bjk68: So many people carry the baggage of past relationships forward to new ones, it's scary.
Does nobody take time out anymore, Are people too afraid to spend some time alone, by choice... to reflect on the mistakes made in the past..
If more did this, less, no far less baggage would carry forward.
Have people become so defensive and untrusting, that these threads/thoughts are the norm....
There can be so much hope and positivityinpositivity in our lives if only people stopped wanting everything NOW NOW NOW, and just took a little time out
Some PEOPLE lie,cheat, lead you on, say no when they mean yes or maybe lol etc....
I just get the feeling there's an awful lot of folk carrying baggage around in here and that they may just not be quite ready for a relationship just yet!
Just makes me think that if people really think its down to gender, whats the point?????
I think it has nothing to do with gender at all. It has to do with angry people, and their inability to cope in social situations.
If they were able to cope and deal with a situation, then they would have no need to be on here complaining and ranting about people of the opposite gender lying, cheating, wife beating, drinking, being abusive etc.
If they have a problem then THEY have the problem, and should get it seen to, in councelling etc., before they inflict those prejudices on some unsuspecting future partner.
GingerBe: I think it has nothing to do with gender at all. It has to do with angry people, and their inability to cope in social situations.
If they were able to cope and deal with a situation, then they would have no need to be on here complaining and ranting about people of the opposite gender lying, cheating, wife beating, drinking, being abusive etc.
If they have a problem then THEY have the problem, and should get it seen to, in councelling etc., before they inflict those prejudices on some unsuspecting future partner.
Hi Movgan and Vonney.
Hiya Ginger kinda agree if people really believe this to me there are just not ready to be considering another relationship, a lesson I have had to learn myself
Godsgift: I just get the feeling there's an awful lot of folk carrying baggage around in here and that they may just not be quite ready for a relationship just yet!
morgan5: Hiya Ginger kinda agree if people really believe this to me there are just not ready to be considering another relationship, a lesson I have had to learn myself
I dated quite a few who were no more ready than the man in the moon, to even date, never mind get in a relationship. Same goes for female friends, who don't deal with their hurt.
Fear, and not dealing with past issues, seem to paralyse them, and leave them sitting like a rabbit stunned in the headlights, for years.
The scenario usually is that they put so many restrictions and conditions on what they will allow into their lives, that they end up with no one.
GingerBe: I dated quite a few who were no more ready than the man in the moon, to even date, never mind get in a relationship. Same goes for female friends, who don't deal with their hurt.
Fear, and not dealing with past issues, seem to paralyse them, and leave them sitting like a rabbit stunned in the headlights, for years.
The scenario usually is that they put so many restrictions and conditions on what they will allow into their lives, that they end up with no one.
Don't think I can add anything to that have done it, and seen it .
jac379pontyclun, South Glamorgan, Wales UK12,293 posts
GingerBe: I think it has nothing to do with gender at all. It has to do with angry people, and their inability to cope in social situations.
If they were able to cope and deal with a situation, then they would have no need to be on here complaining and ranting about people of the opposite gender lying, cheating, wife beating, drinking, being abusive etc.
If they have a problem then THEY have the problem, and should get it seen to, in councelling etc., before they inflict those prejudices on some unsuspecting future partner.
Hi Movgan and Vonney.
But you could also argue that these forums are a good place for people to explore issues and move on emotionally.
I've learned a helluva lot in the short time that I've been on CS on all sorts of levels, including stuff from you, tee hee hee.
Perhaps it is a seasonal thing, in spring time the libido is on the rise, the hunt for a mate is on and manners are instinctively checked and tidied up.
Spring is now over and failure brings out the frustration and grumpiness and the insults begin to ooze again ....
In response to: Why the hell are we all looking for a relationship with one??????
Seems genders pull each other apart, forgetting BOTH GENDERS have the ability to lie
So why are you here??
I'm here in the hope that I can find, or be found, by a lovely caring woman who would like to get to know me and hopefully build a loving caring relationship!!
morgan5: Why the hell are we all looking for a relationship with one??????
Seems genders pull each other apart, forgetting BOTH GENDERS have the ability to lie
So why are you here??
Given the fact that we are all perfect here on CS, never lie, never cheat, never judge, never do anything remotely less than perfect and any past relationship was ALWAYS the other person's fault, then it does kind of make you wonder why there are any single people left on CS at all, really..
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Seems genders pull each other apart, forgetting BOTH GENDERS have the ability to lie
So why are you here??