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Aug 2, 2006 5:34 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
Sometimes you just can't get the courage to even give it your all when your all has been given so many times...What's bad is spilling your guts to someone and then they give up and leave after a couple of weeks...Looking for some good advice how and when to "throw your trash out in the streets"?professor sigh doh
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Aug 2, 2006 5:58 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
xfahctor
xfahctorxfahctorlancaster, New Hampshire USA44 Threads 1,643 Posts
not sure exactly what you mean
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Aug 2, 2006 6:33 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
soulmateTWS
soulmateTWSsoulmateTWSHappy in, Alabama USA8 Threads 4,935 Posts
Wayne--just open your heart and tell them. Everyone has past good and bad stuff in their life........
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Aug 2, 2006 6:37 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
MichaelH
MichaelHMichaelHNowhere, Indiana USA24 Threads 620 Posts
If you haven't dumped your trash then you aren't ready to move on to another relationship. I don't think that you necessarily have to spill your guts to anyone about your past...think beforehand if it is going to do any good to bring it up. And if you do, you have to be sure thats where it will remain.

Learn from the past, don't relive it.
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Aug 2, 2006 6:43 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
But on the first date?dunno
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Aug 2, 2006 6:46 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
dazzling_dave
dazzling_davedazzling_daveWaynesboro, Virginia USA4 Threads 1,993 Posts
The only way you should share your past with a woman is if you want to be reminded of it for the rest of your life.rolling on the floor laughing
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Aug 2, 2006 6:49 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
Amen,brother Dave,your the man!professor
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Aug 2, 2006 6:50 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
Assets52
Assets52Assets52Littleton, New Hampshire USA125 Threads 2,174 Posts
Especially never on a first date.

Wayne I don't know you that well but from what little I pick up on the forums, you seem to be still living your unpleasant past. And you seem to find the need to dwell on it. I know it's real and frustrating for you but others don't need to hear it, especially if you are trying to start another relationship.

Can't you just say yeah my past sucked and move on with the new, exciting and fun stuff?
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Aug 2, 2006 6:56 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
kentuckygirlge
kentuckygirlgekentuckygirlge35 Threads 3,603 Posts
right on,Assets,and dot throw trash in the streets thought you knew better,thats littering,i wont point the finger but i willthumbs up sigh
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Aug 2, 2006 7:00 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
Your the only one that it seems to bother....sorry you don't want to open up on the threads...I am a very honest guy with a very honest question...scold
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Aug 2, 2006 7:10 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
MichaelH
MichaelHMichaelHNowhere, Indiana USA24 Threads 620 Posts
Iam....just so you know....my response was just from my past experience and self-realization that, first, you have to know when you're ready to move on, and second, sometimes too much info given to others isn't always a good thing.

My 2 cents based on my own past.
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Aug 2, 2006 7:12 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
soulmateTWS
soulmateTWSsoulmateTWSHappy in, Alabama USA8 Threads 4,935 Posts
wow wow And I made the mistake of thinking that you were asking a serious question...and wanted serious advice....not some kind of vendetta.....uh oh
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Aug 2, 2006 7:28 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
Assets52
Assets52Assets52Littleton, New Hampshire USA125 Threads 2,174 Posts
Wayne I'm sorry you thought my reply was to put you down or piss you off.

It was given with all sincerity.

Since I do however seem to irritate you, I will not respond to you again.

Best of luck to you.
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Aug 2, 2006 7:41 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
steve25
steve25steve25Nerja, Andalusia Spain1 Threads 251 Posts
What the hell are you talking about?

Assets gave you some good, sound advice. Not negative or derogatory.

If you just listened to it instead of getting nasty you'd be a lot better off.
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Aug 2, 2006 7:49 PM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
My mistake....but KY girl is another story....sorry,if you meant well Assets....I have personal feelings about this subject and was seeking advice cause it is MY nature to tell friends/girlfriends too much too soon and I did tell alot about myself to Kathy cause after all,she was helping me in a tough situation that delt with some stuff from my past...so,lesson learned
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Aug 3, 2006 3:59 AM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
kentuckygirlge
kentuckygirlgekentuckygirlge35 Threads 3,603 Posts
you devoted this to me.You dont see me telling things you took me in your confidence and that does mean something.Im not against you not even close.We have different opinions on things and so.No it just kind bothered me that you didnt use what i told you to.Go clerk get copy transcript.Apersons past should be that unless he keeps living it over and thats not fair to you or your kids.Do you need all these court documents back or what.dunno doh
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Aug 3, 2006 4:30 AM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
nwnstar
nwnstarnwnstarConway, USA38 Threads 5,464 Posts
wayne...i'm thinking you SHOULD spill. you and i have talked extensively, and some things you need to be prepared for in advance.

i'm not saying on the first date, but definitely before there is true feelings.
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Aug 3, 2006 7:57 AM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
soulmateTWS
soulmateTWSsoulmateTWSHappy in, Alabama USA8 Threads 4,935 Posts
Very good advice nwnstar......I hope he takes it......
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Aug 3, 2006 9:13 AM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
ellen042505
ellen042505ellen042505Tyler, USA3 Threads 60 Posts
So, does this mean you're not telling me everything? lol wink
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Aug 3, 2006 9:18 AM CST Hardest Thing About Getting Started in Any Relationship,Throwing the Trash Out....
ellen042505
ellen042505ellen042505Tyler, USA3 Threads 60 Posts
Hey Assets....just to let ya know, Wayne has gone thru alot, but he hasn't let it stop him from pursuing what we all want....which is a new love in life! He's moved on and in a big way! blushing
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