Is it what’s inside that counts - or is everyone really looking for someone beautiful? ( Archived) (126)

People say in their profiles that looks aren’t important – it’s what’s inside that counts. They say they’re not picky - that they’re not looking for mr/ms perfect. If that’s true, why do the beautiful people get all the mail, favorites, hits? Do people really mean that when they say it? Or do they just not know what they want? It seems that unless you are extremely attractive, you never get the chance to show what you’ve got on the inside. What’s your opinion on this?

Hello.
I feel like its whats on the inside that madders the most to. Yes peaple seem to get more emails that is real pretty. But its only emails from men or ladys thats interested in getting between the legs only. Not a relationship.

Troy, this subject is a grey area for many reasons.
People in general want to have a partner that they are attracted to.

Often when people state that looks arent important there is a small % that really do mean what they say.
The Other % of those who say that ,generally want the prospective matches to know that they arent closed minded and that they arent hung up on the looks of the other person.

And of course there are those who are about looks and the physical of a relationship but state that looks arent important because they dont want to come off stuck up, so to speak or the Im better than you because Im beautiful attitude.

So you see this can be confusing...bottom line is

Its all in the eyes of the beholder that determins which group you fall into.

Also a final note. We do live in a society that is based on how dress, how you look and what you have and what you dont have in life.
Don't believe that? Look at the millions of men and women having plastic surgery, cosmetic and augmentations done everyday to look more attractive.
Theres nothing wrong with that if it makes you happy with yourself.
I say all this in hopes that Im being fair.
Im only speaking about society in general.
I just dont think theres a clear answer here only opinion.

I think everyone including myself can't help but to judge a person on thier apperance. First impressions is a big deal. But I know thier is more to a person than just looks and physical beauty. I am large girl, and very tall 5'11. Now that I want to be back in the dating seen I am having a very hard time finding a date. haha
Men just see a fat woman, they don't relize that I'm pretty, funny, honest, a decent person. They only see alot of pounds.

At one point in my life I felt that I would never find the person to truely make me happy. I thought I would never be good enough for a man to love me. I had many reasons. I thought maybe because I gained weight, or because I wore glasses, or maybe even because of my skin tone. I had many reasons and questions to why I wasn't happy, but never got any answers until now. I have found the man of my dreams that loves and respects me for who I am on the inside first. I never thought that a person like me could ever find true happiness. Beauty comes from within......so never think just because you think your not pretty that you won't find the perfect man or woman, he's out there. I love you Damon and thanks for loving me

Physical attraction may start the conversation, but personality and mutual interests make the relationship continue. I think it's wise to start out as friends, get to know the person and then see if more develops.

I tend to agree.People are not honest with themselves.But I also believe that beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. some women my friend likes and thinks are pretty I would not. But it is true some people that are very beautiful on the outside are extreamly ugly on the inside. No matter what we would like to think. Outward beauty does attract. That's just the way it is.

i will say this Troy if ppl can't be honest and open why put a profile up .. i am nothing to jump up and nor do i care what anyone looks like as long as they r honest and caring and they show what they have to offer who cares what u look like .... i have seen enough of men who r built and have a body most women would kill for but whats inside thats matters .... if u can't be u what r u nothing.....

I am 35yrs old and have had my fair sharing of dating many different types of men. Although in a romatic way we might not of worked out i am still close friends with many of them. Some i have even met online. I almost perfer to meet someone online because u get to know that person from the inside out. However, how a guy looks is what the initial attraction is all about. I am very picky and yes i do know what i want and what i'm looking for. However, i'm not looking for a hard body. I'd love a cute, blue collar kinda guy. Just because u care how a guy or girl looks doesn't mean ur after barbie or ken. Everyone has the right to be picky and not settle for less than they need or deserve. You have to know how to make urself happy first, before u can make anyone else happy.