I give you my pic after you email me! ( Archived) (26)

Or they are married and dont want their wife to be knowing what they are doing??????
Have had that before...

So no, I tend not to write to faceless...sorry... but bitten once... now shy...

The very first girl I contacted here had no photo. She seemed like a very cool lady from her posts on the forums. We became very good friends and I got photos later on.

Realize I'm coming in here late, still I'll add another side to this issue. I met my late b/f at a game site. We talked for hours upon hours on the phone, developed a friendship and decided since there was an opportunity for free hotel in Las Vegas, why not meet there. We hadn't even shared photos. We eventually shared photos because picking one up at the airport is a tad bit difficult without knowing what the person looks like. His photo was dorky, caught unawares at work but he didn't have anything else. I had a friend take mine, sent it off. Snail mail. Neither of us had scanners or digital cameras. We actually bought the tickets and booked the room before the photos arrived in the mail. Why? Because we already sorted out that we were friends and honestly, if there wasn't a physical attraction when we met up in Vegas, we'd have a blast with a good friend.

I live in rural community and don't want my mug smeared all over the net unless I have control of who sees it. Thus there is a road. It also is symbolic.

People can connect up prior to photos, it was done well before the internet came into being through snail mail penpals, blind dates where you are told good stuff about a person etc. Personally I don't need to see a face to connect with a person initially. And if later things progress and there is plan to meet, the photo is needed for identification.

Scammers tend to USE photos, often lifted off sites that are open model photo sites, off Google or even off open Facebook pages, MySpace pages etc. The more the person looks "like a real downhome person" the more someone will believe he or she is real. That dorky pic of my b/f, I knew it was real because honestly, no one would willingly send a polaroid picture with that wacky look on the face. *chuckle* If he had been all slick and polished - like some photos I've recieved from men, from this site and other sites - then I would have really questioned if he was real.

There are many reasons why some folks don't want to show their mugs and that's cool. Besides, personally I hate the meat market type atmosphere with rating a photo of a person (and its not only here, its in many singles sites) or the meat market type atmosphere where men or women flip through looking for the "most gorgeous" or "most handsome." Ugh.

Anyhow, just some feedback on the question and each their own - some folks it doesn't matter, pic or not and other folks it does. But when it comes to scammers, don't just rely on the no photo or yes photo, look for all the other signs that are there in that mail or profile... as that'll tell you a whole lot more than a pic.