The "L" Word (34)

Jun 7, 2010 9:33 PM CST The "L" Word
kizzy27
kizzy27kizzy27a south coast beach, New South Wales Australia106 Threads 6 Polls 7,413 Posts
Have you eva been in a relationship where your being pressured into saying it?
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!
Jun 7, 2010 9:55 PM CST The "L" Word
kizzy27
kizzy27kizzy27a south coast beach, New South Wales Australia106 Threads 6 Polls 7,413 Posts
If your exclusively dating even for 12 months if your not seeing each other every day it takes time i mean between 6/8 days a month means in reality youve only really spent 6 weeks getting to know each other !
IM asking what people think should there be a time limit if your exclusive.
I seriously like the guy
ive not been on one single date since we met with anyone else
& thats saying something .
Im his
Im just not in love with him ...yet
Jun 7, 2010 10:47 PM CST The "L" Word
kezza007
kezza007kezza007brisbane, Queensland Australia27 Threads 1 Polls 1,541 Posts
Say it the L word when you want to say it..........

What will be will be....teddybear

wave Hi everyone.............
Jun 8, 2010 1:40 AM CST The "L" Word
kizzy27
kizzy27kizzy27a south coast beach, New South Wales Australia106 Threads 6 Polls 7,413 Posts
Plenty of yes es there Martia Im not getting itchy feet I just am not ready to say I love him , Ive lived with hollow words before , Im not about to do so again.Ill tell him I love him when im 100% sure I do.Its been my experiance that the moment I decare love to a male they then take me for granted,Im not asking for declarations I just want to enjoy us ...
Jun 8, 2010 1:51 AM CST The "L" Word
kizzy27
kizzy27kizzy27a south coast beach, New South Wales Australia106 Threads 6 Polls 7,413 Posts
Hi Kezza , DD wave
Jun 8, 2010 2:26 AM CST The "L" Word
Newlife08
Newlife08Newlife08On the coast, Queensland Australia165 Threads 2,715 Posts
Actions speak louder than words? Sometimes people find it so easy to say "I love you", but it is what they do that is more important. If they say they love you than act like a total ******* then they don't mean it and they think by saying it, it excuses their bad behavious??

Doing the little things, sending you a romantic text, buying you a little something because they know you like that kind of thing, coming home with a bottle of your favourite wine, all ways of saying I love you, I care about you, I was thinking of you - but takes a bit more effort than just saying those 3 words. heart beating

I think by sayinng "I love you" it takes your relationship to a higher level?
Jun 8, 2010 2:33 AM CST The "L" Word
EliteOne
EliteOneEliteOneBrisbane, Queensland Australia38 Threads 1,590 Posts
kizzy27: Have you eva been in a relationship where your being pressured into saying it?
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!


I personally would never look into anybodies eyes and tell them that I Loved them unless my mind and heart were in the same place, I don’t care how many times they told me they did.

But that’s just me… this way I stay true to myself and my words mean something if and when the time is right.
wine
Jun 8, 2010 2:34 AM CST The "L" Word
kizzy27
kizzy27kizzy27a south coast beach, New South Wales Australia106 Threads 6 Polls 7,413 Posts
Hello New life , Ide like to go to the higher level with this man however i dont want to say it unless im sure we have several differences we are still fitting together you know , we show each other love all the time in many ways as you say Its just those three words ... uh oh
Jun 8, 2010 2:35 AM CST The "L" Word
kizzy27
kizzy27kizzy27a south coast beach, New South Wales Australia106 Threads 6 Polls 7,413 Posts
EliteOne: I personally would never look into anybodies eyes and tell them that I Loved them unless my mind and heart were in the same place, I don’t care how many times they told me they did.

But that’s just me… this way I stay true to myself and my words mean something if and when the time is right.


same page elite wine
Jun 8, 2010 4:39 AM CST The "L" Word
Hello_you
Hello_youHello_youNorth Shore, Auckland New Zealand26 Threads 3 Polls 502 Posts
In response to: Have you eva been in a relationship where your being pressured into saying it?
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!


I fall in love at the drop of a hat so I guess I'm not quite in the same boat - still - wouldn't say so unless the hat had dropped.
Jun 8, 2010 4:42 AM CST The "L" Word
Blizzard14u
Blizzard14uBlizzard14uGosnells, Western Australia Australia67 Threads 2 Polls 1,430 Posts
kizzy27: Have you eva been in a relationship where your being pressured into saying it?
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!


That can be a very dangerous word! But I am brave, I love my car I love my boat, if I had a dog I would love that too! But with people it takes time? As you will never meet one that will ever fit all your needs? Because you will have to fit their needs as well? that’s the hard part!

I am great at being a mate but I am lousy at being what someone else wants me to be?

frustrated
Jun 8, 2010 6:11 AM CST The "L" Word
hatpin
hatpinhatpinfrazer coast, Queensland Australia16 Threads 127 Posts
The "l" word shock
It's been so long since I have heard THAT said in a very meaningful TRUE way. sad flower

That word makes me feel soooo very uncomfortable when it is said WAYYY too soon!!

Lets danceline go out and party and forget THAT word... doh



In response to: Have you eva been in a relationship where your being pressured into saying it?
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!
Jun 8, 2010 7:00 AM CST The "L" Word
mariespoodles
mariespoodlesmariespoodlesSydney, New South Wales Australia25 Threads 1,648 Posts
ahhh yes the "L" word...

laundry, letters, linger, light, look, lust, lavender, lost,
land, lattice, lunging, locus, latino, ladder...

What?? batting

ohhhhhhhhhh you mean THE "L" word doh

LOVErose happy place dance lips heart beating smitten love heart wings

NOT TO BE SAID OR TAKEN LIGHTLY in my opinion scold

the time to say it is irrelevant and better to allow it to evolve naturally heart wings

between the two people involved yay yay yay

hey all wave teddybear teddybear teddybear
Jun 8, 2010 8:26 AM CST The "L" Word
Toffeapple
ToffeappleToffeappleCanberra, ACT Australia22 Threads 2 Polls 1,263 Posts
kizzy27: Plenty of yes es there Martia Im not getting itchy feet I just am not ready to say I love him , Ive lived with hollow words before , Im not about to do so again.Ill tell him I love him when im 100% sure I do.Its been my experiance that the moment I decare love to a male they then take me for granted,Im not asking for declarations I just want to enjoy us ...


Personally, my time is around 3 months - that is the time it takes for me to fall for a guy, as in 'in love', but it usually takes a lot longer to say it to him and I often wait for him.....and wait and wait sometimes...! But I like everything Martia says which ticks the list about what being in love would mean for me....BUT I am 100% with you in regard to 'hollow' words - they can be too easily said, but not always meant - just throw away words sometimes and that I would be very careful about and being sure of when listening to them or saying them.

But I think even if you can't say them, if you are being told them and you believe it from them but are not ready to say yourself, explain that to them and why you have an issue with the potential for that 'hollowness', cos you take longer than others to really FEEL them, to be sure, and then voice them.

Hope this makes sense.



hug
Jun 9, 2010 12:41 AM CST The "L" Word
Newlife08
Newlife08Newlife08On the coast, Queensland Australia165 Threads 2,715 Posts
That's good advice toffeeapple. If you don't say "I 'L' you" purple heart to that person he will be thinking she doesn't[/i] love me when you maybe do - just a little bit but you don't want to say those words because once you've said them you can't take them back.

To me it means a higher level of committment to each other. It means you love each other for all your beauty and imperfections, warts and all!!! kiss
Jun 9, 2010 1:01 AM CST The "L" Word
angelmarz
angelmarzangelmarzperth, Western Australia Australia37 Threads 1,091 Posts
Yes, i have...and i didn't respond the way the other wanted me too...you CAN'T force someone to feel an emotion, it come's naturally....am i right?....all i know is if the sentence "i love you" come's out, it's been spontanous and it felt soo right to say it....there is NO RULE that say's you have to say it back...go with the flow, smile and continue to enjoy each other's company....if the other starts to be persistant (be it male or female), apply's any sort of pressure....in my eye's, it's not looking good :(.....in the end, it all come's down to being accepted for who you are, for it work....wine
kizzy27: Have you eva been in a relationship where your being pressured into saying it?
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!
Jun 9, 2010 4:49 AM CST The "L" Word
Dusty767
Dusty767Dusty767Christchurch, Canterbury New Zealand66 Posts
kizzy27: Have you eva been in a relationship where your being pressured into saying it?
You know he says it then theres that awkward silence.....
If your not ready to say it ,why should that make the person who is feel stupid?
Im waiting to fall in love
I dont want to rush it
whos to say I will
But if it does happen ide like to recall the moment !!


I am with you Kizzy. People always want to know why you are not saying it back. takes time.

Once went out with woman 10 years younger (she chased me) she used to say it, but I was sure it was more lust as she had to grow up & live her life.

Problem is Now I am looking she is back, married with three kids & renews our friendship(only nothing else) then after about a year she drops the bombshell that she loves me for sure.

I am sure with time I would of loved her as special person, but she took off because I would never say it. I just wasn't feeling for her in that way.

maybe we just are never to be, but you have to feel it before you say it.
Jun 9, 2010 7:06 AM CST The "L" Word
Toffeapple
ToffeappleToffeappleCanberra, ACT Australia22 Threads 2 Polls 1,263 Posts
Kizzy - are you ok - where are you - your piccie has gone?

dunno hug
Jun 9, 2010 8:32 AM CST The "L" Word
Larf75
Larf75Larf75Bacchus Marsh, Victoria Australia16 Threads 1 Polls 1,990 Posts
Larf75: Oh my god; she sounds amazing. Is there anything she's shown you that makes you go
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
Jun 9, 2010 2:54 PM CST The "L" Word
EliteOne
EliteOneEliteOneBrisbane, Queensland Australia38 Threads 1,590 Posts
Larf75: Oh my god; she sounds amazing. Is there anything she's shown you that makes you go
yeah laugh laugh laugh

it started with a great pickup line and a kiss blushing

oh but that pickup line is amazing all women should learn it rolling on the floor laughing
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