This is how it should look like..... :grin: (9)

twinself: My sister met her husband at a barbecue that I took her to. We knew no one, only the host, and only very slightly; the only reason we went to the party was that my sister was just out of college and bored with being back home again, and she wanted to go to a party. So, we went. We weren't there very long when my sister offered to carry a tray of something into the kitchen for the host, and she got to the door and was struggling to open it. Suddenly, from out of nowhere, a really cute boy RACED from somewhere behind me in the back yard, HURTLED some lawn furniture, JUST to open the door for her. They went on to spend the entire rest of the evening talking, drinking beers, getting a bit drunk, and making out by the pool. The next day he called her up to ask her out on a REAL date. Six months later he gave her an engagement ring; within a year they were married and starting a family. They just had their 20th wedding anniversary last year. Only ONCE during the time they were dating did he almost blow it, by not calling when he said he would; she let him know that was absolutely NOT OK with her, he drove MILES out of his way to see her and apologize (and never did it again) and and rest is history. She never asked him out. She never chased him down. She never badgered him or played games or tried to manipulate her way into his good graces by being someone she wasn't. She let him know how she wanted to be treated, and he was "into her" enough to treat her that way because he loved her. If he hadn't been willing to do that, sure she'd have been hurt but she'd have moved on because she had standards for herself and she respected herself enough to not settle for some guy who wouldn't meet those standards. And I have it on good authority from his late mother and his sisters that before MY sister came along, he had never ONCE brought a girl home to meet his family. He saw her, he liked her, he knew what he wanted, and he's stood by her ever since. Their life together isn't perfect but you know what? He still looks at her like he thinks he's the luckiest guy in the world, and he finds ways even now to demonstrate how much he values having her in his life. THAT is what it looks like when a guy is into you.

twinself: My sister met her husband at a barbecue that I took her to. ..... THAT is what it looks like when a guy is into you.

jojo69: This is exactly how I am now living my life. If I am not treated with the respect that I deserve I am moving on. Life is way too short for all the BS! Has to be someone out there who does want me for me and are willing to treat me with respect!

twinself: Some scenarios:

They chase, win the girl...then disappear.
They chase, win the girl....then start acting like the invisible man...now you see me, now you don't.
They ask you out..suggest a day the next week...you agree.. then you don't hear from them till that day..or ever again.