Quest4SoulMateOPMelbourne, Victoria Australia83 posts
Long story short
Met a woman on another site, we chatted; smsd Imd and phone convo
Anyway I started falling for her even before we met and in a round about way expressed that to which she said basicaly see ya too much pressure.
2.5 weeks later she smses me and asks me if my mum is ok ( she had an OP and it was a bit sketchy for a while)
So my question is WTF, why would she sms me and bring herself back in my life if she knows how i feel about her and she jumped ship earlier ?
I would like opinions, I dont need cheering up just a general consensus as to what is happening as I am not in an unbiased and able to think straight position.
Met a woman on another site, we chatted; smsd Imd and phone convo
Anyway I started falling for her even before we met and in a round about way expressed that to which she said basicaly see ya too much pressure.
2.5 weeks later she smses me and asks me if my mum is ok ( she had an OP and it was a bit sketchy for a while)
So my question is WTF, why would she sms me and bring herself back in my life if she knows how i feel about her and she jumped ship earlier ?
I would like opinions, I dont need cheering up just a general consensus as to what is happening as I am not in an unbiased and able to think straight position.
Thanks in advance everyone.
Maybe she genuinely changed her mind, or she's a player
She just needed that bit of space to feel UN-hurried... because she had experienced your expression of strong feelings so early on as PRESSURE... an imbalance. It might feel more balanced now... she is achieving that by talking about your mum's health instead of over-focusing on the dating angle.
This can give the two of you time to develop your budding friendship at a pace that feels more natural for her.
deadbutwhyeast, Eastern Province Saudi Arabia1,295 posts
Quest4SoulMate: Long story short
Met a woman on another site, we chatted; smsd Imd and phone convo
Anyway I started falling for her even before we met and in a round about way expressed that to which she said basicaly see ya too much pressure.
2.5 weeks later she smses me and asks me if my mum is ok ( she had an OP and it was a bit sketchy for a while)
So my question is WTF, why would she sms me and bring herself back in my life if she knows how i feel about her and she jumped ship earlier ?
I would like opinions, I dont need cheering up just a general consensus as to what is happening as I am not in an unbiased and able to think straight position.
Thanks in advance everyone.
Mate, the girl just showed some class and humanity. That's a whole lot different than what you take it to be: to bring herself back in your life. Just be glad that she's friendly and a good person and that's all.
Met a woman on another site, we chatted; smsd Imd and phone convo
Anyway I started falling for her even before we met and in a round about way expressed that to which she said basicaly see ya too much pressure.
2.5 weeks later she smses me and asks me if my mum is ok ( she had an OP and it was a bit sketchy for a while)
So my question is WTF, why would she sms me and bring herself back in my life if she knows how i feel about her and she jumped ship earlier ?
I would like opinions, I dont need cheering up just a general consensus as to what is happening as I am not in an unbiased and able to think straight position.
Thanks in advance everyone.
She sounds like a caring woman. She cares for you and your family. Your hopes are not wasted, just give her time. Life takes over and you should never put presure on another. She will respond when she knows she has the ability to give you what you want. Or, she will be a good friend who will listen to you when you need to talk.
Met a woman on another site, we chatted; smsd Imd and phone convo
Anyway I started falling for her even before we met and in a round about way expressed that to which she said basicaly see ya too much pressure.
2.5 weeks later she smses me and asks me if my mum is ok ( she had an OP and it was a bit sketchy for a while)
So my question is WTF, why would she sms me and bring herself back in my life if she knows how i feel about her and she jumped ship earlier ?
I would like opinions, I dont need cheering up just a general consensus as to what is happening as I am not in an unbiased and able to think straight position.
Thanks in advance everyone.
No, you don't need cheering up.
You fall in love with the idea of falling in love. Happens all the time to lonely people interacting exclusively on line.
You were ready to meet, she wasn't... because she is not who she says she is. But she wants to hold on to this virtual "on-line" excitement.
for instance, there was this young woman who came into forumas for an advice on what to do --
she chatted on line with a guy for almost a year, but she misrepresented herself from the start, posting somebody else's glamorous photos. They both got emotionally very attached to each other, but she couldn't meet him because she lied all this time about her appearance.
What a waste! She looked absolutely adorable in her actual photos, but... what's done done.
for instance, there was this young woman who came into forumas for an advice on what to do --
she chatted on line with a guy for almost a year, but she misrepresented herself from the start, posting somebody else's glamorous photos. They both got emotionally very attached to each other, but she couldn't meet him because she lied all this time about her appearance.
What a waste! She looked absolutely adorable in her actual photos, but... what's done done.
I had that done to me on another dating site. I can tell you, when someone posts fakes pictures and its discovered, there will be zero chance of anything coming out of it. To put up a fake picture shows dishonesty and a total lack of decency and respect for the person they are talking to.
deadbutwhyeast, Eastern Province Saudi Arabia1,295 posts
TheStillOfNight: I had that done to me on another dating site. I can tell you, when someone posts fakes pictures and its discovered, there will be zero chance of anything coming out of it. To put up a fake picture shows dishonesty and a total lack of decency and respect for the person they are talking to.
It shows lots of insecurity from their part, imho, but it doesn't have to be the end.
A fake picture is a lie. If a person can do that, god only knows what other lies has been spewed. You would never be able to fully trust that person and without trust, there is nothing.
Englishman55Salisbury, Wiltshire, England UK6,405 posts
First of all you are rather vague on what she said to break off the initial chat. For all we know she may have had genuine reasons.
You may have scared her, by being so forward so quickly.
She has now had some time to put some distance between you both and still may feel it is worth trying again.
Thank her for her concern for your mother and see if she wants to re-establish the chat.
You have nothing to loose and everything to gain, but do yourself a favour........
Hold back on expressing your feelings until you have met......... funnily enough, if you do meet, you may change your mind about her and not like her at all...... Then you have a problem !
deadbutwhyeast, Eastern Province Saudi Arabia1,295 posts
estate: But it is a blatant lie, right from the start!!!
Yeah, but not a lie to you personally. Lying is not commendable but I can understand it; afterall, we've all been liars at certain moments of weakness in our lives
Quest4SoulMateOPMelbourne, Victoria Australia83 posts
I'd like to reply firstly by saying WOW I wasnt expecting such great input for you all (hmm wish we could decide world issue like this)
I would also like to thank you all for your input,
Zellarrone; I dont think shes a player (strong gut instinct there)
Steve; I think theres more to it than that, but if in fact tehre isnt than I have a good friend like was mentioned by DEADbutWHY.
Naturally I'd like to believe what NAKEDMUDPEOPLE, opentuit, and Englishman55 have said and that is shes had time and in all fairness as a friend she responded with justification given what I said to her. So i totally understand that she felt pressured.
The half fake scenario; thanks sorry I didnt write your name down before the reply "lady somewhere from new york i believe" I did not take that into consideration and this could fit into the situation. She is insecure but a good person at heart or simply as you put it continuing the virtual experience.
I guess this all reaffirms i need to cut the accelerator cable and take it easy as a friend from spain put it.
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Met a woman on another site, we chatted; smsd Imd and phone convo
Anyway I started falling for her even before we met and in a round about way expressed that to which she said basicaly see ya too much pressure.
2.5 weeks later she smses me and asks me if my mum is ok ( she had an OP and it was a bit sketchy for a while)
So my question is WTF, why would she sms me and bring herself back in my life if she knows how i feel about her and she jumped ship earlier ?
I would like opinions, I dont need cheering up just a general consensus as to what is happening as I am not in an unbiased and able to think straight position.
Thanks in advance everyone.