Why is finding the right person difficult? (7)

I don't understand why finding the right person is difficult with so many prospects out there. I have a lot of female friends I go to dinner with but they all have boyfriends or looking for a soulmate. Emails are also friendly but,no one wants to meet face to face for a friendly coffee. Why?

JMO but I think for some, the idea of meeting their soulmate or the right person scares them. I think we can meet someone we like and out of fear shut down. I have done it a number of times and live to regret not being brave in that moment. From back at college to just recently, there are a handful of men who I will never know, if they were right for me because I didn't take the risk.
It happens the other way too, many people who I am attracted to push me away. Don't respond to email or won't meet in person.

Many say they are looking, go through the motions, & are not sincerely looking & complain they are not finding their soul mate.

Fear ... and jmo, they are looking for the PERFECT soul mate or the person they think has all the qualities they want this soul mate to have. JMO might be that seeing the person in a realistic way,(even if they are the right soul mate), a person might still want this imaginary person with all the qualities instead.

Finding the right person for you,JMO, might mean open your eyes and brain, see what is really in front of you. This person might not have the build, looks, or meet some other expectation, but be the right person for you and you the right one for them. It does not mean settle, just means be realistic. If a person is not scared, and really sees what is in front of them, they will find the right person. No matter what we put in our profile, and read in their's does not mean that is true.

Too many send emails or answer them, but are not really interested, JMO, they are looking to see if there is something better.

These are just observations and my point of view, does not mean everyone here is like that.

I think that when we find people that we can connect with on many different levels - its just easy to move to the next step. Does it happen all the time - no.

So its a matter of reaching out and letting the conversations flow as they will naturally unfold and hopefully if someone lives close by, they'll be interested enough to meet in person.

Truly, I think if someone thinks there is a possibility of "something more" than they need to go for it and not hold back. Its just finding someone that clicks on even some levels that is the difficult part for myself and that they don't live 1/2 way across the world.

I have the same problem, was actually going to ask the same question, people get near or too close and they get scared for some reason,maybe they r not being honest with themselves,they just like the mail?they feel the need to defend,they expect too much,read more into a simple conversation,what they say is not what they want,too many to choose from and get mixed up??, society needs to change big time , good luck i wish you the best on here, if you are able to land a keeper let me know if he has any single normal friends, lol Kathy

Mayhaps theres something inside you you need to fix\alter\change\workon before your ready to find your partner. I think if you are deserving of love you will find. I dont think God puts true love infront of anyone who doesnt deserve it..so think about it. G'bless:D