About Men, Five Dreams Women Must Smash to Pieces ( Archived) (2)

It is my first time to create a thread, so I don’t know if I can do it correctly. I have come across an article and find it helpful, so I choose the main points and some important parts to paste here. I think it will help you a lot if you are still waiting for, looking for, or dreaming for Mr. Right but still can not find him.

1. The First Dream You Must Smash to Pieces: Love is Something That is Doomed in Your Own Destiny.

We always think that there must be somebody who only belongs to us. We always comfort ourselves that we will find that Mr. Right or Mr. Perfect. We always think that as long as we keep waiting, then he must appear or come back to our life. So we ignore other men.

But the fact is, he won’t. He only appears or comes back in films or story books, and in real life, most of “he” won’t appear or come back. That is reality. So we waste our youth to wait for somebody in the dream.

2. The Second Dream You Must Smash to Pieces: What He Loves is Your Inner Beauty, not Your Outside Beauty.

We may all hope that we will be the Jane Eyre in the modern time, because most of us are just common women, not beautiful, not rich. We all have many flaws, so we all have a dream that we can be the Jane Eyre in modern time, common, obscure, but can be loved by the men we love. Especially when we are strong, independent and well-educated, we will be more likely to think that what they love is our inner beauty, our talent, our hearts or our thinking.

But no. Maybe you have talked to a man who can talk many to you. Maybe you have become his best friend and feel that he is your kindred spirit and you are his kindred spirit. But if you are not really beautiful, and he meets a more beautiful girl, then that girl will become his beloved girlfriend, and you, you are just his kindred spirit who can talk and share many things, as friend, or good friend, or best friend.

3. The Third Dream You Must Smash to Pieces: Without Him, I Can Not Live.

When he leaves you, you may feel the sky has collapsed and life is meaningless.You want to die.

But several months or several years or even several decades later, you will find that you can. Because, at that time when you feel that you can not live without him, what covers your eyes is not the glory of the perfect “him”, what covers your eyes is only the glory of the so-called true love.

4. The Fourth Dream You Must Smash to Pieces: You are His Last Woman

He may have many women before. But we may think we will be his last one.

But no. we won’t and we can’t be his last woman.

You may think that though we are not beautiful, but we have something that can shine, such as good heart, independent spirit, or unique talent. So we believe that because of these shining things, we will be his last woman.

But no. A talented female writer demonstrates this with her love and life. (can not tell her story here. Too long.)

5. The Fifth Dream You Must Smash to Pieces: If We Love Them, We Should Do Everything for Them Unconditionally.

We may call that our true love. We may want to demonstrate how we love them by doing everything for him unconditionally.

But no. If we give up our own things to do everything for him, we may lose everything: ourselves and him. When we become old or ugly because we do everything for him unconditionally, they will be more likely to kick us out.

Only when we learn to love ourselves can they love us.