How important is the physical? (99)
nicki_love: Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!
Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...
Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...
of course, at the end of the day looks fade, personality is with you for a lifetime.
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nicki_love: Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!
Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...
Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...
depends on how much ive had to drink! he might look ok after another vodka!
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kinseycy: of course, at the end of the day looks fade, personality is with you for a lifetime.
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nicki_love: Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!
Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...
Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...
It would be nice just to get to the chatting stage
But seriously i think within half an hour or so of meeting someone you get a feeling whether or not you are going to gel
If you do ,and you can laugh about things together,you are halfway there
Sometimes this is more important than physical appearance
Anyway as you get older your looks tend to fade
But your personality will always be with you
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kinseycy: of course, at the end of the day looks fade, personality is with you for a lifetime.
most people talk the talk but very few walk the walk. and the few that does are truly the special ones.
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nicki_love: Ok.. generally speaking. You meet someone who is not normally what you would look for physically. He/She is NOT ugly but has some features that you usually bypass.. However, you begin chatting with this person by a fluke and realise that they are really wonderful.. can you put aside your feelings about their physical appearance or will you allow that to get in the way of a possible meaningful relationship?? All opinions welcomed!
Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...
Btw.. I am not speaking about myself here ok.. so please dont say "well if the man doesnt like what you look like then blah blah blah".. lol.. This is a hypothetical question! So please answer based on your opinion as if you were in the situation...
While I've been know to overlook some stuff when it comes to the physical but lets face it settling sucks big time. I want the whole shabang, the looks, the personality, the compatability etc... settling for less is just well - settling. I'm greedy and proud of it!
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tainogirl: While I've been know to overlook some stuff when it comes to the physical but lets face it settling sucks big time. I want the whole shabang, the looks, the personality, the compatability etc... settling for less is just well - settling. I'm greedy and proud of it!
you could also never find that person either. oops.
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AsleepInNJ: you could also never find that person either. oops.
Really? Says who?
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Of course. I have been in love with the most handsome perfect man in the world. The father of my children. He was physically perfect. It did not work I have know another man who is not the general thinking perfect good looks. He is the greatest man alive to me. His voice his walk, His buissness. His politness. his everything! I have to say once someone is in your jead and you know what you like it is hard to not be in love with the preson no matter what he looks like. There are people who have an energy. it is just the best.
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tainogirl: Really? Says who?
Those that settle.
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tainogirl: Really? Says who?
i'm sure people who have lofty goals do find that person but many don't either.
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I3estman4u: Those that settle.
True dat.
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AsleepInNJ: i'm sure people who have lofty goals do find that person but many don't either.
Its got nothing to do with lofty goals -its about knowing what you want. We all want someone don't we? Sure there is the chance of not finding them but heck it sure beats settling for what you DON'T WANT.
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why not
if the right personality is there
chat is smooth,we can laugh together
and accept each other the way we are
i wouldnt be bothered he hasnt got the "right"skin color,hair color,height,weight,eyes,etc....
if the right personality is there
chat is smooth,we can laugh together
and accept each other the way we are
i wouldnt be bothered he hasnt got the "right"skin color,hair color,height,weight,eyes,etc....
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tainogirl: Its got nothing to do with lofty goals -its about knowing what you want. We all want someone don't we? Sure there is the chance of not finding them but heck it sure beats settling for what you DON'T WANT.
in the context of how i was using the term lofty goals i was referring to wants or desires. and one thing i don't WANT is someone who is annoyingly argumentative and likes to split hairs.
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cherrybrandy: why not
if the right personality is there
chat is smooth,we can laugh together
and accept each other the way we are
i wouldnt be bothered he hasnt got the "right"skin color,hair color,height,weight,eyes,etc....
if the right personality is there
chat is smooth,we can laugh together
and accept each other the way we are
i wouldnt be bothered he hasnt got the "right"skin color,hair color,height,weight,eyes,etc....
because there are so called "shallow" people and then there is you.
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I think if everyone is being honest with themselves that we'd all say that physical attraction is very important!!! At least in the beginning of a relationship. Let's be honest.... when shopping for melons (no PUN intended)we don't walk up to the wrinkled up smooshy blemished ones first now do we? We squeeze on the bright colorful ones that have no blemishes and are firm etc. (again no PUN intended)
Having said that, after you start to get to know someone their physical beauty can change drastically in your eyes. I have dated women who in the beginning did not jump out and grab my attention at all but after getting to know them they became exceptionally attractive to me. Like wise I have dated a woman who was "drop dead gorgeous!!" I mean all eyes were drawn to this woman every time I took her out anywhere!!! But after getting to know her she became quite unattractive.
Having said that, after you start to get to know someone their physical beauty can change drastically in your eyes. I have dated women who in the beginning did not jump out and grab my attention at all but after getting to know them they became exceptionally attractive to me. Like wise I have dated a woman who was "drop dead gorgeous!!" I mean all eyes were drawn to this woman every time I took her out anywhere!!! But after getting to know her she became quite unattractive.
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dsmidiman: I think if everyone is being honest with themselves that we'd all say that physical attraction is very important!!! At least in the beginning of a relationship. Let's be honest.... when shopping for melons (no PUN intended)we don't walk up to the wrinkled up smooshy blemished ones first now do we? We squeeze on the bright colorful ones that have no blemishes and are firm etc. (again no PUN intended)
Having said that, after you start to get to know someone their physical beauty can change drastically in your eyes. I have dated women who in the beginning did not jump out and grab my attention at all but after getting to know them they became exceptionally attractive to me. Like wise I have dated a woman who was "drop dead gorgeous!!" I mean all eyes were drawn to this woman every time I took her out anywhere!!! But after getting to know her she became quite unattractive.
Having said that, after you start to get to know someone their physical beauty can change drastically in your eyes. I have dated women who in the beginning did not jump out and grab my attention at all but after getting to know them they became exceptionally attractive to me. Like wise I have dated a woman who was "drop dead gorgeous!!" I mean all eyes were drawn to this woman every time I took her out anywhere!!! But after getting to know her she became quite unattractive.
this is very true but you know what? some people never get past that first or second date to see the true beauty or whatever you want to call it.
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cherrybrandy: why not
if the right personality is there
chat is smooth,we can laugh together
and accept each other the way we are
i wouldnt be bothered he hasnt got the "right"skin color,hair color,height,weight,eyes,etc....
if the right personality is there
chat is smooth,we can laugh together
and accept each other the way we are
i wouldnt be bothered he hasnt got the "right"skin color,hair color,height,weight,eyes,etc....
that is so, so true. sometimes ill even sleep with fat ginger people who work in a shop and like cats!
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