"Feelings/Vulnerability" ( Archived) (9)

DO you women have a monopoly on them? Do you guys really believe us men are not vulnerable or we have feelings? In reading past forums, looking back through my "history book", it seems that way to me. I could be wrong though.. It appears "to me", we sometimes find it easy to place all the blame on another, and not bother to look at what role we played..

This morning, I was reading "my" history book.. (I have a dear friend that always says it is OK to look back, just don't stare) I was reading the pages of what might have been. Some time back I was dating a beautiful woman, I loved her to the point that "her" happiness was all I really cared about. I often told her I wanted her to be happy, even if that excluded me in her life. I did what I "could" to please her, it was not enough.

She told me many times how much she loved me, my reality is that she wanted someone to love but I did not fill the bill. I absolutely cherished every moment I spent with her (yes even the bad times), but she would have a few toddies and what I perceive as the truth came out. The daggers in her eyes when she looked at me, the harshness of the words she said. Like knives through my heart. Because of what I have been, and been through in life, I could easily let it go.

I tried my best ladies, I honestly think all of us guys do. When you complain about how we treat you, please remember most of us had our mothers as our teachers. When we ask you to teach us, please do not be so critical and tell us you are to old to be our teachers. If we can be willing students, why can't you help us? What is a relationship anyway except loving and being there for each other. If we didn't care enough about you to be willing learners, do you think we would bother to ask.

Just some of "MY" feelings I have chosen to post today, things have happened that have made me very "angry" towards my mother. I have had to take an in depth look at the women I have chosen, AND THE ROLE "I" PLAYED..

Peace and love to all...

And it´s all so easy and oft done to put the blame on mothers.

You contradict yourself here P talking about accepting blame then placing some of that blame on your mother.

How is your mother blamed for how you loved someone and they did not love you the same?
You choose to love and that is all it takes to get hurt love is a hurting game and some dont know how to play nice
your mother taught you to love in spite off someone`s faults and failures you did right but not all women you will meet will be ready for that kind of love they feel so unworthy and pushed people like that right out of their lives

Obviously, I am getting ANYTHING across to women here..

I can't open up and be vulnerabw with the world...some people just want to talk about news and weather..artificial things.There's only one or two people in my world I can open up to and be vulnerable...and it's o.k.

It's all I need...

vulnerable...