Post break up (47)
kinseycy: Why do some people keep on being nasty after you have broken up? Weeks and months later they say things to hurt you that you don't deserve.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
Seems like revenge…
I’ve had a former “friend” like that. She drank a lot and when drunk had a tendency to tell “truth” about her next men and women. I stopped to communicate with her, and, lo and behold, the “true stories” got even worst. A couple of times she made scenes in front of a public accusing me in leaving her. At a merci of a fate or some such? A rather tricky task to accomplish as she was married and had 2 children…
Disgusting and annoying… and difficult to defend yourself against that…
yep it is, it doesn't seem to matter if I respond or not. I'm sick of it now. Just want him to leave me alone. He's made it clear that he doesn't want a relationship but instead of moving on seems to take pleasure in being nasty to me.
Oh well, he'll find another form of entertainment soon I hope.
Oh well, he'll find another form of entertainment soon I hope.
kinseycy: yep it is, it doesn't seem to matter if I respond or not. I'm sick of it now. Just want him to leave me alone. He's made it clear that he doesn't want a relationship but instead of moving on seems to take pleasure in being nasty to me.
Oh well, he'll find another form of entertainment soon I hope.
Oh well, he'll find another form of entertainment soon I hope.
A very unpleasant situation, isn’t it? To show that it doesn’t affect you can help sometimes, perhaps he would lose interest in pestering you as his “efforts” don’t hit the target. To ridicule his behavior, to make some kind of a caricature of him in front of people that matters for him can work as well, as doing nothing, just suffering in silence, doesn’t. And the best of all is not to give a damn.
thanks Tule, I'm trying xx
kinseycy: Why do some people keep on being nasty after you have broken up? Weeks and months later they say things to hurt you that you don't deserve.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
A simple calm clear emotionless confrontation sometimes will help shame the person into better behavior-especially if they still on some level want your approval.
Why do they do it?well they are in pain in some way-probably cos they know they messed up,and don't know how to make the pain go away/or simply miss you,but don't know how to have a healthy relationship with you-so are trying to draw you into a row to have an explosive end cos they lack the power to detach as things stand.
tomboygirl: A simple calm clear emotionless confrontation sometimes will help shame the person into better behavior-especially if they still on some level want your approval.
Why do they do it?well they are in pain in some way-probably cos they know they messed up,and don't know how to make the pain go away/or simply miss you,but don't know how to have a healthy relationship with you-so are trying to draw you into a row to have an explosive end cos they lack the power to detach as things stand.
Why do they do it?well they are in pain in some way-probably cos they know they messed up,and don't know how to make the pain go away/or simply miss you,but don't know how to have a healthy relationship with you-so are trying to draw you into a row to have an explosive end cos they lack the power to detach as things stand.
thanks hunny, I'm trying very hard to ignore him. It's difficult but for the best. See you soon x
kinseycy: thanks hunny, I'm trying very hard to ignore him. It's difficult but for the best. See you soon x
sure see you soon-i am out of phone credit by the way....x
kinseycy: Why do some people keep on being nasty after you have broken up? Weeks and months later they say things to hurt you that you don't deserve.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
Maybe they just got nothing better to do in their lives...? You were the most exciting thing that happened to them .... and now they`re bored ..... or guilty of something....? ... or angry about losing their "control" over their "victim"....?
smoky: Maybe they just got nothing better to do in their lives...? You were the most exciting thing that happened to them .... and now they`re bored ..... or guilty of something....? ... or angry about losing their "control" over their "victim"....?
Hiya Smoky :). Putting 2 and 2 together he's got a dented ego after seeing me out with someone else. So I'm ignoring it, hope it will go away soon
kinseycy: Hiya Smoky :). Putting 2 and 2 together he's got a dented ego after seeing me out with someone else. So I'm ignoring it, hope it will go away soon
Oh yeah, the Dented Ego Syndrome! hahahaaaa ...... I had that one too - actually quite funny - I got this nice guy now ... and an ancient old "friend" who was so unreliable and "thought he was doing me a favour to offer a glass of wine" .... well, he`s been ringing my phone every single weekend pleading all sorts of pathetic excuses trying to get some attention. As I said, sad and funny, at the same time .. that a person hangs onto the past and tries to regurgitate something that never was, cause now they lost out.....More power to me!
.... for a change! hahaaa!... and to YOU!
kinseycy: Why do some people keep on being nasty after you have broken up? Weeks and months later they say things to hurt you that you don't deserve.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
It's to try and get a reaction from you... good or bad. Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
They are either trying to start dialogue again in the vain attempt to get you back or they are just trying to wind you up.
Completely ignore them. Do not be tempted to say anything back to them at all........ just let them stew in their own stupidity
Englishman55: It's to try and get a reaction from you... good or bad.
They are either trying to start dialogue again in the vain attempt to get you back or they are just trying to wind you up.
Completely ignore them. Do not be tempted to say anything back to them at all........ just let them stew in their own stupidity
They are either trying to start dialogue again in the vain attempt to get you back or they are just trying to wind you up.
Completely ignore them. Do not be tempted to say anything back to them at all........ just let them stew in their own stupidity
Hi P
I agree fully with your post. The worst thing you can do is start up the contact. The worst thing for him is to ignore them.
kinseycy: Why do some people keep on being nasty after you have broken up? Weeks and months later they say things to hurt you that you don't deserve.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
Maybe he was hoping you cooked Spaghetti Bolognaise the same as me?Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
kinseycy: Why do some people keep on being nasty after you have broken up? Weeks and months later they say things to hurt you that you don't deserve.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.
If they're like that, just be really glad you didn't end up with that person!
Thanks for all your advice guys, I have ignored the last message he sent and so far nothing for the last 24 hours 
Let's hope it stays that way.
for you all xx
Let's hope it stays that way.
for you all xxkinseycy: Thanks for all your advice guys, I have ignored the last message he sent and so far nothing for the last 24 hours
Let's hope it stays that way. for you all xx
Let's hope it stays that way. for you all xx
Fingers crossed for you, good luck
Bental: Would you care to share your recipe for Spaghetti Bolognese with us? It must be really good.
............. Oh yes, it is! Really really very good! Very meaty tasting ... lots of sauce ..... mouth droolingly delicious!I`ll think about it. But only if I get more requests.
smoky: ............. Oh yes, it is! Really really very good! Very meaty tasting ... lots of sauce ..... mouth droolingly delicious!
I`ll think about it. But only if I get more requests.
I`ll think about it. But only if I get more requests.
Oh! One of those hard to get, are you?
Don't I count for nothing then?
Tell you what: We swap. You give me one, I give you one.
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Is it to just get under you skin? Is it to try to get communicating with you again? What is it? I don't understand.