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Jun 15, 2009 11:44 AM CST I think I get it now!
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men to TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!

We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?

Am I the only one who feels like this? dunno
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Jun 15, 2009 11:45 AM CST I think I get it now!
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
sweetowen: I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men do TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!

We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?

Am I the only one who feels like this?
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Jun 15, 2009 11:47 AM CST I think I get it now!
avecaim
avecaimavecaimSan Jose, California USA9 Threads 1 Polls 4,084 Posts
I read a neuroscience book that stated that the memory center for men's brains is larger in the right hemisphere, and the women's in the left. therefore, we remember the gist of things (the big, meaningful picture, and they the details). Sheds light on arguments and also why we are always trying to figure the creatures out laugh
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Jun 15, 2009 11:49 AM CST I think I get it now!
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
hmm i hear what youre saying
yes we work overtime to get to solution
attempting to do twice the work in effort to
get past whatever it is...we do well we try,
to do theirs and ours
feeding them options of what they might be thinking?

at least thats what happens with me

i have learned-only with this one certain person thoroll eyes
to let him process how he does and just sit with my feelings
he always comes back and discusses it and has obviously thot it thru and has come up with some ideas

its new behavior for me but i sure like it

i always need to know where i stand-that is finally fading
which only brings me more peace
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Jun 15, 2009 11:50 AM CST I think I get it now!
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
avecaim: I read a neuroscience book that stated that the memory center for men's brains is larger in the right hemisphere, and the women's in the left. therefore, we remember the gist of things (the big, meaningful picture, and they the details). Sheds light on arguments and also why we are always trying to figure the creatures out


oh thank you miss scientificrolling on the floor laughing

i mean yes im sure youre right grin hug
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Jun 15, 2009 11:51 AM CST I think I get it now!
whaaat
whaaatwhaaatden, South Holland Netherlands31 Threads 5,747 Posts
sweetowen: I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men to TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!

We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?

Am I the only one who feels like this?


i had to die laughing.



Been waiting for all that, all the weekend, i even slept on the internet, didn't want to mis anything laugh

Girl u got it all right. lmao rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Jun 15, 2009 11:52 AM CST I think I get it now!
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
mindfful: hmm i hear what youre saying
yes we work overtime to get to solution
attempting to do twice the work in effort to
get past whatever it is...we do well we try,
to do theirs and ours
feeding them options of what they might be thinking?

at least thats what happens with me

i have learned-only with this one certain person tho
to let him process how he does and just sit with my feelings
he always comes back and discusses it and has obviously thot it thru and has come up with some ideas

its new behavior for me but i sure like it

i always need to know where i stand-that is finally fading
which only brings me more peace


That's the part that drives me the craziest. All I want to know is are we or aren't we? dunno
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Jun 15, 2009 11:52 AM CST I think I get it now!
whaaat
whaaatwhaaatden, South Holland Netherlands31 Threads 5,747 Posts
sweetowen: I've often wondered why it is that we women seem to analyze everything men to TO DEATH. I can't stand when I start to analyze everything. But with events that have happened to me over the weekend (I'll not go into full detail here), I've come to understand, at least partially, why we do!

We tend to over-analyze because when we do something wrong, men clam up & won't talk to let us know exactly what it is that we've done wrong. If we don't know, we can't work on changing it, now can we?

Am I the only one who feels like this?


hi wave

how was the weekend sweety grin blushing
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Jun 15, 2009 11:53 AM CST I think I get it now!
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
whaaat: i had to die laughing.
Been waiting for all that, all the weekend, i even slept on the internet, didn't want to mis anything

Girl u got it all right. lmao
rolling on the floor laughing

poor sweetcomfort
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Jun 15, 2009 11:54 AM CST I think I get it now!
avecaim
avecaimavecaimSan Jose, California USA9 Threads 1 Polls 4,084 Posts
whaaat: i had to die laughing.
Been waiting for all that, all the weekend, i even slept on the internet, didn't want to mis anything

Girl u got it all right. lmao


THEY don't really know either -- my theory laugh
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Jun 15, 2009 11:55 AM CST I think I get it now!
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
whaaat: hi

how was the weekend sweety


Well, it was fabulous... until I messed up. Then it sucked.
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Jun 15, 2009 11:55 AM CST I think I get it now!
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
avecaim: THEY don't really know either -- my theory


Brilliant observation! thumbs up
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Jun 15, 2009 11:57 AM CST I think I get it now!
avecaim
avecaimavecaimSan Jose, California USA9 Threads 1 Polls 4,084 Posts
sweetowen: Brilliant observation!


well, gotta love em wink
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Jun 15, 2009 12:08 PM CST I think I get it now!
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
sweetowen: Well, it was fabulous... until I messed up. Then it sucked.
you have mail and you dont suck
some old tools are wearing out
dont worry they will be replaced
you aint dead you can still grow boneheadgift
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Jun 15, 2009 12:09 PM CST I think I get it now!
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
avecaim: well, gotta love em
cant kill em


and get away with it anyway

forensics they have these dayssigh
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Jun 15, 2009 12:14 PM CST I think I get it now!
Snuggs09
Snuggs09Snuggs09Somewhere, New Jersey USA128 Threads 1 Polls 2,615 Posts
Hi Sweet....wave

I know a little bit about what has happened to you and it doesn't surprise me if you are analyzing and reading between the lines. It is your caution tool and there's nothing wrong with it IMO. Don't let it drive you crazy. Use it to your benefit.hug teddybear bouquet
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Jun 15, 2009 12:17 PM CST I think I get it now!
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
It just always seems to feel like I'm playing a chess match when I'm in a relationship. If he says this, I should do that... if he does this... I'll say that. This is ridiculous. I've just decided to let it be. Nothing I can do right now anyway. Plus, I'm probably reading too much into it anyway.
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Jun 15, 2009 12:22 PM CST I think I get it now!
sweetowen
sweetowensweetowenSomewhere, Pennsylvania USA289 Threads 5 Polls 8,850 Posts
Snuggs09: Hi Sweet....

I know a little bit about what has happened to you and it doesn't surprise me if you are analyzing and reading between the lines. It is your caution tool and there's nothing wrong with it IMO. Don't let it drive you crazy. Use it to your benefit.


Thank you Snuggs. Much appreciated. hug sad flower
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Jun 15, 2009 12:24 PM CST I think I get it now!
whaaat
whaaatwhaaatden, South Holland Netherlands31 Threads 5,747 Posts
mindfful: poor sweet


she is trying to dogde us! confused nah, we want the details cool we ain't going anywhere.

Hi wave hug
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Jun 15, 2009 12:24 PM CST I think I get it now!
mindfful
mindffulmindffulChicago, Illinois USA235 Threads 8 Polls 18,996 Posts
sweetowen: It just always seems to feel like I'm playing a chess match when I'm in a relationship. If he says this, I should do that... if he does this... I'll say that. This is ridiculous. I've just decided to let it be. Nothing I can do right now anyway. Plus, I'm probably reading too much into it anyway.


naaah ya think?laugh

keep breathing

catch ya later im outhug
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