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bob1959otisfield, Maine USA54 Threads 3 Polls 1,874 PostsHow do you make yourself remember the bad stuff about a great love when you know nothing has changed but you want them back so bad.... It's like a drug, you know it's bad for you but you love THAT feeling and you can't get it anywhere else.......... rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrripping my hair out tonight.
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Honestly Bob, get back with them, get your fix and after a while it will just get plain old. Suddenly the bad stuff is all you will remember about them. Sometimes you just have to ride it to the end. It certainly took me years to get it through my head with my ex. Then one day it just clicked. I'd had enough. Packed his bag and sent him on. I haven't been in the mood for anymore crap since.
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realize that you can have GOOD stuff with someone else if you allow yourself to and quit trying to hold onto what is not there 
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woodzchick: Honestly Bob, get back with them, get your fix and after a while it will just get plain old. Suddenly the bad stuff is all you will remember about them. Sometimes you just have to ride it to the end. It certainly took me years to get it through my head with my ex. Then one day it just clicked. I'd had enough. Packed his bag and sent him on. I haven't been in the mood for anymore crap since.
hijacking my own thread. Did you get the job? hope so?------ This thread is Archived ------
Write it out. Pro's on one side. Cons on the other.
It will become very evident why you left quickly. So when you get those urges? Look at that piece of paper.
Was she abusive?
Did she cheat?
Did she lie?
Was she a druggie?
steal?
selfish?
lazy in bed?
not loyal not faithful
Just think on it dude. It'll come to you
Good luck
It will become very evident why you left quickly. So when you get those urges? Look at that piece of paper.
Was she abusive?
Did she cheat?
Did she lie?
Was she a druggie?
steal?
selfish?
lazy in bed?
not loyal not faithful
Just think on it dude. It'll come to you
Good luck
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gemeh22: realize that you can have GOOD stuff with someone else if you allow yourself to and quit trying to hold onto what is not there
hey G. One of those nights, you know. I'm listening to J. Browne. "What does love have to do with happiness" Makes perfect sense at the moment. Thanks for listening. (and putting up with me in your rear view mirror.)------ This thread is Archived ------
Pirateluvr: Write it out. Pro's on one side. Cons on the other.
It will become very evident why you left quickly. So when you get those urges? Look at that piece of paper.
Was she abusive?
Did she cheat?
Did she lie?
Was she a druggie?
steal?
selfish?
lazy in bed?
not loyal not faithful
Just think on it dude. It'll come to you
Good luck
No s@#t. I HAD it written down and LOST it.It will become very evident why you left quickly. So when you get those urges? Look at that piece of paper.
Was she abusive?
Did she cheat?
Did she lie?
Was she a druggie?
steal?
selfish?
lazy in bed?
not loyal not faithful
Just think on it dude. It'll come to you
Good luck
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bob1959: hijacking my own thread. Did you get the job? hope so?
Still haven't heard yet. But back to your thread......what the woman above posted is good too. The whole problem is that it takes forever for us to realize that we deserve better. Sometimes we just have to get it out of our system.
Another suggestion.....take a cold shower.
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woodzchick: Still haven't heard yet. But back to your thread......what the woman above posted is good too. The whole problem is that it takes forever for us to realize that we deserve better. Sometimes we just have to get it out of our system.
Another suggestion.....take a cold shower.
AHHHHHHHHHH woodsy, Maybe a night swim in the river. It's still cold enough for .........that at my age. Another suggestion.....take a cold shower.
Thanks, I'm smiling.
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NO! NO! and Nooooooooo!!! Don't do it Bob..been there..done that. There is a reason it didn't work out the first time..remember that! Just pour yourself a drink and punch yourself in the testes..then you won't be in the mood.
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bob1959: hey G. One of those nights, you know. I'm listening to J. Browne. "What does love have to do with happiness" Makes perfect sense at the moment. Thanks for listening. (and putting up with me in your rear view mirror.)
yeah we all have those nights then we wake up the next day and remember why your a good guy and will find some one who you can be happy happy with
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If it wasn't there for one, for whatever reason, ya gotta let it go. Learn from the time that love was there for both, use what you learned, and move on. We do that all of our lives, for what reason we do not know, but get on with it, you have the same that you offered your ex, plus you have a great deal more from lifes lesson. 
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gemeh22: yeah we all have those nights then we wake up the next day and remember why
your a good guy and will find some one who you can be happy happy with
Thanks G. It's ALWAYS reassuring to know others feel the same. Do you think fondly about old lovers that are only a phone call away sometimes?your a good guy and will find some one who you can be happy happy with
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Abram: If it wasn't there for one, for whatever reason, ya gotta let it go. Learn from the time that love was there for both, use what you learned, and move on. We do that all of our lives, for what reason we do not know, but get on with it, you have the same that you offered your ex, plus you have a great deal more from lifes lesson.
Tahnk you Abram. I've read MANY of your posts, respect your opinion and value your advise. Thanks again.
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nanners2863: All I know is that if I had nuts..I'd rather take a punch there then get back with one of my ex's lol
If you had nuts you would not want any outside force applied to those two tender boys.
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nanners2863: All I know is that if I had nuts..I'd rather take a punch there then get back with one of my ex's lol
If you had nuts, you might not be so inclined to get them punched. It might be like child berth without the baby.(extreme pain emot goes here)------ This thread is Archived ------
Abram: If you had nuts you would not want any outside force applied to those two tender boys.
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bob1959: Thanks G. It's ALWAYS reassuring to know others feel the same. Do you think fondly about old lovers that are only a phone call away sometimes?
I think of the fun good times but always remember why we are not together anymore ... i try not to be bitter so i like to remember the fun as much as possible but again try never to forget why it didnt work on both our parts ------ This thread is Archived ------
bob1959: Tahnk you Abram. I've read MANY of your posts, respect your opinion and value your advise. Thanks again.
I do not know, or think I have all the answers, but I know the hurt you feel. Been throught it, just like most of us, and it seems as though every love is of its purpose for both involved. Nobody really loses unless they let it be a loss.
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bob1959: How do you make yourself remember the bad stuff about a great love when you know nothing has changed but you want them back so bad.... It's like a drug, you know it's bad for you but you love THAT feeling and you can't get it anywhere else.......... rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrripping my hair out tonight.
Hey Bob, we have all been there and done that, so I’m feeling for you mate. However, only time will heal the wounds, nothing more.
One thing I have always done, is write down why we split up in the first place and then ask yourself what will change, and as you said nothing will/has, which means that if you got back together and split up again, you’ll be right where you are now in another couple of months.
Another quick thing to think about is -- maybe you don’t want her back, you just don’t want anyone else to have her. Sometimes I know when I left my ex I kept thinking about what we did in bed together, she is doing it with some other guy, and that can really mess with your head.
So, maybe it’s time to delete her numbers and contact point, that way even if you want to contact her you can’t, also go out and meet other women; sooner the better.
Good luck buddy and whatever you do stay the F… k away from her!
Hope my advice helped, cheers
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