a question for the ladies ( Archived) (16)

I have a problem... well it is not specifically my problem... but here it is..

I am a deeply caring and loving person who cares deeply for her friends as much.. I just don't understand why women would stay with men that treat them like crap.. use them..lie to them... and tell me they don't know how to express themselves to the person they are with... i get so frustrsted..because i don't tolerate lies, deception, and no one will ever come before my children... does anyone understand what i am talking about!!!

This can also apply to men as well

Yeah I understand, from an outsider it's easy to see it as black and white, being in the situation is harder. I guess you hope that one day it will work out, you don't realise at the time that it wont.

In your head and heart you know what you want the relationship to be like, in reality its never going to happen.

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J.D

I don't this she was comparing men and women. She was expressing her situation which happens to be a female.

Yes, I understand your situation. It is hard to stand by and let someone you love and care about continue on in a bad and abusive relationship.

Ultimately, it will be her/their decision on what to do. Maybe your friend could go to counseling or you could take her to a woman's support group dealing with abusive topics or something. That way, she would not have to go alone and feel uncomfortable there all by her self. She would learn that what she is allowing is not "normal" behavior and that she is not totally alone in her situation. She might be able to regain her self confidence and change her situation once she realizes she is not totally on her own and that there are people/organizations out there that can help her.

If she won't do these things, well, maybe you need to ask yourself, "Just how much of this can I take?" I know I have a great deal of difficulty watching a loved one "kill" themselves (for lack of a better word). You just love them so much, that you can't watch that and you have to remove yourself from their situation just so you can survive.

I hope this helps you and I hope you get lots of great responses here.

Bless you for your great kindness. I am certain your friends and family appreciate you!

I appreciate everyone's imput on this subject...and while I understand This can happen to men as well as women.. I am not a man .. so I appreciate all your advice.

some women just get stuck in that kind life b cause they been told that they won't find anybody better but me personaly can't deal with a lair or cheater and if u love urself then u wont deal with it if u dont love urself nobody else will.