Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"? (87)
galradsDublin, Ohio USA2,264 Threads 279 Polls 36,283 PostsCurious here. Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"? Do they share? Are they "me" people." If people are looking for a long-term-relationship with Love/Companion as the driving force/desire (not money, status, games etc,), will the "Independent" person make a good partner?
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As opposed to 'dependent' people?
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Many independent people are able to share, to love, to help others. They can be good partners if their independence is respected. 
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I hope so because you've described me to a "tee." But my independence also makes me more prone to wait till I find someone I am truly happy with in all ways. I'm less prone to put up with poor treatment, or game players. I don't need to "settle', so to speak.
Those are all good things.........the only down side is that I am more likely to break it off without giving a guy a 2nd chance.......
But as an independent woman, love is my primary driving force. I have earned my own status , money, and I'm mature enuff to realize how counterproductive games are. If a guy plays games with me - he may as well just forget any hope of being with moi. I don't have to put up with it, and I don't/won't. I'll give a guy a warning about game playing one time - and hope he catches on...
Those are all good things.........the only down side is that I am more likely to break it off without giving a guy a 2nd chance.......
But as an independent woman, love is my primary driving force. I have earned my own status , money, and I'm mature enuff to realize how counterproductive games are. If a guy plays games with me - he may as well just forget any hope of being with moi. I don't have to put up with it, and I don't/won't. I'll give a guy a warning about game playing one time - and hope he catches on...
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gabrielle95: Many independent people are able to share, to love, to help others. They can be good partners if their independence is respected.
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We have to be independent and know who we are and what we are made of, before we start looking for a partner. Independence doesn't mean incapability to share or misplaced priorities, it only means we are able to stand on our own 
I would prefer a man who says "I need you cause I love you"
to a man who says "I love you cause I need you"
I would prefer a man who says "I need you cause I love you"
to a man who says "I love you cause I need you"
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nataliemkd: We have to be independent and know who we are and what we are made of, before we start looking for a partner. Independence doesn't mean incapability to share or misplaced priorities, it only means we are able to stand on our own
I would prefer a man who says "I need you cause I love you"
to a man who says "I love you cause I need you"
I would prefer a man who says "I need you cause I love you"
to a man who says "I love you cause I need you"
absolutely
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There are independent people and they are hermits who doesn't like being around other people. So as long as we are discussing a normal independent woman I see no problem with it. I wouldn't want to be with a needy person. A lady who has a life and activities, interests, and her own friends isn't a problem with me. We would enjoy everything else which is more than enough.
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bodleing: As opposed to 'dependent' people?
I don't think we are independent or dependent people unless we are self sufficient and live on an island. We are all interdependent just to greater or lesser extents I suppose.
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nataliemkd: We have to be independent and know who we are and what we are made of, before we start looking for a partner. Independence doesn't mean incapability to share or misplaced priorities, it only means we are able to stand on our own
I would prefer a man who says "I need you cause I love you"
to a man who says "I love you cause I need you"
I would prefer a man who says "I need you cause I love you"
to a man who says "I love you cause I need you"
Well said! Thank you. I prefer to want someone rather than need someone, because I love them.
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In response to: Curious here. Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"? Do they share? Are they "me" people." If people are looking for a long-term-relationship with Love/Companion as the driving force/desire (not money, status, games etc,), will the "Independent" person make a good partner?
Probably the best in many ways, but not everybody can accept that their partner needs to maintain a certain amount of independence.
Independence and a loving nature can be an exciting blend for the right person.
I don´t agree with your suggestion that independent people are all money or status motivated either.
Who wants a clingy person with no life outside the relationship? I certainly don´t.
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Sure beats whiney, clingy, cant function on thier own type peeps
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JAN_is: Probably the best in many ways, but not everybody can accept that their partner needs to maintain a certain amount of independence.
Independence and a loving nature can be an exciting blend for the right person.
I don´t agree with your suggestion that independent people are all money or status motivated either.
Who wants a clingy person with no life outside the relationship? I certainly don´t.
Independence and a loving nature can be an exciting blend for the right person.
I don´t agree with your suggestion that independent people are all money or status motivated either.
Who wants a clingy person with no life outside the relationship? I certainly don´t.
Sorry, did not intend to then, and still not suggesting "that independent people are all money or status motivated either."
I believe you are referring to my mention of motivation that fits "anyone" looking for a LTR/marriage.
Fact: not everyone is looking for marriage motivated out of love.
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galrads: Sorry, did not intend to then, and still not suggesting "that independent people are all money or status motivated either."
I believe you are referring to my mention of motivation that fits "anyone" looking for a LTR/marriage.
Fact: not everyone is looking for marriage motivated out of love.
I believe you are referring to my mention of motivation that fits "anyone" looking for a LTR/marriage.
Fact: not everyone is looking for marriage motivated out of love.
No need to apologize.
But I think you´ll find that there are a lot more people looking for an LTR solely motivated by money rather than love who are not the independent type.
Financial independence means one doesn´t have to seek out a partner who can support them.
The downside is that independent people may find it more difficult to commit to a relationship, particularly if the other is unwilling to accept their independent nature.
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JAN_is: No need to apologize.
But I think you´ll find that there are a lot more people looking for an LTR solely motivated by money rather than love who are not the independent type.
Financial independence means one doesn´t have to seek out a partner who can support them.
The downside is that independent people may find it more difficult to commit to a relationship, particularly if the other is unwilling to accept their independent nature.
But I think you´ll find that there are a lot more people looking for an LTR solely motivated by money rather than love who are not the independent type.
Financial independence means one doesn´t have to seek out a partner who can support them.
The downside is that independent people may find it more difficult to commit to a relationship, particularly if the other is unwilling to accept their independent nature.
I do agree with you here because I can attest to it. No matter how hot my blood runs for a guy - I do what I want in my free time.....I will probably want to be with him......but of I have plans to go shopping but he wants me to mow the lawn
he can hire the neighbor kid
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felixis99: I do agree with you here because I can attest to it. No matter how hot my blood runs for a guy - I do what I want in my free time.....I will probably want to be with him......but of I have plans to go shopping but he wants me to mow the lawnhe can hire the neighbor kid
unless he just wants to watch me mow the lawn in my bikini
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felixis99: unless he just wants to watch me mow the lawn in my bikini
I see. or would like to see!
What if the love of your life is sick, really sick, and the weather forecast calls for rain later that afternoon and the rest of the week, your lawn service left town and you expected them three weeks ago, your family is coming into town to visit this weekend too..... ?
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galrads: Curious here. Can or Do "Independent" people make good "Partners"? Do they share? Are they "me" people." If people are looking for a long-term-relationship with Love/Companion as the driving force/desire (not money, status, games etc,), will the "Independent" person make a good partner?
"Independent" is not synonymous with "selfish". Some independent people just like knowing that if anything goes wrong (in relationships, in life, etc), the will still be able to take care of themselves. Independence provides a sort of security. Independent people make good partners because they are reliable and dependable.
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galrads: I see. or would like to see!
What if the love of your life is sick, really sick, and the weather forecast calls for rain later that afternoon and the rest of the week, your lawn service left town and you expected them three weeks ago, your family is coming into town to visit this weekend too..... ?
What if the love of your life is sick, really sick, and the weather forecast calls for rain later that afternoon and the rest of the week, your lawn service left town and you expected them three weeks ago, your family is coming into town to visit this weekend too..... ?
shopping
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