I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men to TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
sweetowen: I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men do TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
I read a neuroscience book that stated that the memory center for men's brains is larger in the right hemisphere, and the women's in the left. therefore, we remember the gist of things (the big, meaningful picture, and they the details). Sheds light on arguments and also why we are always trying to figure the creatures out
hmm i hear what youre saying yes we work overtime to get to solution attempting to do twice the work in effort to get past whatever it is...we do well we try, to do theirs and ours feeding them options of what they might be thinking?
at least thats what happens with me
i have learned-only with this one certain person tho to let him process how he does and just sit with my feelings he always comes back and discusses it and has obviously thot it thru and has come up with some ideas
its new behavior for me but i sure like it
i always need to know where i stand-that is finally fading which only brings me more peace
avecaim: I read a neuroscience book that stated that the memory center for men's brains is larger in the right hemisphere, and the women's in the left. therefore, we remember the gist of things (the big, meaningful picture, and they the details). Sheds light on arguments and also why we are always trying to figure the creatures out
sweetowen: I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men to TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
Am I the only one who feels like this?
i had to die laughing.
Been waiting for all that, all the weekend, i even slept on the internet, didn't want to mis anything
mindfful: hmm i hear what youre saying yes we work overtime to get to solution attempting to do twice the work in effort to get past whatever it is...we do well we try, to do theirs and ours feeding them options of what they might be thinking?
at least thats what happens with me
i have learned-only with this one certain person tho to let him process how he does and just sit with my feelings he always comes back and discusses it and has obviously thot it thru and has come up with some ideas
its new behavior for me but i sure like it
i always need to know where i stand-that is finally fading which only brings me more peace
That's the part that drives me the craziest. All I want to know is are we or aren't we?
sweetowen: I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men to TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!
We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
I know a little bit about what has happened to you and it doesn't surprise me if you are analyzing and reading between the lines. It is your caution tool and there's nothing wrong with it IMO. Don't let it drive you crazy. Use it to your benefit.
It just always seems to feel like I'm playing a chess match when I'm in a relationship. If he says this, I should do that... if he does this... I'll say that. This is ridiculous. I've just decided to let it be. Nothing I can do right now anyway. Plus, I'm probably reading too much into it anyway.
I know a little bit about what has happened to you and it doesn't surprise me if you are analyzing and reading between the lines. It is your caution tool and there's nothing wrong with it IMO. Don't let it drive you crazy. Use it to your benefit.
sweetowen: It just always seems to feel like I'm playing a chess match when I'm in a relationship. If he says this, I should do that... if he does this... I'll say that. This is ridiculous. I've just decided to let it be. Nothing I can do right now anyway. Plus, I'm probably reading too much into it anyway.
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We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?
Am I the only one who feels like this?