would you stay in a relationship when.............? (172)
kagal: I need some advice here.
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Nothing you can do will change the situation.
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No, I probably wouldn't continue to date him. The fact that he is allowing his daughter to run the household and treat him like the child is a true sign of his character.
I can only see problems in the future.....this is just my opinion though.
Maybe discuss this with him and see if there is a chance that he might change the situation. Maybe he doesn't realize what he is allowing to happen.
I can only see problems in the future.....this is just my opinion though.
Maybe discuss this with him and see if there is a chance that he might change the situation. Maybe he doesn't realize what he is allowing to happen.
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kagal: I need some advice here.
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
i would'nt date a dad...BUT....Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
i think it shows good character for the guy to be so devoted to his daughter....weither or not the child is being spoiled is another issue...but on the other hand it would be very hard to deal with, having lost the childs mother and must be hard for the child...the thing would be, could YOU become friends with the child ??...or are you a little jealous of the dads devotion to said child ??
just a thought...
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Nope, if he is not strong enough to stand up to a 9 year old do you really think he is strong enough for a fulfilling relationship?
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That sounds like a tough challenge!
If you are dating somebody with kids, it's a very sensitive relationship because the last thing you want is to get in between them or impose any ultimatums.
I think he is the one that needs to handle the relationship better if he is interested in continuing to see you.
A single father is never an easy thing but nevertheless, he's an adult father and he's responsible for his family.
He can look for help , counseling on how to deal with his daughter's rejection of a potential stepmother, find out if that's his daughter's real issue or maybe she's just not too connected with you.....and then act upon it!
You can be the partner and his support if you really have hopes that it could lead somewhere!
If you are dating somebody with kids, it's a very sensitive relationship because the last thing you want is to get in between them or impose any ultimatums.
I think he is the one that needs to handle the relationship better if he is interested in continuing to see you.
A single father is never an easy thing but nevertheless, he's an adult father and he's responsible for his family.
He can look for help , counseling on how to deal with his daughter's rejection of a potential stepmother, find out if that's his daughter's real issue or maybe she's just not too connected with you.....and then act upon it!
You can be the partner and his support if you really have hopes that it could lead somewhere!
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when I did mention it to him and well he told me to never tell him mention it to him again.
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jlw45: i would'nt date a dad...BUT....
i think it shows good character for the guy to be so devoted to his daughter....weither or not the child is being spoiled is another issue...but on the other hand it would be very hard to deal with, having lost the childs mother and must be hard for the child...the thing would be, could YOU become friends with the child ??...or are you a little jealous of the dads devotion to said child ??
just a thought...
i think it shows good character for the guy to be so devoted to his daughter....weither or not the child is being spoiled is another issue...but on the other hand it would be very hard to deal with, having lost the childs mother and must be hard for the child...the thing would be, could YOU become friends with the child ??...or are you a little jealous of the dads devotion to said child ??
just a thought...
jlw....would you say that there is a difference between devotion and allowing the child to run over you?
I'm devoted to my child, but I also rule the roost.
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Then you have your answer!
Start looking!
Start looking!
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kagal: when I did mention it to him and well he told me to never tell him mention it to him again.
Wow! That's really not leaving you with a lot of rope to hang on to.
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kagal: He doesn't take anyone around his child so being friends with the child was a big NO.
How long have you been dating?
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woodzchick: jlw....would you say that there is a difference between devotion and allowing the child to run over you?
I'm devoted to my child, but I also rule the roost.
I'm devoted to my child, but I also rule the roost.
well yea, i guess you're right... dump the jerk !!!...
i'm just sayin'...the kid lost her mother...i know that has to be a hard thing to deal with all the way around...but life must go on...and yea, i know what you're saying...
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kagal: He doesn't take anyone around his child so being friends with the child was a big NO.
well than, that does'nt say much for a "future", does it ??..
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kagal: I need some advice here.
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?
Yes I would, and would know within myself that this child is so frightened, that she may lose her father as well, grief, is a many sad thing, I would really ease myself in slowly and if she runs the household, what a wonderful child!, respect her and show her.
She is terrified that she may lose her dad too. friendship is to be built here and time allowance and a lot of time with her dad alone, that's ok, doing this could make a beautiful impact on this childs lonely life, if its the father you really want in your life she shall always be there, remember he needs her too, so very much.... Your decision.
Lovelly thread..
Sophia
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Walk away. There is nothing you can do as it is not your place to do so.
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sophiasummer: Yes I would, and would know within myself that this child is so frightened, that she may lose her father as well, grief, is a many sad thing, I would really ease myself in slowly and if she runs the household, what a wonderful child!, respect her and show her.
She is terrified that she may lose her dad too. friendship is to be built here and time allowance and a lot of time with her dad alone, that's ok, doing this could make a beautiful impact on this childs lonely life, if its the father you really want in your life she shall always be there, remember he needs her too, so very much.... Your decision.
Lovelly thread..
Sophia
Hi sophiasummer She is terrified that she may lose her dad too. friendship is to be built here and time allowance and a lot of time with her dad alone, that's ok, doing this could make a beautiful impact on this childs lonely life, if its the father you really want in your life she shall always be there, remember he needs her too, so very much.... Your decision.
Lovelly thread..
Sophia
very nice advice
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Veritaas: Walk away. There is nothing you can do as it is not your place to do so.
I couldn't say it better!! or even type it ,,lol;-}
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MovinFWD: Hi sophiasummer very nice advice
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Would you continue to dating someone who's 9 year old daughter controls the parent?
The 9 year old doesn't want her Dad to date anyone. If he goes out he has to hide anyone in his life to the daugther and when he does go out the daughter will stay up to drill the father of where he went, if he met any women, what he did and who went with him.
Her mother passed away 3 years ago but the child runs the house now.
Any advice on what you would do in this situation?