When To Hold Them Or When To Fold Them.. ( Archived) (37)

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Sure why not? I've spent it on allot dumber things lol.. life is short, better to know early then spending monthes on something thats not going to work..

I've been in this situation twice and I found its best to end it as soon as you know its over.

I'm more of a "rip the band-aid off" then peel it off slowly so you catch all the baby hairs one by one.....

Don't regret what you've invested; hopefully you did that with full intention and knowingly.

Roxanne

That's the thing with any relationship, they all take time.
Although you can get very close and have feelings for someone from afar, it will all ultimately only work if the chemistry is there in the meeting and that too needs time, after the initial coming together.

But if the feelings aren't there after time spent together, then it is like any relationship you may have to call it a day, shame, but if you see no future then you have to let it go.

if the relationship is local you spend money on dates etc, if they are far, you spend the money on tickets to see them, either way, you spend the money getting to know them, so it's not lost, it's well spent.

fold em. money spent is money spent, you would have bought a load of crap with it anyway. think what someone 10 or 20 yrs married has spent on each other and get divorced and they move on

......good answer, lol...

Hey there Lion hearted hoW are you? Well i am sure you may know by now that i met someone on here and we have chatted for over five months now and for one reason or another it was not possible to get together up till now............if you read my thread about my kiwi friend you will realise why?

We have spent a lot of time over the months chattting on the phone, by text and also occasionally on cam and have become so close that these communications are not enough now so finally he has booked to come all the way over from New Zealand to see me on a round the world trip and he will arrive on Sept 20th ..........lol I am so excited and counting the days.

But in reply to your thread i would like to say that we have already agreed that if there is no physical connection between us then we shall cut our losses and just be good friends but we dont want to miss the opportunity that has been given to us. We both know that no matter what.........we shall always be friends and we have found each other and what ever the outcome we wont be letting each other go. We respect each other so much.

If you have enjoyed yourself during the time and effort you have put in to the relationship before and after the meeting then this has not been a waste of time as sometimes peeps come into our lives for a reason whether it be a day a month or a season or for the rest of your life. Sometimes it is to teach us something that we may not have learned from before and we may not see it straight away and just see it as a negative experience when in fact it should be a positive outcome if only in the learning of the experience and if we dont learn then around it will come again until we do............


Take care
Magsy

I am not sure but I would guess the average visit is a week. Of course both are going to put on their best sides and be able to do that on each visit. Maybe each time they get together it is like puppy love.

How do they really know if it is feasible when they only have a limited amount of time around each other, it takes time around someone to really have them be totally themselves around someone.

Would you be totally pissed if you spent alot of money only find out you thought things were great and the other person all of a sudden decided it wasn't or would you be happy you did it?

That can happen with anybody at any time even if you grew up together.. I think that may be worrying a bit too much.. no guarantees in life sometimes ya just have to take a chance ..