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May 13, 2010 11:31 AM CST How important is the physical?
nicki_love
nicki_lovenicki_loveoriginally from Venus, Port of Spain Trinidad and Tobago19 Threads 552 Posts
Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!

Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...
cheers
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May 13, 2010 11:34 AM CST How important is the physical?
kinseycy
kinseycykinseycyLarnaca, Cyprus13 Threads 1 Polls 357 Posts
nicki_love: Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!

Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...


of course, at the end of the day looks fade, personality is with you for a lifetime.
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May 13, 2010 11:34 AM CST How important is the physical?
jimmyl
jimmyljimmyldurham, Durham, England UK24 Threads 691 Posts
nicki_love: Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!

Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...


depends on how much ive had to drink! he might look ok after another vodka!cheers
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May 13, 2010 11:35 AM CST How important is the physical?
nicki_love
nicki_lovenicki_loveoriginally from Venus, Port of Spain Trinidad and Tobago19 Threads 552 Posts
kinseycy: of course, at the end of the day looks fade, personality is with you for a lifetime.


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May 13, 2010 11:45 AM CST How important is the physical?
telgordo
telgordotelgordoalicante/murcia, Murcia Spain22 Threads 1 Polls 742 Posts
nicki_love: Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!

Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...


It would be nice just to get to the chatting stage moping

But seriously i think within half an hour or so of meeting someone you get a feeling whether or not you are going to gel

If you do ,and you can laugh about things together,you are halfway there
Sometimes this is more important than physical appearance

Anyway as you get older your looks tend to fade
But your personality will always be with you redclown
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May 13, 2010 11:54 AM CST How important is the physical?
opentuit
opentuitopentuitKnoxville, Tennessee USA15 Threads 2 Polls 3,127 Posts
nicki_love: Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!

Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...



Physical attraction is important to me because I want a s*xual relationship with my husband, and I won't apologize for that. I need what I need. I am also well aware that personality characteristics and the way someone interacts with me changes what I "see" to a certain degree.

Also-- I have noticed over the years that I am not drawn to GQ looks by any means and never have been, nor am I attracted to big muscley types. Then men I'm attracted to apparently look pretty "ordinary" in their own eyes.... because they are often surprised when I tell them what I SEE.
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May 13, 2010 11:55 AM CST How important is the physical?
AsleepInNJ
AsleepInNJAsleepInNJCherry Hill, New Jersey USA62 Threads 3 Polls 4,068 Posts
kinseycy: of course, at the end of the day looks fade, personality is with you for a lifetime.


most people talk the talk but very few walk the walk. and the few that does are truly the special ones. grin cheers
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May 13, 2010 11:59 AM CST How important is the physical?
Nawzis
NawzisNawzisMsida, Majjistral Malta14 Posts
opentuit: Physical attraction is important to me because I want a s*xual relationship with my husband, and I won't apologize for that. I need what I need. I am also well aware that personality characteristics and the way someone interacts with me changes what I "see" to a certain degree.

Also-- I have noticed over the years that I am not drawn to GQ looks by any means and never have been, nor am I attracted to big muscley types. Then men I'm attracted to apparently look pretty "ordinary" in their own eyes.... because they are often surprised when I tell them what I SEE.


A compatible personality can make me see the most ordinary man as the most handsome in time. Of course there has to be a general appeal about the man which you can't define. I've found myself falling gradually in love with men who were quite ordinary looking but had an overall something about them; manliness and kindness mostly.
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May 13, 2010 12:02 PM CST How important is the physical?
oldsoul475
oldsoul475oldsoul475central, New Jersey USA2 Threads 79 Posts
I typically go for go for a small girl 5'1 5'2 olive skin brown or blond hair. blonds with dark skin and a smile I swallow my tongue. small feet small hands, Cause it makes everthing look bigger.lol a nice butt like those pants where molded to here. sweet funny smart goal drive values Lady like.. hum mm Are you out there?? typing And I would settle 4somthing close to this..
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May 13, 2010 12:04 PM CST How important is the physical?
AsleepInNJ
AsleepInNJAsleepInNJCherry Hill, New Jersey USA62 Threads 3 Polls 4,068 Posts
oldsoul475: I typically go for go for a small girl 5'1 5'2 olive skin brown or blond hair. blonds with dark skin and a smile I swallow my tongue. small feet small hands, Cause it makes everthing look bigger.lol a nice butt like those pants where molded to here. sweet funny smart goal drive values Lady like.. hum mm Are you out there?? And I would settle 4somthing close to this..


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May 13, 2010 12:05 PM CST How important is the physical?
tainogirl
tainogirltainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago368 Threads 7 Polls 6,888 Posts
nicki_love: Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!

Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...


While I've been know to overlook some stuff when it comes to the physical but lets face it settling sucks big time. I want the whole shabang, the looks, the personality, the compatability etc... settling for less is just well - settling. I'm greedy and proud of it!devil
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May 13, 2010 12:06 PM CST How important is the physical?
AsleepInNJ
AsleepInNJAsleepInNJCherry Hill, New Jersey USA62 Threads 3 Polls 4,068 Posts
tainogirl: While I've been know to overlook some stuff when it comes to the physical but lets face it settling sucks big time. I want the whole shabang, the looks, the personality, the compatability etc... settling for less is just well - settling. I'm greedy and proud of it!


you could also never find that person either. oops. dunno grin cheers
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May 13, 2010 12:07 PM CST How important is the physical?
tainogirl
tainogirltainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago368 Threads 7 Polls 6,888 Posts
AsleepInNJ: you could also never find that person either. oops.


Really? Says who?wine
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May 13, 2010 12:10 PM CST How important is the physical?
Of course. I have been in love with the most handsome perfect man in the world. The father of my children. He was physically perfect. It did not work I have know another man who is not the general thinking perfect good looks. He is the greatest man alive to me. His voice his walk, His buissness. His politness. his everything! I have to say once someone is in your jead and you know what you like it is hard to not be in love with the preson no matter what he looks like. There are people who have an energy. it is just the best.yawn
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May 13, 2010 12:11 PM CST How important is the physical?
I3estman4u
I3estman4uI3estman4uEdmonton, Alberta Canada3 Threads 888 Posts
tainogirl: Really? Says who?


Those that settle. rolling on the floor laughing
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May 13, 2010 12:12 PM CST How important is the physical?
AsleepInNJ
AsleepInNJAsleepInNJCherry Hill, New Jersey USA62 Threads 3 Polls 4,068 Posts
tainogirl: Really? Says who?


i'm sure people who have lofty goals do find that person but many don't either.
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May 13, 2010 12:14 PM CST How important is the physical?
tainogirl
tainogirltainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago368 Threads 7 Polls 6,888 Posts
I3estman4u: Those that settle.


True dat.wine
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May 13, 2010 12:17 PM CST How important is the physical?
tainogirl
tainogirltainogirlTrincity,West Indies,, Trinidad and Tobago368 Threads 7 Polls 6,888 Posts
AsleepInNJ: i'm sure people who have lofty goals do find that person but many don't either.


Its got nothing to do with lofty goals -its about knowing what you want. We all want someone don't we? Sure there is the chance of not finding them but heck it sure beats settling for what you DON'T WANT.wine
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May 13, 2010 12:18 PM CST How important is the physical?
cherrybrandy
cherrybrandycherrybrandycambridge, Cambridgeshire, England UK27 Threads 11,238 Posts
why notconfused
if the right personality is thereheart wings
chat is smooth,we can laugh together
and accept each other the way we arehug
i wouldnt be bothered he hasnt got the "right"skin color,hair color,height,weight,eyes,etc....
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May 13, 2010 12:21 PM CST How important is the physical?
AsleepInNJ
AsleepInNJAsleepInNJCherry Hill, New Jersey USA62 Threads 3 Polls 4,068 Posts
tainogirl: Its got nothing to do with lofty goals -its about knowing what you want. We all want someone don't we? Sure there is the chance of not finding them but heck it sure beats settling for what you DON'T WANT.


in the context of how i was using the term lofty goals i was referring to wants or desires. and one thing i don't WANT is someone who is annoyingly argumentative and likes to split hairs. grin cheers
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