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Tulefel: I’m confused… Does it mean that you’ve met that special person and are about to relocate? Or, judging by “WTF” expression, you are discontent with that?
Shall one congratulate you
or comfort?
Shall one congratulate you
or comfort?
I met her on 4 seperate occasions. It was me that did all the travelling to meet with her.
We spoke about the future and I made the commitment to relocate.
She had her reasons for not doing so, but they were not as compelling as mine.
I lost the trust in the relationship and it eneded.
An LDR is bloody hard work and if you loose trust you have nothing.
In some ways I am glad that it ended. I am still with my boys as I didn't make the relocation.
On so my search goes on.
from all your flirting a while ago, it looks like the search is over.
somelikeithot500: from all your flirting a while ago, it looks like the search is over.
Flirting is one thing, getting close to someone is quite another !
Englishman55: I met her on 4 seperate occasions. It was me that did all the travelling to meet with her.
We spoke about the future and I made the commitment to relocate.
She had her reasons for not doing so, but they were not as compelling as mine.
I lost the trust in the relationship and it eneded.
An LDR is bloody hard work and if you loose trust you have nothing.
In some ways I am glad that it ended. I am still with my boys as I didn't make the relocation.
On so my search goes on.
We spoke about the future and I made the commitment to relocate.
She had her reasons for not doing so, but they were not as compelling as mine.
I lost the trust in the relationship and it eneded.
An LDR is bloody hard work and if you loose trust you have nothing.
In some ways I am glad that it ended. I am still with my boys as I didn't make the relocation.
On so my search goes on.
Well… trust is the ground for any relationship, but yes, long distance sucks…
And good luck with discovering new horizons!
Englishman55: Flirting is one thing, getting close to someone is quite another !
I agree and it seems to be real hard to find somebody that has the same feeling in the regard of commitment and a longterm relationship. Dating can only be fun for so long?????????????
josingleinspain: I agree and it seems to be real hard to find somebody that has the same feeling in the regard of commitment and a longterm relationship. Dating can only be fun for so long?????????????
I think that's where people go wrong in relationships. They stop dating their parteners...Also I don't think most people aren't afraid of commitment but they are afraid of failure. Most people here on CS (not an insult) but let's face it folks we're damaged goods. i don't know but they may have an abusive-intrusive ex that puts a spanner in the works when ever you get a good thing going. Throw into the mix kids...Would you date someone who didn't get on with your kids or vice-versa...
Phoenix: I think that's where people go wrong in relationships. They stop dating their parteners...Also I don't think most people aren't afraid of commitment but they are afraid of failure. Most people here on CS (not an insult) but let's face it folks we're damaged goods. i don't know but they may have an abusive-intrusive ex that puts a spanner in the works when ever you get a good thing going. Throw into the mix kids...Would you date someone who didn't get on with your kids or vice-versa...
I had this feeling about us all a long time ago ....... but I wouldnt call it "damaged goods" ... I`d say Very Experienced.....Been thru the mill types....? Everyone here seems such nice genuine sorts, all searching for the same nice genuine partner...? (okay, sometimes an odd-bod creeps in, but they get recognised very soon and make a quick escape).I stayed here because I got so used to the characters here, and enjoy the forums. But ...I had totally given up making any sort of LDR - just using the forum for friendship and communication. Oh I did make some nice friends, especially Conrad, and Rusty from Gozo, and Marti from Malta, and a few others....even Phoenix!
.. And then I just met and clicked with a local guy in my village! Wow ..... and 4 months later we still an item, getting better all the time, and I`m hoping it lasts, considering my age and how much longer I got to go dancing and drinking before donning my last outfit for departure to another planet.....
smoky: I had this feeling about us all a long time ago ....... but I wouldnt call it "damaged goods" ... I`d say Very Experienced.....Been thru the mill types....? Everyone here seems such nice genuine sorts, all searching for the same nice genuine partner...? (okay, sometimes an odd-bod creeps in, but they get recognised very soon and make a quick escape).
I stayed here because I got so used to the characters here, and enjoy the forums. But ...I had totally given up making any sort of LDR - just using the forum for friendship and communication. Oh I did make some nice friends, especially Conrad, and Rusty from Gozo, and Marti from Malta, and a few others....even Phoenix!
.. And then I just met and clicked with a local guy in my village! Wow ..... and 4 months later we still an item, getting better all the time, and I`m hoping it lasts, considering my age and how much longer I got to go dancing and drinking before donning my last outfit for departure to another planet.....
I stayed here because I got so used to the characters here, and enjoy the forums. But ...I had totally given up making any sort of LDR - just using the forum for friendship and communication. Oh I did make some nice friends, especially Conrad, and Rusty from Gozo, and Marti from Malta, and a few others....even Phoenix!
.. And then I just met and clicked with a local guy in my village! Wow ..... and 4 months later we still an item, getting better all the time, and I`m hoping it lasts, considering my age and how much longer I got to go dancing and drinking before donning my last outfit for departure to another planet.....
LOL Smoky Definately hit the nail on the head-experianced,been through the mill types..hope you continue well with him hun.
Phoenix: I think that's where people go wrong in relationships. They stop dating their parteners...Also I don't think most people aren't afraid of commitment but they are afraid of failure. Most people here on CS (not an insult) but let's face it folks we're damaged goods. i don't know but they may have an abusive-intrusive ex that puts a spanner in the works when ever you get a good thing going. Throw into the mix kids...Would you date someone who didn't get on with your kids or vice-versa...
I have no ex alive to throw spanners,and since my kids have similar values to me,i cant see them disliking anyone i like-unless i am not seeing him realistically.
I think perhaps many of us are looking before we have healed from the last relationship breakup(damaged goods)-plus when we are ready,it is just really really hard to find like minded people as we get older,we get more complicated and set in our unique ideas-not as malleable as we were at 21 for example,its not so easy to find a fit.
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For me it is a sign that I am totally CRAP at the whole 'bar scene' thing that is the staple option here in Spain. But commitment? If I 'felt' it, I'd do whatever I could to make it work. I'd even consider relocation, even though that's a serious difficulty for me and for many others. But for 'her'. I'd find a way to make it work.
It’s completely fine not to agree with me: I’ve never claimed to be a prophet (and, please don’t tell anyone, but I do write a lot of rubbish…)
As to International dating site, commitment and relocation… of course, people have different views on the subject and I don’t want to question anyone’s ability to commit, but what I have noticed: “Happy end” stories across borders – when the two have found each other – often have some features in common:
It’s either a language in common, and a lot of cultural/educational/financial background as well (which means that those who moved have good chances to get a job at once or have enough money to spend some time without job)…
Or the partner comes from poorer circumstances and relocates to richer ones when the “recipient” can support her/him during some time.
And one doesn’t have to look after commitment in local pubs, it’s also possible with a local dating site. I mean, it’s more realistic after all, isn’t it?