Loveing those who hurt you ( Archived) (10)

to love someone after they hurt you is a cruel reality no man or woman should have to go through! but its a price you have to pay for loving those who hurt you.

been there and done that.......

I call it loving the unlovely.

When we give ourselves in love we become our most vulnerable. We are never safe. We become open to disappointment and hurt. In a relationship, individuals come together with separate histories and experiences.

They do this in the hope of creating new a new life together by writing and living out and sharing new experiences together. But this is not easy, since we all interact in the shadow of past fears, expectations and habits, since we are all differenct, all imperfect, it is seldom possible without encountering conflict and being hurt.






Hate, bitterness and vindictiveness are overpowering, self defeating and intellectually as well as emotionally depleting. GJ

I chose to forgive. That in itself brought the freedom I needed to move on.

Strange but true....

I have found that I can still
be a friend with my ex. We are
better friends apart than
we ever could be together.

Been there done that and yes it does suck but we can't stop living either. I take those experiences as lessons learned and it also helps me from knowing warning signs earlier in other relationships.

Life is too short to dwell on the past. Time to move on forward and enjoy yourself

Well,I admit that would be an unrealistic goal to love the ex after 5.5 years of pain...but the anger is important to get over or it will carry into my next relationship. I can say I love her now like I would a dog or cat...hold on....I loved my cats so much more!

we all get hurt along the way sometime

OMG woman I love you and you are lovely and lovable.

Thank you for being you and sharing you with us.


V.