Do you often put others needs first before your own? (32)
I did that as well. I always put my ex's needs before my own ...but I have finally started focusing on me and I feel SOOO much better !!! 
And I don't feel guilty about it at all. I only wish I had done it sooner.
And I don't feel guilty about it at all. I only wish I had done it sooner.
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somechick: A question that I was asked afew moments ago gave me an idea for this thread question.I used to do that.That is what mothers/wives often do right.My children and my late husband needs always came before my own.
Then one day I finally came to realize that it was alright for me to have some ME time and tend to my own needs too.That I was in no way being selfish nor should I feel any guilt for wanting to see to my own needs first.
Then one day I finally came to realize that it was alright for me to have some ME time and tend to my own needs too.That I was in no way being selfish nor should I feel any guilt for wanting to see to my own needs first.
I see you were inspired by that question.
I think the bottom line is that for most of us, always putting others first is an unbearable burden, and one which will ultimately harm the "giver." There's a time and place, of course, for giving more of yourself, but eventually, for your own mental health, a balance of being selfish and concerned with helping others needs to be established.
My love is facing that issue right now with her own ailing parents. It can be a tough balance to maintain - often hard to get over one's guilt about possibly not doing enough for the people in need.
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lrrh77: I did that as well. I always put my ex's needs before my own ...but I have finally started focusing on me and I feel SOOO much better !!!
And I don't feel guilty about it at all. I only wish I had done it sooner.
And I don't feel guilty about it at all. I only wish I had done it sooner.
Me too.
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somechick: A question that I was asked afew moments ago gave me an idea for this thread question.I used to do that.That is what mothers/wives often do right.My children and my late husband needs always came before my own.
Then one day I finally came to realize that it was alright for me to have some ME time and tend to my own needs too.That I was in no way being selfish nor should I feel any guilt for wanting to see to my own needs first.
Then one day I finally came to realize that it was alright for me to have some ME time and tend to my own needs too.That I was in no way being selfish nor should I feel any guilt for wanting to see to my own needs first.
Hi I am new and just wanted to say you are right you should not feel guilty for taking me time. I find a lot of my female friends have done like you and put family in front of them. I can understand but you still need me time. Enjoy. You are worthy.
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The trick is to find someone who is just as giving as you are. Never forget the day I wanted to do something nice for my honey, so I went around doing all his chores. When I went to start my own, they were already done!!
Love was in the air that day...
Love was in the air that day...
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Proudamerican100: Hi I am new and just wanted to say you are right you should not feel guilty for taking me time. I find a lot of my female friends have done like you and put family in front of them. I can understand but you still need me time. Enjoy. You are worthy.
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Ambrose2007: I see you were inspired by that question.
I think the bottom line is that for most of us, always putting others first is an unbearable burden, and one which will ultimately harm the "giver." There's a time and place, of course, for giving more of yourself, but eventually, for your own mental health, a balance of being selfish and concerned with helping others needs to be established.
My love is facing that issue right now with her own ailing parents. It can be a tough balance to maintain - often hard to get over one's guilt about possibly not doing enough for the people in need.
I think the bottom line is that for most of us, always putting others first is an unbearable burden, and one which will ultimately harm the "giver." There's a time and place, of course, for giving more of yourself, but eventually, for your own mental health, a balance of being selfish and concerned with helping others needs to be established.
My love is facing that issue right now with her own ailing parents. It can be a tough balance to maintain - often hard to get over one's guilt about possibly not doing enough for the people in need.
Yes Jeff I really was so inspired.
As for seeing to my own needs without feeling guilty and selfish .My mother used to tell it's hard to take care of others needs if you don't take care or see to your needs yourself.
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LadyPhoenix1965: The trick is to find someone who is just as giving as you are. Never forget the day I wanted to do something nice for my honey, so I went around doing all his chores. When I went to start my own, they were already done!!
Love was in the air that day...
Love was in the air that day...
Now thats just how every marriage or long term relationship should be its about giving and receiving. not take all the time . I always feel better being useful so I am a giver mostly
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Proudamerican100: Hi I am new and just wanted to say you are right you should not feel guilty for taking me time. I find a lot of my female friends have done like you and put family in front of them. I can understand but you still need me time. Enjoy. You are worthy.
Hi Proud and Thank you.
I guess I put my families needs first is because I followed in my mothers footsteps cause she often did the very same thing.------ This thread is Archived ------
some say too much but that's just the way i am .
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adamisk: some say too much but that's just the way i am .
I just became tired of being someones door mat.
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somechick: A question that I was asked afew moments ago gave me an idea for this thread question.I used to do that.That is what mothers/wives often do right.My children and my late husband needs always came before my own.
Then one day I finally came to realize that it was alright for me to have some ME time and tend to my own needs too.That I was in no way being selfish nor should I feel any guilt for wanting to see to my own needs first.
Well; I get naked when i want too ,and that is one of my needs click,clickThen one day I finally came to realize that it was alright for me to have some ME time and tend to my own needs too.That I was in no way being selfish nor should I feel any guilt for wanting to see to my own needs first.
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somechick: I just became tired of being someones door mat.
Pride is taking less than you need.
Humility is taking less than you want!
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I haven't ever had a problem with putting other's needs and wants before mine. I guess each of us is made up differently and that is the way I am and it makes me happy.
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somechick: I just became tired of being someones door mat.
Youve turned the corner, yay! Chuck the mat out honey, time to it. It really is all about you! your family roadway, meaning how your mother father enviroment., will greatly reflect on who we are as a person as we grow older, but that can change. I commend you on your journey...
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NOT ANY MORE!!!!!
But, I do know of one that I have an intense desire to please..
But, I do know of one that I have an intense desire to please..
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sophiasummer: Youve turned the corner, yay! Chuck the mat out honey, time to it. It really is all about you! your family roadway, meaning how your mother father enviroment., will greatly reflect on who we are as a person as we grow older, but that can change. I commend you on your journey...
I Like you;You allways have something nice,and special to say to every one....
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sophiasummer: Youve turned the corner, yay! Chuck the mat out honey, time to it. It really is all about you! your family roadway, meaning how your mother father enviroment., will greatly reflect on who we are as a person as we grow older, but that can change. I commend you on your journey...
The mat is now laying outside my front door where I wipe my feet.
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I try to maintain a balanced generosity....
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I used to do that.That is what mothers/wives often do right.My children and my late husband needs always came before my own.
Then one day I finally came to realize that it was alright for me to have some ME time and tend to my own needs too.That I was in no way being selfish nor should I feel any guilt for wanting to see to my own needs first.