dearest ladies on CS, a question from a knight ( Archived) (24)

I've just been wondering. whe you are out on a date with a man, is it becoming less common for the man to open doors for you, allow you to enter a room first (ala the old saying, Ladies first) and basically show good, clean, kind manners?

I find it is not uncommon at all with men my age.

I'm always more impressed by those who do...I appreciate a man with manners...makes me feel cared for - great first impression.
So..I say...be polite gentleman!
I'll be in NH at the end of the month...by the by...Sunapee NH

:bye:

hiya Pete!

Honestly? I don't need someone to open a door for me, allow me to enter a room first....manners? of course...but I would rather relax, have some fun and just laugh and enjoy spending time with someone. I would hope he worries more about if my seat at the ball game was one where I can see the game, if I want him to wipe the mustard off my chin...if the new book we decided to read at the same time was interesting to me...if we got enough bacon and eggs for the camping trip...if i have enough bait for our fishing outting...is the blanket soft enough for the picnic...

Wine and dine and being all proper can be fun too from time to time but I would much rather we both do something that is just FUN for us both. If it's a first date...there is always coffee and a piece of pie at some downhome cafe after the fun stuff.

You might be thinking *but a dinner date we can get to know one another* BUT to spend time with someone watching them laugh, be spontaneous, tell a joke, be silly, relax and be comfortable and just be themselves...can tell a lot more about a person than sitting across from each other trying to impress with words and propriety.

Door opening, letting a lady enter the room first, walking closest to the road, on the pavement, are all part of being polite and courteous.
None of it costs anything, and it, (in my opinion) is the little things that make the difference.

You dont have to be dating to be intitled to that level of politeness.

It is traditional.

What makes it worthwhile, is if the lady you are opening the door for, says thank you, because then it shows that she appreciates your good manners.

I love being treated like a lady!!!!!!!!!! If the guy I'm with does'nt----I won't be with him long.......
But that is just me.............

here, let me get that mustard on your chin....

I enjoy being treated like a lady.


The other day, while cutting the grass, I had to make a quick run for more gasoline, I looked dirty and sweaty, however, when I finished pumping the gas and went to pay for it, an older gentleman opened the door for me.

I turned and told him how much I appreciated his thoughtfulness.






Times are changing and so are the things that young men are taught.

My son will be courteous because that's the example I set and it's an expectation I place upon him even now. Good manners cost little, and if it can really make even one person's day, it is all worth the price!