Do you like to wear the pants (53)
Assets52: in a relationship?
I have a friend who says she likes to be the boss in a relationship but recently ended seeing a guy because he could never make a decision about such things as what to have for dinner or where to go for recreational outings.
My question is how can she have both?
I have a friend who says she likes to be the boss in a relationship but recently ended seeing a guy because he could never make a decision about such things as what to have for dinner or where to go for recreational outings.
My question is how can she have both?
Wearing the pants in the family and having an indecisive partner are two different things.
I believe in equal, but I too have in the past broken up with men wno don't have any balls to speak up. I abhor the "whatever you want, dear" type. Gees get a backbone and have an opinion.
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...See...We Men....just can't win can we.....
J.D
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I was thinking of both of you (SV and Virgio) being the same personality type as my friend so I was hoping you both help me understand this.
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
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I wear shorts most of the time...
I'm a 50%-50% believer in decision making. To be honest, I don't sweat the small stuff but I am very involved with major decisions.
I'm a 50%-50% believer in decision making. To be honest, I don't sweat the small stuff but I am very involved with major decisions.
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I should add that my friends personality is one of the major reasons why I hired her. She is decisive and in control of our establishment at all times.
She's fun to be around and when she is working I don't have to worry about getting called into work. She can handle it.
I just am not sure how a relationship would work.
She's fun to be around and when she is working I don't have to worry about getting called into work. She can handle it.
I just am not sure how a relationship would work.
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Assets52: I was thinking of both of you (SV and Virgio) being the same personality type as my friend so I was hoping you both help me understand this.
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
If you find it hard to let your partner make a decision, because you are afraid of losing control, then it is you that has the issue.
Whatever way it hangs, man or woman - ANYONE who is afraid of sitting back, and letting their partner make the decision, is either insecure in themselves, insecure in their partner's commitment and feeling, or has a worrying desire to control everything in their lives.
Any of those options needs looking into..
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Assets52: I was thinking of both of you (SV and Virgio) being the same personality type as my friend so I was hoping you both help me understand this.
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
Some people want their partner to make all the decisions, that way they are never wrong......
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petalbabe: If you find it hard to let your partner make a decision, because you are afraid of losing control, then it is you that has the issue.
Whatever way it hangs, man or woman - ANYONE who is afraid of sitting back, and letting their partner make the decision, is either insecure in themselves, insecure in their partner's commitment and feeling, or has a worrying desire to control everything in their lives.
Any of those options needs looking into..
Whatever way it hangs, man or woman - ANYONE who is afraid of sitting back, and letting their partner make the decision, is either insecure in themselves, insecure in their partner's commitment and feeling, or has a worrying desire to control everything in their lives.
Any of those options needs looking into..
She doesn't give me the impression that she is insecure AT ALL. Overly confident describes her better.
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Assets52: She doesn't give me the impression that she is insecure AT ALL. Overly confident describes her better.
Overly Confident quite often hides insecurity...
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Assets52: I was thinking of both of you (SV and Virgio) being the same personality type as my friend so I was hoping you both help me understand this.
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
....On a serious note,and I will stress this point I do not mean this in a nasty or in a spiteful way....this is the reason,on why I am still single here in New Zealand,so I can only relate to New Zealand....and to be honest here....and I will stay single until I leave New Zealand....The New Zealand Woman wants be on the whole,totally dominate in the so called relationships,and if you don't agree,you are considered to be an 'a**hole from hell' ......and that I will never accept..I will never, ever be 'Dominated',as simple as that..a real and true relationship is in my opinion base on an 'equal partnership'....where both parties compliment each other on there strength and weakness....thank you for time,nice meeting you
J.D
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Assets52:
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
How can you allow a partner to make a decision if you prefer to be in control?
Just make their life such hell that they will always decide your way, just for peace.
My ex was really skilled at that, with an uncanny knack for never letting her tyranical true nature show to outsiders.
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Assets52: She doesn't give me the impression that she is insecure AT ALL. Overly confident describes her better.
You stated in an earlier post "she" likes to be the boss. So to me that means in control, in turn very secure. One can be very confident and not want to wear the pants in the family. I am one of "those"....
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SensualVixen: You stated in an earlier post "she" likes to be the boss. So to me that means in control, in turn very secure. One can be very confident and not want to wear the pants in the family. I am one of "those"....
I am also very secure, yet desire equal participation.
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petalbabe: If you find it hard to let your partner make a decision, because you are afraid of losing control, then it is you that has the issue.
Whatever way it hangs, man or woman - ANYONE who is afraid of sitting back, and letting their partner make the decision, is either insecure in themselves, insecure in their partner's commitment and feeling, or has a worrying desire to control everything in their lives.
Any of those options needs looking into..
Whatever way it hangs, man or woman - ANYONE who is afraid of sitting back, and letting their partner make the decision, is either insecure in themselves, insecure in their partner's commitment and feeling, or has a worrying desire to control everything in their lives.
Any of those options needs looking into..
Totally disagree with this statement.
It doesn't really even make sense to me.
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RayfromUSA: Just make their life such hell that they will always decide your way, just for peace.
My ex was really skilled at that, with an uncanny knack for never letting her tyranical true nature show to outsiders.
My ex was really skilled at that, with an uncanny knack for never letting her tyranical true nature show to outsiders.
Oh that's not good either.
I'm glad she's your ex now ... no one should have to live like that.
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petalbabe: Overly Confident quite often hides insecurity...
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Assets52: Oh that's not good either.
I'm glad she's your ex now ... no one should have to live like that.
Im wearing my pants right now, but its more fun if we both have them off.I'm glad she's your ex now ... no one should have to live like that.
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drivenbysound: Totally disagree with this statement.
It doesn't really even make sense to me.
It doesn't really even make sense to me.
Nor do any of your posts, but I dont broadcast it.
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petalbabe: Nor do any of your posts, but I dont broadcast it.
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I have a friend who says she likes to be the boss in a relationship but recently ended seeing a guy because he could never make a decision about such things as what to have for dinner or where to go for recreational outings.
My question is how can she have both?