When Your The Lowest,How Do You Start Over? (99)
jonahstrialspensacola, Florida USA11 Threads 132 PostsLosing my job,my mom,then everything....how does one get up? It has been a year and now that I only have the shirt on my back,I was just wondering how anyone gets up? I am lucky enough I guess to still have this laptop and some wifi in the air,lol. 
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Slowly, one step at a time. And it's not easy in such a situation (believe me, I know, I'm close to where you are), but by having a positive attitude.
Start by appreciating what you do have (as you just started to do in your post). Your health, clothing, a computer, access to wifi, food, water, shelter (I presume you must live somewhere other than a cardboard box), etc. If you're positive, you bring more positive things into your life. Believe it will get better, and it will.
Find a copy of The Secret and read it, and believe.
Start by appreciating what you do have (as you just started to do in your post). Your health, clothing, a computer, access to wifi, food, water, shelter (I presume you must live somewhere other than a cardboard box), etc. If you're positive, you bring more positive things into your life. Believe it will get better, and it will.
Find a copy of The Secret and read it, and believe.
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I am sorry for the loss of your mother. Condolences to you.
Sounds like your already started,you have to appreciated what you have. For me at my lowest,I have realized I could be miserable the rest of my life and make others around me miserable ,or I could accept life isn't fair and that I got a rotten deal. Then be thankful for what you have and use determination to pick yourself up and do the best you can with what you have. Laughter is great for helping someone feel better.Try to have a positive outlook. Sometimes helping others,helps you to feel better about yourself. You can't depend on others to make you happy in your soul,you have to to that yourself,but being around positive people who make you feel good always helps. Enjoy life,realize we all have our low times,but we have our good times too.You are a unique person. Tell yourself that you will move on and try to concentrate on the positives. I am suggesting this because it has helped me.
I hope things get better for you.
Sounds like your already started,you have to appreciated what you have. For me at my lowest,I have realized I could be miserable the rest of my life and make others around me miserable ,or I could accept life isn't fair and that I got a rotten deal. Then be thankful for what you have and use determination to pick yourself up and do the best you can with what you have. Laughter is great for helping someone feel better.Try to have a positive outlook. Sometimes helping others,helps you to feel better about yourself. You can't depend on others to make you happy in your soul,you have to to that yourself,but being around positive people who make you feel good always helps. Enjoy life,realize we all have our low times,but we have our good times too.You are a unique person. Tell yourself that you will move on and try to concentrate on the positives. I am suggesting this because it has helped me.
I hope things get better for you.
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jonahstrials: Losing my job,my mom,then everything....how does one get up? It has been a year and now that I only have the shirt on my back,I was just wondering how anyone gets up? I am lucky enough I guess to still have this laptop and some wifi in the air,lol.
wow, jonah. That's a heck of a lot to happen in a year! Loss of a job you can eventually rectify. You ahve control over that, so your energies can be directed positively there.
With the loss of your mother, the biggie here, is very different. Allow yourself to grieve as fully as you need. Men aren't always very good at giving themselves permission. But know it is not only OK for you to do that, but vital to you moving on. Mind you, I don't know you at all, and you may be doing this already.
At times like these, you've gotta be grateful to our modern technology. It really does minimise the sense of isolation.
Hope you find work soon. I'm sure you will. With your energy channelled in the right way/direction, you can make it happen.
I wish you well, jonah.
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jonahstrials: Losing my job,my mom,then everything....how does one get up? It has been a year and now that I only have the shirt on my back,I was just wondering how anyone gets up? I am lucky enough I guess to still have this laptop and some wifi in the air,lol.
A lot of us have been there, it isn't an easy road but like Dru said, take one step at a time. You'll get there.------ This thread is Archived ------
I got involved! I started by going to the gym and sweating to the oldies on my IPod. I joined the Boy Scouts and because an adult leader. I volunteered at the local soup kitchen. I participated in Church activities. I got up; got dressed; and, went out everyday and did something. I talked to my family. I talked to my friends. I went to group support counseling sessions.
It worked!
It worked!
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You take one thing at a time. Sorry about your mom. Hopefully you have some good friends to help you through these times also.
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It is hard, I pray, cry when I need to cry, and write things down like my feelings, my goals. Sometimes baby steps helps and taking one day at a time.
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jonahstrials: Losing my job,my mom,then everything....how does one get up? It has been a year and now that I only have the shirt on my back,I was just wondering how anyone gets up? I am lucky enough I guess to still have this laptop and some wifi in the air,lol.
Wow too much to take in one year very sorry to hear that BUT how do you mean 'everything'? It's not really a question for one to answer unless of course one has benn through that which isn't me.
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jonahstrials: Losing my job,my mom,then everything....how does one get up? It has been a year and now that I only have the shirt on my back,I was just wondering how anyone gets up? I am lucky enough I guess to still have this laptop and some wifi in the air,lol.
There are many on here who have gone through hard times. I for instance lost a house to Hurricane Katrina and everything I own with it; I lost my only brother, my mother and my wife within a short time after the hurricane.
I am sorry for your loss. Just get up every morning and smile in the mirror. Trust me the man in the mirror will smile back at your and your day will start out better.
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Big_John: I got involved! I started by going to the gym and sweating to the oldies on my IPod. I joined the Boy Scouts and because an adult leader. I volunteered at the local soup kitchen. I participated in Church activities. I got up; got dressed; and, went out everyday and did something. I talked to my family. I talked to my friends. I went to group support counseling sessions.
It worked!
It worked!
All very good suggestions too, John. I've lost my husband, one car (the other was inherited, or I wouldn't have one now), left my job to heal, then haven't had steady work for the past year because we'd gone into this recession when I needed to go back to work.
I battle the depression and negativity by surrounding myself with positive, spiritual people at a place near me with a lot of good things going on, and in my friendships. I work in my garden, read uplifting books like The Art of Happiness by HH Dalai Lama and The Power of Now by Ekhart Tolle and The Secret by Rhonda Byrne (when I'm not reading my textbooks). I remain positive and live in gratefulness for what I do have, including bird song, grass, rain, and sunshine.
The most important thing is to realize that today is a new day, and all things are possible.
And remember that you're not alone, and there's always someone worse off than you.
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druidess6308: Slowly, one step at a time. And it's not easy in such a situation (believe me, I know, I'm close to where you are), but by having a positive attitude.
Start by appreciating what you do have (as you just started to do in your post). Your health, clothing, a computer, access to wifi, food, water, shelter (I presume you must live somewhere other than a cardboard box), etc. If you're positive, you bring more positive things into your life. Believe it will get better, and it will.
Find a copy of The Secret and read it, and believe.
I totally agree. When you are grateful, more comes your way. I say an affirmation that goes a little something like this..."The Abundance of God is ours to eternally share." I always think of someone else ,try to be of service and then I feel better. I start every day being grateful for 60 to 100 things. Peace to you and you are in my prayers.HeatherStart by appreciating what you do have (as you just started to do in your post). Your health, clothing, a computer, access to wifi, food, water, shelter (I presume you must live somewhere other than a cardboard box), etc. If you're positive, you bring more positive things into your life. Believe it will get better, and it will.
Find a copy of The Secret and read it, and believe.
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heatherhuntsman: I totally agree. When you are grateful, more comes your way. I say an affirmation that goes a little something like this..."The Abundance of God is ours to eternally share." I always think of someone else ,try to be of service and then I feel better. I start every day being grateful for 60 to 100 things. Peace to you and you are in my prayers.Heather
yes, we should try to be grateful of our blessings all of the time. I think gratitude defeats many negative feelings 
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Friends are real important all the time,but most important in times like yours.I hope you have many good friends ,as I am gratefull I do,we all fall on hard times and friends are more than ready to return the favors to others.In my case past ,present and future friends are all welcome to what I have.
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Big_John: There are many on here who have gone through hard times. I for instance lost a house to Hurricane Katrina and everything I own with it; I lost my only brother, my mother and my wife within a short time after the hurricane.
I am sorry for your loss. Just get up every morning and smile in the mirror. Trust me the man in the mirror will smile back at your and your day will start out better.
I am sorry for your loss. Just get up every morning and smile in the mirror. Trust me the man in the mirror will smile back at your and your day will start out better.
Makes you appreciate life more by the day listening to this
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HDALE: Friends are real important all the time,but most important in times like yours.I hope you have many good friends ,as I am gratefull I do,we all fall on hard times and friends are more than ready to return the favors to others.In my case past ,present and future friends are all welcome to what I have.
Yes, I am grateful to have met you and so many other nice people here
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heatherhuntsman: I totally agree. When you are grateful, more comes your way. I say an affirmation that goes a little something like this..."The Abundance of God is ours to eternally share." I always think of someone else ,try to be of service and then I feel better. I start every day being grateful for 60 to 100 things. Peace to you and you are in my prayers.Heather
Thank you, my friend...as you are in mine.
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HDALE: Friends are real important all the time,but most important in times like yours.I hope you have many good friends ,as I am gratefull I do,we all fall on hard times and friends are more than ready to return the favors to others.In my case past ,present and future friends are all welcome to what I have.
Yes, HD, I feel the same. Many of us around here are struggling, but we help each other out. I'll do anything I can to help a friend, and share out of what I have.
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I want to be a good friend to. I have struggles of my own but know that without my friends here I would be doing much worse. Thanks all BTW 
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druidess6308: All very good suggestions too, John. I've lost my husband, one car (the other was inherited, or I wouldn't have one now), left my job to heal, then haven't had steady work for the past year because we'd gone into this recession when I needed to go back to work.
I battle the depression and negativity by surrounding myself with positive, spiritual people at a place near me with a lot of good things going on, and in my friendships. I work in my garden, read uplifting books like The Art of Happiness by HH Dalai Lama and The Power of Now by Ekhart Tolle and The Secret by Rhonda Byrne (when I'm not reading my textbooks). I remain positive and live in gratefulness for what I do have, including bird song, grass, rain, and sunshine.
The most important thing is to realize that today is a new day, and all things are possible.
And remember that you're not alone, and there's always someone worse off than you.
I battle the depression and negativity by surrounding myself with positive, spiritual people at a place near me with a lot of good things going on, and in my friendships. I work in my garden, read uplifting books like The Art of Happiness by HH Dalai Lama and The Power of Now by Ekhart Tolle and The Secret by Rhonda Byrne (when I'm not reading my textbooks). I remain positive and live in gratefulness for what I do have, including bird song, grass, rain, and sunshine.
The most important thing is to realize that today is a new day, and all things are possible.
And remember that you're not alone, and there's always someone worse off than you.
Peace...
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