can tell cause there is a look counter on the site ,they look but never say a thing. cmon ppl post and talk befor the can forum goes completly dead.
thus sayth gordy the old sillyfosifer
thus endith my sunday morning once in a while rant
4 spend some time gitten to kno her
5 do what feels good for both
6 whaddya doin readin this git out there and have some fun , the sun is settin on our world soon ppl like us will b e looking at the lawn not from the green side but from the roots,go to bingo ,chek out some of the bags that hang out there . chek out the legion, there not all 80.my big brother told me that the best place to pick up chiks was church cause there mothers think your a good guy and they relax a bit . or a better way is to post on c s lots and get your personality out there .no whining and wingeing. be up attitude. nother thing , canada forums is pretty dead,but i always go here cause im can. the good place is international forums . a lot of ppl from can went inter and never posted here again. you can tell cause there is a look counter on the site ,they look but never say a thing. cmon ppl post and talk befor the can forum goes completly dead.
thus sayth gordy the old sillyfosifer
thus endith my sunday morning once in a while rant
dude...thanks for your words
thanks you really gave me something i needed
kds
kds
gordy22222: 3 meet somone kinda nice
4 spend some time gitten to kno her
5 do what feels good for both
6 whaddya doin readin this git out there and have some fun , the sun is settin on our world soon ppl like us will b e looking at the lawn not from the green side but from the roots,go to bingo ,chek out some of the bags that hang out there . chek out the legion, there not all 80.my big brother told me that the best place to pick up chiks was church cause there mothers think your a good guy and they relax a bit . or a better way is to post on c s lots and get your personality out there .no whining and wingeing. be up attitude. nother thing , canada forums is pretty dead,but i always go here cause im can. the good place is international forums . a lot of ppl from can went inter and never posted here again. you can tell cause there is a look counter on the site ,they look but never say a thing. cmon ppl post and talk befor the can forum goes completly dead.
thus sayth gordy the old sillyfosifer
thus endith my sunday morning once in a while rant
4 spend some time gitten to kno her
5 do what feels good for both
6 whaddya doin readin this git out there and have some fun , the sun is settin on our world soon ppl like us will b e looking at the lawn not from the green side but from the roots,go to bingo ,chek out some of the bags that hang out there . chek out the legion, there not all 80.my big brother told me that the best place to pick up chiks was church cause there mothers think your a good guy and they relax a bit . or a better way is to post on c s lots and get your personality out there .no whining and wingeing. be up attitude. nother thing , canada forums is pretty dead,but i always go here cause im can. the good place is international forums . a lot of ppl from can went inter and never posted here again. you can tell cause there is a look counter on the site ,they look but never say a thing. cmon ppl post and talk befor the can forum goes completly dead.
thus sayth gordy the old sillyfosifer
thus endith my sunday morning once in a while rant
How long after divorce a person takes .... depends on the person. Healing must take place before you find the right what you are looking for. As annoying as that sounds, it's true.
Please continue to post on the forums. Some people have found it helps them vent, learn, heal, and in some cases find that special person. For others, it helped them through some rough stuff, and helped them be able to meet someone. You might not meet that special someone on line, but being here can help.
Don't worry about ranting, you might be surprised how many other people feel the same way.
Good luck in your search.
Please continue to post on the forums. Some people have found it helps them vent, learn, heal, and in some cases find that special person. For others, it helped them through some rough stuff, and helped them be able to meet someone. You might not meet that special someone on line, but being here can help.
Don't worry about ranting, you might be surprised how many other people feel the same way.
Good luck in your search.
thank you for your reply....it really means a lot to me...
i am glad you have found your match!
kds
i am glad you have found your match!
kds
Oh my God, I picked the wrong emoticon .. I wanted to say it takes forever to get over divorce. When your health fails you even get more miserable and lonely. There is no hope of moving on.
After my mom died of cancer my Dad kept company with a lady who was there helping him through the bad times. After 6 months they moved in together and 6 months later got married. He felt lonely and did not want to be by himself and it did work out for them.
phoenixrising1: WE HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HOW LONG I SHOULD WAIT....AT LEAST A YEAR IS THE FEELING OF THE CS FRIENDS....
WHAT ARE THE THINGS THAT MUST HAPPEN BEFORE I SHOULD FEEL WHOLE SO AS NOT TO BRING TOO MANY EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS INTO THE NEXT WITH ME... (BAGGAGE)..WHAT ABOUT THE HUGE HOLE AND THE LONELY NIGHTS...WHY DO I NEED TO WAIT NOW WHEN I NEED HER MOST NOW?
1 LETTING GO AND FORGIVING
2 GIVING UP ALL OUR HOPES AND DREAMS....LETTING GO
3?
4?
5?
WHAT IS THE PROCESS....TO PREPARE FOR A NEW LOVING RELATIONSHIP??
THANK YOU
KDS
WHAT ARE THE THINGS THAT MUST HAPPEN BEFORE I SHOULD FEEL WHOLE SO AS NOT TO BRING TOO MANY EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS INTO THE NEXT WITH ME... (BAGGAGE)..WHAT ABOUT THE HUGE HOLE AND THE LONELY NIGHTS...WHY DO I NEED TO WAIT NOW WHEN I NEED HER MOST NOW?
1 LETTING GO AND FORGIVING
2 GIVING UP ALL OUR HOPES AND DREAMS....LETTING GO
3?
4?
5?
WHAT IS THE PROCESS....TO PREPARE FOR A NEW LOVING RELATIONSHIP??
THANK YOU
KDS
Okay, my two cents worth...Something like a marriage is a huge part of one's life and when that marriage dissolves, along with it goes lost hopes, dreams, wishes and wants. Most people grieve this loss, in a very similar way that one would grieve a death - because it is a very significant loss. Thus, most will go through all the stages of grief, in various degrees. And that is okay, because it means you are human and it means you feel. In my opinion, I think you get to the point where you really feel nothing at all - the anger is gone - kind of indifferent, you know. You can see that there were good times and love at one time and that for what ever reason, it did not work - you are you and deserve to continue on your life's journey. And when you are whole and healthy and can say it doesn't matter any more, when you have let go - you are ready! 
And there is no time line....But it does happen!!!Readybake101: Oh my God, I picked the wrong emoticon .. I wanted to say it takes forever to get over divorce. When your health fails you even get more miserable and lonely. There is no hope of moving on.
please see the comments posted by my new good friend gordy 22222 found in this thread..good looking
thanks for your reply...it means a lot to me.. a whole lot .
kitty01: After my mom died of cancer my Dad kept company with a lady who was there helping him through the bad times. After 6 months they moved in together and 6 months later got married. He felt lonely and did not want to be by himself and it did work out for them.
thanks and it did work out for them
eyesthatknowwhy: Okay, my two cents worth...Something like a marriage is a huge part of one's life and when that marriage dissolves, along with it goes lost hopes, dreams, wishes and wants. Most people grieve this loss, in a very similar way that one would grieve a death - because it is a very significant loss. Thus, most will go through all the stages of grief, in various degrees. And that is okay, because it means you are human and it means you feel. In my opinion, I think you get to the point where you really feel nothing at all - the anger is gone - kind of indifferent, you know. You can see that there were good times and love at one time and that for what ever reason, it did not work - you are you and deserve to continue on your life's journey. And when you are whole and healthy and can say it doesn't matter any more, when you have let go - you are ready! And there is no time line....But it does happen!!!
thankyou again you reinforce the need to let go... i am going to have a letting go party...break the empty 25 year anniversary wine bottles and other acts of letting go....
thanks a lot
Been there,Done that,yadayada!! One thing for sure is,don't go from one EXTREME to another.Don't go and join a Cult group,easy on the booze,(Impairds REALLY SUCK),don't go all religious,if you haven't gotten rid of the anger yet,go out in the woods and scream your head off,it really works!Everything in moderation for a while,don't think that the Next girl that comes along will be "THE ONE" because you're going to have a few rebounders!
There's only so much self pity
and blame,that your friends can handle,so don't keep this up for too long
There's going to be alot of "Dating" going on,so get in the stream of things and swim! The "PERFECT ONE" won't just show up at your door,(unless your buddies got a couple hundred bucks together,nudge nudge)so you have to put yourself out there,or here!
Best of luck,'cause we're all looking for the same thing!
MIKE!
There's only so much self pity
and blame,that your friends can handle,so don't keep this up for too long There's going to be alot of "Dating" going on,so get in the stream of things and swim! The "PERFECT ONE" won't just show up at your door,(unless your buddies got a couple hundred bucks together,nudge nudge)so you have to put yourself out there,or here!Best of luck,'cause we're all looking for the same thing!
MIKE!
Lakehurstshifter: Been there,Done that,yadayada!! One thing for sure is,don't go from one EXTREME to another.Don't go and join a Cult group,easy on the booze,(Impairds REALLY SUCK),don't go all religious,if you haven't gotten rid of the anger yet,go out in the woods and scream your head off,it really works!Everything in moderation for a while,don't think that the Next girl that comes along will be "THE ONE" because you're going to have a few rebounders!
There's only so much self pity and blame,that your friends can handle,so don't keep this up for too long There's going to be alot of "Dating" going on,so get in the stream of things and swim! The "PERFECT ONE" won't just show up at your door,(unless your buddies got a couple hundred bucks together,nudge nudge)so you have to put yourself out there,or here!
Best of luck,'cause we're all looking for the same thing!
MIKE!
There's only so much self pity and blame,that your friends can handle,so don't keep this up for too long There's going to be alot of "Dating" going on,so get in the stream of things and swim! The "PERFECT ONE" won't just show up at your door,(unless your buddies got a couple hundred bucks together,nudge nudge)so you have to put yourself out there,or here!
Best of luck,'cause we're all looking for the same thing!
MIKE!
thanks mike
i really agree with you...
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WHAT ARE THE THINGS THAT MUST HAPPEN BEFORE I SHOULD FEEL WHOLE SO AS NOT TO BRING TOO MANY EMOTIONAL PROBLEMS INTO THE NEXT WITH ME... (BAGGAGE)..WHAT ABOUT THE HUGE HOLE AND THE LONELY NIGHTS...WHY DO I NEED TO WAIT NOW WHEN I NEED HER MOST NOW?
1 LETTING GO AND FORGIVING
2 GIVING UP ALL OUR HOPES AND DREAMS....LETTING GO
3?
4?
5?
WHAT IS THE PROCESS....TO PREPARE FOR A NEW LOVING RELATIONSHIP??
THANK YOU
KDS