Funny how we change.. (29)
MrInteresting: as people.
Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
Why? What's wrong now?
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MrInteresting: as people.
Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
I think you could charm the birds off the trees if you wanted to. It is only your self confidence that has changed.
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mychelle: Why? What's wrong now?
Dunno. Just feel that I do not have the same level of confidence, I guess -
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GingerBe: I think you could charm the birds off the trees if you wanted to. It is only your self confidence that has changed.
I think so. Getting it back is another matter. I am confident when I get to know the person a bit, now, however, I would love to have that same level that I once had. However, some people, when they change, they change for good.
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In response to: as people.
Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
Why do you think you can´t be so confident now? I´ve never been that confident, being rather shy all my life in social settings, though I have conquered it to some degree, at least in my work, but people I know who have been as confident you in the past don´t seem to lose it.
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JAN_is: Why do you think you can´t be so confident now? I´ve never been that confident, being rather shy all my life in social settings, though I have conquered it to some degree, at least in my work, but people I know who have been as confident you in the past don´t seem to lose it.
I guess a lot has happened in the last decade, and it can kinda chip away at you. You don't so much choose to change, it happens, gradual, over a period of time.
Same happened with me and tears. I used to show tears if i were hurt. For some time I have found it hard to. I can still hurt, but it is rare I would show tears, anymore.
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MrInteresting: I guess a lot has happened in the last decade, and it can kinda chip away at you. You don't so much choose to change, it happens, gradual, over a period of time.
Same happened with me and tears. I used to show tears if i were hurt. For some time I have found it hard to. I can still hurt, but it is rare I would show tears, anymore.
Same happened with me and tears. I used to show tears if i were hurt. For some time I have found it hard to. I can still hurt, but it is rare I would show tears, anymore.
Do you now believe that has to do with real men don't cry syndrome. To me it is good when you can cry, get it out your system.
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MrInteresting: as people.
Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
The real shame is it sounds like you gave up. Can't be doing that.Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
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Getting out there is like riding a bike...even if you dont do it for awile...you dont forget how, and the more you do, the more confident you become at it 
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MrInteresting: Dunno. Just feel that I do not have the same level of confidence, I guess -
Now did part of you disappeared in previous relationships? What I mean is did your sparks just went out after you gave all you got, all you could. Thus leaving you drained of feelings, emotions?
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MrInteresting: I guess a lot has happened in the last decade, and it can kinda chip away at you. You don't so much choose to change, it happens, gradual, over a period of time.
Same happened with me and tears. I used to show tears if i were hurt. For some time I have found it hard to. I can still hurt, but it is rare I would show tears, anymore.
Same happened with me and tears. I used to show tears if i were hurt. For some time I have found it hard to. I can still hurt, but it is rare I would show tears, anymore.
Seems like you have been hurt to such a degree that you now have a suit of armour!
Tears don´t have to be only for sad events in life, I cry, or well up at the slightest thing, for example on my birthday when I receive lovely messages from friends and family, films, children performing little plays in school, or today looking at the sweetest little homeless dog in a pet shop.
Don´t let yourself become too hard and afraid to show your feelings.
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MrInteresting: I think so. Getting it back is another matter. I am confident when I get to know the person a bit, now, however, I would love to have that same level that I once had. However, some people, when they change, they change for good.
I think that you just haven't had enough people that matter to you, telling you how wonderful you really are and how much you mean to them.
If we don't hear that enough to believe it, then sometimes we can get apathetic. Apathy can lead to depression and depression leads to even more lack of self esteem.
It might be beneficial to be around people, a bit more, who care about you.
You are aptly anmed on here. Your threads add a sparkle to the forums.
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MrInteresting: as people.
Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -
I am willing to bet that you could do it. The simple fact that you don't think you can do it will show, and that will have a big impact on how your approach is received.
(please slap me somebody if this sounds too nerdy)
I would be willing to bet that if we asked the women of the forum about how they feel about confidence (not arrogance), we would find that it plays a big role in who they are attracted to.
Give it a go!
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If a guy approaches me and asks me out..I am in awe of his confidence. I rarely get asked out..I end up doing all the asking..guys don't approach me..it's a huge turn off to find out they were too afraid to ask.
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nanners2863: If a guy approaches me and asks me out..I am in awe of his confidence. I rarely get asked out..I end up doing all the asking..guys don't approach me..it's a huge turn off to find out they were too afraid to ask.
True dat Nanners
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venusenvy: Getting out there is like riding a bike...even if you dont do it for awile...you dont forget how, and the more you do, the more confident you become at it
I need training wheels before I can stay up....
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nanners2863: If a guy approaches me and asks me out..I am in awe of his confidence. I rarely get asked out..I end up doing all the asking..guys don't approach me..it's a huge turn off to find out they were too afraid to ask.
Will you go out with me ?? 
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mychelle: Do you now believe that has to do with real men don't cry syndrome. To me it is good when you can cry, get it out your system.
Oh no, not that at all. I used to be able to cry, and felt goood for it. Now, well, it just doesn't seem to be there, anymore, as if someone has removed the ducts! Even when I am really hurt, I cannot express it in tears. Not a good thing. :(
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mychelle: Now did part of you disappeared in previous relationships? What I mean is did your sparks just went out after you gave all you got, all you could. Thus leaving you drained of feelings, emotions?
Yes.
That is really accurate.
Now, deep down, it is still there, but, know what, it would take someone really special to even come close to changing that.
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Ten years or so ago, if I had been in a hair salon, and one of the girls caught my eye, or a waitress, I would think about it for a few hours, and ask them out. Sure, I would be a bit nervous, but it always worked!
Gives you a great lift when it does, as well.
Just thinking about how we change, as people, as I don't think I could do that now, I don't think I would be able to carry it off, as I once did. Which is a shame -