What on Earth Do You Make of This? !! ( Archived) (56)

About 3-4 days ago I had a pic of me and my fella as my primary pic for a little over 24 hours.

During this time, I had a guy contact me. Quite goodlooking, I guess, asking how my "larking about on the Forums" was going. He seemed friendly enough, I replied politely and he responded saying I seemed like a laugh. I got back to him, all very courteously, but also pointing out I was spoken for but always happy to make new friends.

The e-mail I got was "This site is called Connectingsingles, stop wasting everyone's time"!!!

Whoooaaa....

I remarked what a nice guy he seemed (Hmmm...) and pointed out that there are many members here that are attached and on the site/Forums for varying reasons, it was not against the rules (T&Cs clearly state the crtieria as being unmarried and over 18 years of age).

I also pointed out to him that my profile clearly states "not looking, here for the Forums" at least 3 times as there does seem to be some difficulty in understanding what that means.... huhh??!! It also stipulates I am here for "Friends/Hang Out", and not forgetting the pic.....

Not sure what the difficulty is.... but there couldn't possibly be any confusion?!

What on earth to I have to do with my profile that would make it clearer?

I do suspect, though, that his intentions in contacting me may have been contrived...?! I am still at a loss to comprehend why those who behave in such a way are on a dating site?! Dunno.... any ideas?

What do you guys and gals think? Your viewpoints welcomed, of course, peeps.

Thanks....

Idiots aboutnd on here. I wouldn't give him brain space.

I don't understand it either. I do know some only look at the pic and never do read the profile. I also have had nasty return emails when a man contacted me and I replied not interested or not looking. So, I decided not to even bother any more.
Some do not understand that many are here for the forums only.
Many can't handle rejection. Although, I don't know how it can be determined as rejection by someone you don't even know......
Some are just plain uncouth........

Ah Rose...

Who can understand the complexities of the human mind??? People have spent thousands of years trying to work it out...

I had one, a few months ago, and it is not often I respond, who wrote to me, stating that he loved my profile, I did on a rare occasion, write him back stating I was in a relationship, that I was only here for the forums. Seems my words 'only here for the forums' tipped him over the edge...

I received:

'You are a cold, calculating cow, who flaunts herself over the forums, and a snob like you will end up on her own'

Charmed I was.

I think I'm allowed to reproduce what's on my profile, as its MINE:

"About me and who I'm looking for

About me:
I am just here to lark about on the Forums really...

Anything else, just ask, yeah?! Ohhh, and if you don't have a pic, chances are I won't respond unless I know you!



I'm looking for:
In the interests of clarity...not looking, just here for the Forums. AND... if you don't have a pic, chances are I won't respond unless I know you!

One MORE time....?!!

Ohh dear.... it would seem further clarity IS needed. Okay....

Not looking, just here for the Forums?!"

But that aside.... the pic??!!

LOL, I love the ones who tell you they have no interest in you, never did, how you are not his type, and are a stuck up snob, when you politely tell them you are not interested. Yeah, that's why you wrote me in the first place with your goo goo gaa gaa...and no these were not scammers.

Hiya

Its bloody scary actually when you get an email from a guy who appears to be ever so sweet and charming and then when you respond and say thank you but you're not actually looking then they turn into the spawn of the devil

Maybe we who are looking should refuse everyone then respond to the ones who give you a polite reply...sorting the wheat from the chaffe so to speak lol

I bet you were, Sommer!!

I still don't understand what their intentions are for being here, as it can't possibly be to meet someone? Is it that some just see it as a vehicle to vent their spleen after a bad day at the office?!