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HJFinAZ: People Pleasers
Have you ever been around people pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety producing.
People pleasing is a behavior we may have adapted to survive in our family. We may not have been able to get the love and attention we deserved. We may not have been given permission to please ourselves, to trust ourselves, and to choose a course of action that demonstrated self trust.
People pleasing can be overt or covert. We may run around fussing over others, chattering a mile a minute when what we are really saying is, "I hope I'm pleasing you." Or, we may be more covert, quietly going through life making important decisions based on pleasing others.
Taking other people's wants and needs into consideration is an important part of our relationships. We have responsibilities to friends and family and employers. We have a strong inner responsibility to be loving and caring. But, people pleasing backfires. Not only do others get annoyed with us, we often get annoyed when our efforts to please do not work as we planned. The most comfortable people to be around are those who are considerate of others but ultimately please themselves.
Help me, God, work through my fears and begin to please myself.
...you can't please everyone,you got to please your self.....Ricky Nelson--Garden-Party!Have you ever been around people pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety producing.
People pleasing is a behavior we may have adapted to survive in our family. We may not have been able to get the love and attention we deserved. We may not have been given permission to please ourselves, to trust ourselves, and to choose a course of action that demonstrated self trust.
People pleasing can be overt or covert. We may run around fussing over others, chattering a mile a minute when what we are really saying is, "I hope I'm pleasing you." Or, we may be more covert, quietly going through life making important decisions based on pleasing others.
Taking other people's wants and needs into consideration is an important part of our relationships. We have responsibilities to friends and family and employers. We have a strong inner responsibility to be loving and caring. But, people pleasing backfires. Not only do others get annoyed with us, we often get annoyed when our efforts to please do not work as we planned. The most comfortable people to be around are those who are considerate of others but ultimately please themselves.
Help me, God, work through my fears and begin to please myself.
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HJFinAZ: I AIN'T one of them....
No, you sure aren't! And it's what I love about you. 
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You admitted it. You are trying to please yourself.
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scon1916: You admitted it. You are trying to please yourself.
I "ALWAYS" do things that pleases ME!!!!
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HJFinAZ: I AIN'T one of them....
That's the truth. Hey HJ...put your pic back up...miss seeing you.
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Sundown40: That's the truth.
Hey HJ...put your pic back up...miss seeing you.
Hey HJ...put your pic back up...miss seeing you.
"THEY", won't allow me to put up the pic I want..
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HJFinAZ: "THEY", won't allow me to put up the pic I want..
You wanna borrow one of mine?
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Sundown40: You wanna borrow one of mine?
I speak the truth, and many just dont know how to take the truth, but it has allways worked for me, I dont have to pretend to be, or act like someone else to fell accepted, I am myself weather they like it or not.....
To many people pleaser are actually lieing to try to make everyone arround them happy, and it usually explodes in their face......
so i just tell it like it is, accept their Hate, and walk on living my life, It will pay off someday!!
That means i wont be very popular!!!! because most envy the truth!
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HotrodLarrys: I speak the truth, and many just dont know how to take the truth, but it has allways worked for me, I dont have to pretend to be, or act like someone else to fell accepted, I am myself weather they like it or not.....To many people pleaser are actually lieing to try to make everyone arround them happy, and it usually explodes in their face......
so i just tell it like it is, accept their Hate, and walk on living my life, It will pay off someday!!
That means i wont be very popular!!!! because most envy the truth!
so i just tell it like it is, accept their Hate, and walk on living my life, It will pay off someday!!
That means i wont be very popular!!!! because most envy the truth!
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HotrodLarrys: I speak the truth, and many just dont know how to take the truth, but it has allways worked for me, I dont have to pretend to be, or act like someone else to fell accepted, I am myself weather they like it or not.....To many people pleaser are actually lieing to try to make everyone arround them happy, and it usually explodes in their face......
so i just tell it like it is, accept their Hate, and walk on living my life, It will pay off someday!!
That means i wont be very popular!!!! because most envy the truth!
When I speak my mind out my heart speaks louder..this is what I always say about me. Some people cannot accept the truth but it has to be said...so i just tell it like it is, accept their Hate, and walk on living my life, It will pay off someday!!
That means i wont be very popular!!!! because most envy the truth!
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I used to be one of those people pleasers.I think you've got to start saying "NO" and not beat yourself up about it.That it's perfectly ok to say no every once in a while.
Now I just come right out and tell them how I feel and if they don't like it so be it.Idf that sounds harsh to some but,sometimes that's just how it has to be.I became tried of feeling like I was a push over so to speak because of my niceness.I also learned that you can't please everybody cause it's just not possible to do so.
Now I just come right out and tell them how I feel and if they don't like it so be it.Idf that sounds harsh to some but,sometimes that's just how it has to be.I became tried of feeling like I was a push over so to speak because of my niceness.I also learned that you can't please everybody cause it's just not possible to do so.
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"OUR" feelings belong to us & us alone. "WE" are responsible for OUR feelings, not someone else..
It is OK to please another, but NOT at the expense of ourselves..
It is OK to please another, but NOT at the expense of ourselves..
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HJFinAZ: People Pleasers
Have you ever been around people pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety producing.
People pleasing is a behavior we may have adapted to survive in our family. We may not have been able to get the love and attention we deserved. We may not have been given permission to please ourselves, to trust ourselves, and to choose a course of action that demonstrated self trust.
People pleasing can be overt or covert. We may run around fussing over others, chattering a mile a minute when what we are really saying is, "I hope I'm pleasing you." Or, we may be more covert, quietly going through life making important decisions based on pleasing others.
Taking other people's wants and needs into consideration is an important part of our relationships. We have responsibilities to friends and family and employers. We have a strong inner responsibility to be loving and caring. But, people pleasing backfires. Not only do others get annoyed with us, we often get annoyed when our efforts to please do not work as we planned. The most comfortable people to be around are those who are considerate of others but ultimately please themselves.
Help me, God, work through my fears and begin to please myself.
Have you ever been around people pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety producing.
People pleasing is a behavior we may have adapted to survive in our family. We may not have been able to get the love and attention we deserved. We may not have been given permission to please ourselves, to trust ourselves, and to choose a course of action that demonstrated self trust.
People pleasing can be overt or covert. We may run around fussing over others, chattering a mile a minute when what we are really saying is, "I hope I'm pleasing you." Or, we may be more covert, quietly going through life making important decisions based on pleasing others.
Taking other people's wants and needs into consideration is an important part of our relationships. We have responsibilities to friends and family and employers. We have a strong inner responsibility to be loving and caring. But, people pleasing backfires. Not only do others get annoyed with us, we often get annoyed when our efforts to please do not work as we planned. The most comfortable people to be around are those who are considerate of others but ultimately please themselves.
Help me, God, work through my fears and begin to please myself.
From reading in these forums it would seem that a lot of the people who post here are exactly that type.
I can only hope that they show their family and real friends as much consideration as they do the people who post on here. That is of course if they have any contacts in the real world..I sometimes wonder.------ This thread is Archived ------
DrHughGRekshyn54: From reading in these forums it would seem that a lot of the people who post here are exactly that type. I can only hope that they show their family and real friends as much consideration as they do the people who post on here. That is of course if they have any contacts in the real world..I sometimes wonder.
My best guess is, there are those with no life outside CS..
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HJFinAZ: My best guess is, there are those with no life outside CS..
That wouldn't surprise me at all.
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What can I do for HJ?
Polish ya shoes?
Pour you a drink?
Read you a book?
Make you some supper?
Take you for a drive?
Pick you some flowers?
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Are you pleased yet??????
Polish ya shoes?
Pour you a drink?
Read you a book?
Make you some supper?
Take you for a drive?
Pick you some flowers?
...
Are you pleased yet??????
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DrHughGRekshyn54: That wouldn't surprise me at all.
Blimey, that's quite a profile name!!!
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HJFinAZ: "OUR" feelings belong to us & us alone. "WE" are responsible for OUR feelings, not someone else..
It is OK to please another, but NOT at the expense of ourselves..
It is OK to please another, but NOT at the expense of ourselves..
I made that mistake with a man I dated for 9 months after being out on my own for a year--I knew it was happening but for some reason couldn't stop-maybe because I had never really experienced what love was (other than my children) when it ended it was like a brick off my chest...I now am with someone with whom I am totally myself and very comfortable with...As for my job, well I am alway's polite but never let people walk over me...
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venere08: Blimey, that's quite a profile name!!!
Well thanks for noticing.
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Have you ever been around people pleasers? They tend to be displeasing. Being around someone who is turned inside out to please another is often irritating and anxiety producing.
People pleasing is a behavior we may have adapted to survive in our family. We may not have been able to get the love and attention we deserved. We may not have been given permission to please ourselves, to trust ourselves, and to choose a course of action that demonstrated self trust.
People pleasing can be overt or covert. We may run around fussing over others, chattering a mile a minute when what we are really saying is, "I hope I'm pleasing you." Or, we may be more covert, quietly going through life making important decisions based on pleasing others.
Taking other people's wants and needs into consideration is an important part of our relationships. We have responsibilities to friends and family and employers. We have a strong inner responsibility to be loving and caring. But, people pleasing backfires. Not only do others get annoyed with us, we often get annoyed when our efforts to please do not work as we planned. The most comfortable people to be around are those who are considerate of others but ultimately please themselves.
Help me, God, work through my fears and begin to please myself.