How Deceiving Can You Be? ( Archived) (15)

Jun 1, 2009 12:59 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
My daughter just found out this morning that the father of her 2 yr. old had gone and put in papers to have custody of her child. The court date is this Thursday and she knew nothing about it, she went to put in custody papers herself as he was threatening to take her to court.

This father has never been there for his child when she needed medical help and is only doing this as his new girlfriend wants to have the child as she is expecting a child from him also and she wants them to be a family and live altogether. At this time they do not live in the same place.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:01 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
He had filed in January and somehow never told her, the court told her that he said she had been served. He even has a lawyer.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:05 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
Who will be the better parent?
Do they live in the same state?
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Jun 1, 2009 1:10 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
pubwrite08
pubwrite08pubwrite08Columbus, Georgia USA14 Threads 2,451 Posts
Kitty I do not know where your daughter lives, but most times the parent filing has to relocate to where the child lives in the US. I do not know where your daughter lives, but if she has physical custody, and CPS can not find fault in the way the grandbaby is living then... I doubt if he would get custody.

I have learned from experience that a man's wife/gf can make them look dumb in court.doh
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Jun 1, 2009 1:13 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
I think some women want control of the man and that meens his children also.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:14 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
He gets every girl he has dated pregnant. When my daughter was pregnant another girl got pregnant a couple of months later and he left her to date our neighbour and wanted her to have a baby too. He has a 9 yr. old daughter he has not seen since she was 2 and says because the mother will not allow him. When Faith needed to go to the hospital he could not take her as he needed to pick up a wallet his girlfriend had left at school and when Faith needed to get a machine to help her breath he could not drive her as he needed to take a shower. My daughter's friends helped her when she needed not him.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:16 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
pubwrite08: Kitty I do not know where your daughter lives, but most times the parent filing has to relocate to where the child lives in the US. I do not know where your daughter lives, but if she has physical custody, and CPS can not find fault in the way the grandbaby is living then... I doubt if he would get custody.

I have learned from experience that a man's wife/gf can make them look dumb in court.


They both live here in Edmonton, and my daughter never got anything official to say she has custody.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:17 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
KajunQueen
KajunQueenKajunQueenSomewhere, Louisiana USA18 Threads 630 Posts
Sounds like another "use the child to get back at the wifey" story..He is most likely all talk and no action,it takes alot to get custody of a child from the mother,so,if she has been a good mother,and there is no neglect,there is a slim to none chance of him actually getting custody...Now if there is past neglect or anything like that,there is a chance it could happen..He will most likely get visitation ....
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Jun 1, 2009 1:18 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
The strange thing is my daughter's boyfriend is an old boyfriend of our neighbours who is close and also dated the dad. She is telling him a lot of things that are not true to help him, so now we are having problems with this neighbour again.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:19 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
pubwrite08
pubwrite08pubwrite08Columbus, Georgia USA14 Threads 2,451 Posts
JUst tell your daughter to keep her cool, he sounds... not crazy but unstable as far as parenting goes. Suggest your daughter start collecting names and dates of the people who help her and not him. Lawyer or no lawyer he has to prove your daughter unfit, and if you grnbaby has any special health needs. Get the physician to state that It is imperative that the child remains with her mother. Espescially if your daughter is the only one that has been caring for this child. JMHO
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Jun 1, 2009 1:21 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
pubwrite08
pubwrite08pubwrite08Columbus, Georgia USA14 Threads 2,451 Posts
That can be handled too. Names and dates. A decent judge will see through all that madness I am sure.
kitty01: The strange thing is my daughter's boyfriend is an old boyfriend of our neighbours who is close and also dated the dad. She is telling him a lot of things that are not true to help him, so now we are having problems with this neighbour again.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:22 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
pubwrite08
pubwrite08pubwrite08Columbus, Georgia USA14 Threads 2,451 Posts
She has "Physical" custody. The child lives with her.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:26 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
When Faith went for her hearing test and we found out she is deaf he said do not expect me to help with the cost as I have a new baby coming that I need to take care of.

Lucky we found out if she needs hearing aids they are covered.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:31 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
She NOW needs to go to parenting classes and get some counseling to show she is doing her best to be the best parent she can be. It is never to late to change the cards you have been dealt.
As long as she is making the effort the courts will know she is doing whatever it takes to keep her child.
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Jun 1, 2009 1:59 PM CST How Deceiving Can You Be?
kitty01
kitty01kitty01St. Albert, Alberta Canada244 Threads 1 Polls 5,310 Posts
Thanks for listening, just needed to vent, could not believe he did this as he can visit anytime he wants.
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