Wasted time or wasted time. (41)
singleohioguy: Ok this is my questions / opinion. Does anyone other than me feel that talking to someone on here for weeks / months at a time, then deciding to trade phone numbers or go on that nerve racking first date, just to find out that there is absolutely NO attraction, is a complete waste of time? Wouldn't it be better to talk to them a few days to get some kind of ground work established then meet in a very public place to see if you even WANT to go out on that first date?
I personally have no problem giving someone my phone number so that we can talk or txt because, you can tell a lot about someone by talking to them on the phone and if you don't like them or don't want to talk to them you can just ignore the phone calls / txt messages just like you would a phone salesman. I know other people don't like to do that, so maybe that's just me. I would rather go out and meet someone soon after we start talking as to cut out the wasted time in liking them online and then finding out they were nothing like what I thought they would be in person.
The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there. Again maybe this is just me. Online when you meet someone the photo that you see could just be a head shot or a glamor photo and the conversations that you have normally have well thought out replies, and when you finally do meet them, they are nothing at all what you expected. So you just spent all that time just to find out you have NO chemistry. I have met a few people after talking to them for a while. I have also met people within the first few days of our first contact online. I guess in my experience it's better to meet quick and then go from there because you will know if you want to go out again.
On the other end of the spectrum if you spend a lot of time getting to know someone online and then you meet them in person and it turns out to be the perfect match don't you feel that you just wasted a whole lot of time just talking when you could have spent it together?
What's your thoughts?
Ok, let the flaming begin!
I personally have no problem giving someone my phone number so that we can talk or txt because, you can tell a lot about someone by talking to them on the phone and if you don't like them or don't want to talk to them you can just ignore the phone calls / txt messages just like you would a phone salesman. I know other people don't like to do that, so maybe that's just me. I would rather go out and meet someone soon after we start talking as to cut out the wasted time in liking them online and then finding out they were nothing like what I thought they would be in person.
The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there. Again maybe this is just me. Online when you meet someone the photo that you see could just be a head shot or a glamor photo and the conversations that you have normally have well thought out replies, and when you finally do meet them, they are nothing at all what you expected. So you just spent all that time just to find out you have NO chemistry. I have met a few people after talking to them for a while. I have also met people within the first few days of our first contact online. I guess in my experience it's better to meet quick and then go from there because you will know if you want to go out again.
On the other end of the spectrum if you spend a lot of time getting to know someone online and then you meet them in person and it turns out to be the perfect match don't you feel that you just wasted a whole lot of time just talking when you could have spent it together?
What's your thoughts?
Ok, let the flaming begin!
More times than I care to remember.....
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Yep! Totally agree.....And what happens back to square one, all over again.....and then you wonder....?????
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Roxaan: Yep! Totally agree.....And what happens back to square one, all over again.....and then you wonder....?????
I'm kinda stuck at square one.....it's a bit like Monopoly I cant seem to get past GO......
but then I like it on square one....it's safe here......
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stefonline: I'm kinda stuck at square one.....it's a bit like Monopoly I cant seem to get past GO...... but then I like it on square one....it's safe here......
Yep! I hear ya.......
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Roxaan: Yep! I hear ya.......
So glad someone finally hears me.......
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singleohioguy: I guess in my experience it's better to meet quick and then go from there because you will know if you want to go out again.
Absolutely, if only it's within reasonable driving distance (300 miles is still reasonable driving distance for me, LOL)
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The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there
Personally, I would not give my number or email to someone I just met in the grocery store. However, I agree that you should meet soon after chatting online, to cut to the chase on if you have any chemistry or are interested in going any further. No one wants to waste their time, and if you both are honest online, you can decide if the person's basics match before you even agree to meet.
Personally, I would not give my number or email to someone I just met in the grocery store. However, I agree that you should meet soon after chatting online, to cut to the chase on if you have any chemistry or are interested in going any further. No one wants to waste their time, and if you both are honest online, you can decide if the person's basics match before you even agree to meet.
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I will never date a woman on here till after I have read her profile and saw her photo and we have chatted for awhile going over our profiles in detail... So no... I don't consider it a waste of time cause time I got... Or do I???
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In response to: Ok this is my questions / opinion. Does anyone other than me feel that talking to someone on here for weeks / months at a time, then deciding to trade phone numbers or go on that nerve racking first date, just to find out that there is absolutely NO attraction, is a complete waste of time? Wouldn't it be better to talk to them a few days to get some kind of ground work established then meet in a very public place to see if you even WANT to go out on that first date?
I personally have no problem giving someone my phone number so that we can talk or txt because, you can tell a lot about someone by talking to them on the phone and if you don't like them or don't want to talk to them you can just ignore the phone calls / txt messages just like you would a phone salesman. I know other people don't like to do that, so maybe that's just me. I would rather go out and meet someone soon after we start talking as to cut out the wasted time in liking them online and then finding out they were nothing like what I thought they would be in person.
The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there. Again maybe this is just me. Online when you meet someone the photo that you see could just be a head shot or a glamor photo and the conversations that you have normally have well thought out replies, and when you finally do meet them, they are nothing at all what you expected. So you just spent all that time just to find out you have NO chemistry. I have met a few people after talking to them for a while. I have also met people within the first few days of our first contact online. I guess in my experience it's better to meet quick and then go from there because you will know if you want to go out again.
On the other end of the spectrum if you spend a lot of time getting to know someone online and then you meet them in person and it turns out to be the perfect match don't you feel that you just wasted a whole lot of time just talking when you could have spent it together?
What's your thoughts?
Ok, let the flaming begin!
I personally have no problem giving someone my phone number so that we can talk or txt because, you can tell a lot about someone by talking to them on the phone and if you don't like them or don't want to talk to them you can just ignore the phone calls / txt messages just like you would a phone salesman. I know other people don't like to do that, so maybe that's just me. I would rather go out and meet someone soon after we start talking as to cut out the wasted time in liking them online and then finding out they were nothing like what I thought they would be in person.
The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there. Again maybe this is just me. Online when you meet someone the photo that you see could just be a head shot or a glamor photo and the conversations that you have normally have well thought out replies, and when you finally do meet them, they are nothing at all what you expected. So you just spent all that time just to find out you have NO chemistry. I have met a few people after talking to them for a while. I have also met people within the first few days of our first contact online. I guess in my experience it's better to meet quick and then go from there because you will know if you want to go out again.
On the other end of the spectrum if you spend a lot of time getting to know someone online and then you meet them in person and it turns out to be the perfect match don't you feel that you just wasted a whole lot of time just talking when you could have spent it together?
What's your thoughts?
Ok, let the flaming begin!
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I think that I like to talk for awhile...mainly because I have to travel too far to see someone. The times that I have met on the spur of the moment were not the best.
JMO, but I feel like if a woman agrees to meet right off the bat, the guy probably feels that she wants more than to just meet.
Am I wrong??????
JMO, but I feel like if a woman agrees to meet right off the bat, the guy probably feels that she wants more than to just meet.
Am I wrong??????
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I dunno my pictures are very true to what I look like. I post a variety from different angles I suppose. I always ask for more pics when I start talking to someone...
I guess if you are basing it solely on appearance and not all the numerous emails, phones calls and text messages then yes its a waste of time. I think I judge based on pics, emails and phone calls to decide even if I want to meet up.
Errr...maybe that's just me.
I guess if you are basing it solely on appearance and not all the numerous emails, phones calls and text messages then yes its a waste of time. I think I judge based on pics, emails and phone calls to decide even if I want to meet up.
Errr...maybe that's just me.
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azucarmorena: I dunno my pictures are very true to what I look like. I post a variety from different angles I suppose. I always ask for more pics when I start talking to someone...
I guess if you are basing it solely on appearance and not all the numerous emails, phones calls and text messages then yes its a waste of time. I think I judge based on pics, emails and phone calls to decide even if I want to meet up.
Errr...maybe that's just me.
I guess if you are basing it solely on appearance and not all the numerous emails, phones calls and text messages then yes its a waste of time. I think I judge based on pics, emails and phone calls to decide even if I want to meet up.
Errr...maybe that's just me.
what angle is this pic???
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LethalLove: errr...excuse me?
is the current pic a bad hair day???
is the current pic a bad hair day???
I'm trying a new hair do and makeup. I heard it was all the rage.
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oranges2apples: what angle is this pic???
Hello handsome!
This is how I look in candle-light!
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azucarmorena: Hello handsome!
This is how I look in candle-light!
This is how I look in candle-light!
better pass me the jack one more time sweety
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oranges2apples: better pass me the jack one more time sweety
Don't tell people my tricks! Its the only way I can get some these days!
Here ya go
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I dont have the answer, to i do believe the quicker the better that way you DO KNOW if to contionue or run,,,, Not drag it out for 6 months the she dumps you.....
Uh yea , that dont work well
Uh yea , that dont work well
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HotrodLarrys: I dont have the answer, to i do believe the quicker the better that way you DO KNOW if to contionue or run,,,, Not drag it out for 6 months the she dumps you..... Uh yea , that dont work well
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I personally have no problem giving someone my phone number so that we can talk or txt because, you can tell a lot about someone by talking to them on the phone and if you don't like them or don't want to talk to them you can just ignore the phone calls / txt messages just like you would a phone salesman. I know other people don't like to do that, so maybe that's just me. I would rather go out and meet someone soon after we start talking as to cut out the wasted time in liking them online and then finding out they were nothing like what I thought they would be in person.
The disadvantages to online dating is that when you meet someone at a super market or something like that you already see them, and know what they look like, and if your interested you give them your number or email and go from there. Again maybe this is just me. Online when you meet someone the photo that you see could just be a head shot or a glamor photo and the conversations that you have normally have well thought out replies, and when you finally do meet them, they are nothing at all what you expected. So you just spent all that time just to find out you have NO chemistry. I have met a few people after talking to them for a while. I have also met people within the first few days of our first contact online. I guess in my experience it's better to meet quick and then go from there because you will know if you want to go out again.
On the other end of the spectrum if you spend a lot of time getting to know someone online and then you meet them in person and it turns out to be the perfect match don't you feel that you just wasted a whole lot of time just talking when you could have spent it together?
What's your thoughts?
Ok, let the flaming begin!