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Hi i have been on connecting singles for about a year,so far i seem to have only managed to be deeply hurt on this site! it is funny that when no one wants you! it does lower your self esteem! it has not helped me feel better about myself,or my life!

How unfortunate

Hopefully you have supprtive positive people around you to help you through this "slump"

Wishing you peace

Hey I'm sure you are wanted, you just haven't found someone yet.
I haven't found anyone on this site either, but I know the sting of rejection, for other places and times.

Hopefully, you are not relying on this site to find someone, but rather looking in local areas near your home. Even if you do find someone here, chances are the distance will be too far.

This site is great for lots of online friendships, and for feedback. Try not to let your confidence be squashed, for many women, that is a turn-off. Use your qualities and abilities to bolster your self-esteem and you will become more attractive from within.

I went on singles sites almost a year ago.

In Dec 2005, I payed for Y---- site for 3 months and went on dates from that site. Needless to say most were never what they appeared to be and others lied about age, marital status and other things.

I did however, make a few new friends, that I still have contact with to this day.

After that, I paid to go on to M---- and stayed there another 3 months. Same people, same profiles and the same dating games, however again, I still have a few that I remain ( platonic ) friends with.

Upon the expiration of the above I joined another totally free dating site and again, made some friends, but never met anyone from the site in person.

I was then referred here by another cs member and have been on this site for, oops, forgot, several months by now, I would guess. Although I have corresponded with many, made new friends, I have never physically met anyone from this site either. Tomorrow that changes, I meet with other women and some men as friends.

So, you are not alone. I have also played the online game for almost as long and still am online. After being played so many times, I have changed my profile and decided to take a break.

Sometimes taking a break to let your heart mend and head clear is a wise thing.

Hang in there. I will be your friend.

Try a different outlook.

this isn't meant to be rude or offensive,if it doesn't kill you it only makes you stronger,i've been humiliated,stepped on,spit on,that's from my ex.today i treat a woman the way she wants.
with respect,kindness,love.if i'm not appreciated or wanted i'm out of there.
nothing drives a woman crazy,then seeing what she's dumped doing better than when she dumped you.

Maybe you need to go out of the house more often? You should look for groups that share your interests and join them. Or you take your clothes to your local laundry mat and act like you have no idea how to operate the washer. That always gets a sympathetic person to help lol

It's very sad to hear that you feel so hurt, but you have to look beyond the hurt and see that those that have chosen to hurt you were not worthy of you.
I understand it is not easy, we have all been hurt by a friend or special interest at some point in our lives.

Your name says "warmheart" and I am sure that you are a very nice person, see all the greatness in you, and move on, you will find somebody that will appreciate you and love you, take your time, and try a few places where you can meet people, CS is great, but maybe you can try joining some groups that do activitys together.
If that is not possible, I hope you can make some very close fiends here, it will keep your heart distracted for a little while and maybe we can even make you laugh.

I wish you the best....Sincerely, Angel

No...No....No....aint got nothin to do with anybody but yourself

If you have real respect for yourself...then you will also have real respect for others.....everything else falls into place.

Doing better for yourself should never be motivated out of revenge
or ANYTHING other than wanting to better yourself.