Destroy/keep? (56)
MrInterestingedinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK28 Threads 8 Polls 323 PostsIf you had an intense, often loving, but eventually VERY bad break up with a person, would you tend to hang on to those cards that were sent, pics, letters, anything of that type - or do you think it is healthier, even 'therapeutic', if you wait a month or so, gather them all up, and get rid of them?
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I keep them all...its nice to look back and remember someone loved you once...
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MrInteresting: If you had an intense, often loving, but eventually VERY bad break up with a person, would you tend to hang on to those cards that were sent, pics, letters, anything of that type - or do you think it is healthier, even 'therapeutic', if you wait a month or so, gather them all up, and get rid of them?
id get rid of themtoo many reminders
would you be able to move on?
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boomboom_uk: I keep them all...its nice to look back and remember someone loved you once...
hellohows the health situation
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i keep them. to remind myself i can fall in love so much, and can be awfully stupid too. Then have a laugh at fun times.
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i keep them. to remind myself i can fall in love so much, and can be awfully stupid too. Then have a laugh at fun times.
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blipper2000: hello
hows the health situation
hows the health situation
hi B...
...Im fighting it well...
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MrInteresting: If you had an intense, often loving, but eventually VERY bad break up with a person, would you tend to hang on to those cards that were sent, pics, letters, anything of that type - or do you think it is healthier, even 'therapeutic', if you wait a month or so, gather them all up, and get rid of them?
Take everything and put in a box and into storage. Someday you may want to look at the letters and pics.
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blipper2000: id get rid of them
too many reminders
would you be able to move on?
too many reminders
would you be able to move on?
I agree with you, fella, that is what I am leaning toward.
I have no desire to look at these things with some sort of sentimentality, anyplace down the line, therefore, I don't realy see what hanging on to them is going to achieve.
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MrInteresting: If you had an intense, often loving, but eventually VERY bad break up with a person, would you tend to hang on to those cards that were sent, pics, letters, anything of that type - or do you think it is healthier, even 'therapeutic', if you wait a month or so, gather them all up, and get rid of them?
I would keep them but lock them away somewhere where I cant see them everyday.However, Sometimes is necessary to just gather them all up and get rid of them though, seems like the only way to move on if the breakup was a bad one especially with someone that you really loved.
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don't have one pic or anything left, I chuck em like the ring also
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MrInteresting: If you had an intense, often loving, but eventually VERY bad break up with a person, would you tend to hang on to those cards that were sent, pics, letters, anything of that type - or do you think it is healthier, even 'therapeutic', if you wait a month or so, gather them all up, and get rid of them?
I think it would be theraputic to keep them for a time, to grieve over. You need to grieve over a break up of any kind.
I do think that there is a time though when they, or at least some of them, should be thrown away, to avoid continued heartache.
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MrInteresting: I agree with you, fella, that is what I am leaning toward.
I have no desire to look at these things with some sort of sentimentality, anyplace down the line, therefore, I don't realy see what hanging on to them is going to achieve.
I have no desire to look at these things with some sort of sentimentality, anyplace down the line, therefore, I don't realy see what hanging on to them is going to achieve.
ya could be with a new gf and be goin thru a rough patch and you start reading the old letters
that wouldnt be a good idea for so many reasons
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I like to go through and clean house ...get rid of reminders...if something is over for me its over...It feels like a clean break and healthier to me. 
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boomboom_uk: hi B... ...Im fighting it well... ..
thats good to hear
i hope you get well soon
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If it lends to closure...gather and destoy I guess. I`m not sentimental with "stuff" so its never an issue. Ones memory has an amazing "Hard Drive" 
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It depends on the memory thats attach to the item. If it was of a happy time then you keep it to remeber that moment. If it makes you mad or cry because it hurts you, then its destroyed.
I held on to alot of things that made me cry when my 2nd wife left. All it did was pull me down into a deeper depresion. When I did finaly get rid of those things, I felt 110% better. Just my experience on it.
I held on to alot of things that made me cry when my 2nd wife left. All it did was pull me down into a deeper depresion. When I did finaly get rid of those things, I felt 110% better. Just my experience on it.
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MrInteresting: If you had an intense, often loving, but eventually VERY bad break up with a person, would you tend to hang on to those cards that were sent, pics, letters, anything of that type - or do you think it is healthier, even 'therapeutic', if you wait a month or so, gather them all up, and get rid of them?
you are not me and I am not you... what is therapeutic or cleansing for one may not be for another... you are in need to decide what is best for your own mind and heart... do what you feel is best for you to grieve properly and for you to move on... feed back is a helpful support and guide but in order for you to develop at your own pace emotionally, the choice is ultimately your choice...
do what feels right for you, be it to destroy or keep and be happy with whatever you decide
good luck JMHO
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MrInteresting: I agree with you, fella, that is what I am leaning toward.
I have no desire to look at these things with some sort of sentimentality, anyplace down the line, therefore, I don't realy see what hanging on to them is going to achieve.
I have no desire to look at these things with some sort of sentimentality, anyplace down the line, therefore, I don't realy see what hanging on to them is going to achieve.
Well, Mr. Interesting, if you are sure you won't miss them and if it was not a good break up, it is sometimes an excellent closing ritual to burn them, detaching from the relationship once and for all.
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Venusruled: Well, Mr. Interesting, if you are sure you won't miss them and if it was not a good break up, it is sometimes an excellent closing ritual to burn them, detaching from the relationship once and for all.
Uh-huh and cast a voodoo curse at the same time
Hi V...where have you been hiding??
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