It's Complicated...(constructive opinions greatly appreciated) (46)
I had one treat me like that once,found out he was married ,dumped him...There are lots of men out there who will treat you right,you are a pretty lady why waste your time with this guy.good luck,best wishs 
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You've done the right thing Lee, he's certainly playing you. Chalk it up to experience and leave him to it. Good Luck
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demonfairy: I had one treat me like that once,found out he was married ,dumped him...There are lots of men out there who will treat you right,you are a pretty lady why waste your time with this guy.good luck,best wishs
Me thinks he's married too...
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from what I have seen... you are 20 years old.... and you mentioned that he`s ten years older .... as I don`t really know his side of the story... all I can say is
Men at the age of 30 are at their prime physically ,psychically ... so you better have a honest talk with him
Men at the age of 30 are at their prime physically ,psychically ... so you better have a honest talk with him
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keepinitsimple: I recently get to know this guy, he's 10 years older than I, working as one of the top executives, busy, works from approx 9am-9pm (I think). Well, here goes the story:
The 1st time we met, it was okay...just had coffee no dinner, decided not to rush into things. And we agreed to meet again the next time.
The following 2 planned dates were cancelled flat out coz he was busy and unwell, had sudden company function, whatnots. They were true, coz he showed me some photos on 2nd date.
In between the days, he'd text me, but never called, saying that he missed me, but I'm puzzled outta my wits: why is it so hard to just call? Does he actually mean what he's been saying?
2nd date was a dinner...pretty alright (that was when I witnessed The Germans slain England). We kissed (I know...so stupid of me to give it too quickly, but I don't regret it that much). Period, the evening ended.
And the following week had been tumultous. He hardly called me (despite his habit of telling me how much he missed me). It ALWAYS took him ages (literally) to reply my sms. EVERY SINGLE time I called, he never picked it up and never bothered to call back or ask what was the matter. And so far, 4 out of 6 planned dates ended up being cancelled and 3 out of 4 were coz he couldn't make it. What frustrates me even more was on the last 'supposed' date, he didn't show the courtesy of calling or texting me to cancel. It was I who asked him first about where he was 30 minutes before the stipulated time. And the reply that came was surprisingly expected "Sorry baby, I can not come". PERIOD. I had to ask what was the matter then he explained that he had to be with his friend who was still unconscious after breaking his back an hour before. I mean, he could've called or sms, no? Or is it just me who's too particular?
I'm not exactly known for patience (I think), but with reasonable excuse and sincerity, you'll find me pretty level-headed.
Alas today, I decided not to take anymore crap from this guy after he told me he can't meet me again this weekend coz he has company gathering in Bali (imagine how envious i get! haha...) I believe I deserve someone who could at least spare 5 minutes in his busy day just to hear my voice, to just chat for a little while. Shouldn't it take a person only seconds to reply an sms from a special person? Shouldn't you feel the burning urge to call this special person after seeing '3 missed calls' on ur phone? That, apparently, was not the case with this man...
So, if anyone of my fellow cs-ers believe in the same thing as I do, kindly show ur encouragement for me in this state of confusion, that'll be truly appreciated. However, if u have different views, kindly speak up too. After all, more brains is better than only one, right?
Thank you so much for reading til thus far, Cheers sunshine! =)
Lee
The 1st time we met, it was okay...just had coffee no dinner, decided not to rush into things. And we agreed to meet again the next time.
The following 2 planned dates were cancelled flat out coz he was busy and unwell, had sudden company function, whatnots. They were true, coz he showed me some photos on 2nd date.
In between the days, he'd text me, but never called, saying that he missed me, but I'm puzzled outta my wits: why is it so hard to just call? Does he actually mean what he's been saying?
2nd date was a dinner...pretty alright (that was when I witnessed The Germans slain England). We kissed (I know...so stupid of me to give it too quickly, but I don't regret it that much). Period, the evening ended.
And the following week had been tumultous. He hardly called me (despite his habit of telling me how much he missed me). It ALWAYS took him ages (literally) to reply my sms. EVERY SINGLE time I called, he never picked it up and never bothered to call back or ask what was the matter. And so far, 4 out of 6 planned dates ended up being cancelled and 3 out of 4 were coz he couldn't make it. What frustrates me even more was on the last 'supposed' date, he didn't show the courtesy of calling or texting me to cancel. It was I who asked him first about where he was 30 minutes before the stipulated time. And the reply that came was surprisingly expected "Sorry baby, I can not come". PERIOD. I had to ask what was the matter then he explained that he had to be with his friend who was still unconscious after breaking his back an hour before. I mean, he could've called or sms, no? Or is it just me who's too particular?
I'm not exactly known for patience (I think), but with reasonable excuse and sincerity, you'll find me pretty level-headed.
Alas today, I decided not to take anymore crap from this guy after he told me he can't meet me again this weekend coz he has company gathering in Bali (imagine how envious i get! haha...) I believe I deserve someone who could at least spare 5 minutes in his busy day just to hear my voice, to just chat for a little while. Shouldn't it take a person only seconds to reply an sms from a special person? Shouldn't you feel the burning urge to call this special person after seeing '3 missed calls' on ur phone? That, apparently, was not the case with this man...
So, if anyone of my fellow cs-ers believe in the same thing as I do, kindly show ur encouragement for me in this state of confusion, that'll be truly appreciated. However, if u have different views, kindly speak up too. After all, more brains is better than only one, right?
Thank you so much for reading til thus far, Cheers sunshine! =)
Lee
I tend to look at a persons actions,and let them tell me the real story,rather than listening to his words(people lie,or tell it like they wish it was).If he has no time for you,to talk.support.meet.hang out...
Time to look elsewhere,no point in waiting for someone who is not willing/can give so little.
In short,i think your assessment is correct.
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keepinitsimple: Thanks Steve...but not a kiddo please haha
Kiddo is a nice term lass....but apologies if it offended you.
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Run like hell, girl, this carry-on just screams either married or a complete idiot with zero consideration for others.
It was all about him, and you are well-rid
It was all about him, and you are well-rid
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Play hard to get.... if he is serious he will call.......or see you......
at the moment he knows you waiting for him........dont make it so easy for him
at the moment he knows you waiting for him........dont make it so easy for him
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Life is complicated. So are women. Thank god men are simple. Opposites attract. 
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Boban1: from what I have seen... you are 20 years old.... and you mentioned that he`s ten years older .... as I don`t really know his side of the story... all I can say is
Men at the age of 30 are at their prime physically ,psychically ... so you better have a honest talk with him
Men at the age of 30 are at their prime physically ,psychically ... so you better have a honest talk with him
Hmm, thanks for your advice bob...but I don't think I want to contact him anymore, whoever cares if he's at the peak of his pyhsical state? I'm not gonna be his 'pressure release outlet'... So,
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demonfairy: I had one treat me like that once,found out he was married ,dumped him...There are lots of men out there who will treat you right,you are a pretty lady why waste your time with this guy.good luck,best wishs
YEPPERS!!!! What she said!!!!
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Boban1: from what I have seen... you are 20 years old.... and you mentioned that he`s ten years older .... as I don`t really know his side of the story... all I can say is
Men at the age of 30 are at their prime physically ,psychically ... so you better have a honest talk with him
Men at the age of 30 are at their prime physically ,psychically ... so you better have a honest talk with him
She has tried... he doesn't answer from what I gather.
To the OP: do as your name suggests, keep it simple, and move on. Good luck
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demonfairy: I had one treat me like that once,found out he was married ,dumped him...There are lots of men out there who will treat you right,you are a pretty lady why waste your time with this guy.good luck,best wishs
Aye, thanks De (not really comfy calling such a sweet lady like u demonfairy. Shall always keep my fingers crossed
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DevilinDisguise: You've done the right thing Lee, he's certainly playing you. Chalk it up to experience and leave him to it. Good Luck
Yuppie De! Thanks for your encouragement and everybody else's. I'm young and it's a time to gather as much experience as possible, just like you said....
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DevilinDisguise: You've done the right thing Lee, he's certainly playing you. Chalk it up to experience and leave him to it. Good Luck
Yuppie De! Thanks for your encouragement and everybody else's. I'm young and it's a time to gather as much experience as possible, just like you said....
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LusciousLibra: She has tried... he doesn't answer from what I gather.
To the OP: do as your name suggests, keep it simple, and move on. Good luck
To the OP: do as your name suggests, keep it simple, and move on. Good luck
yep... sometimes its just much smarter to move on
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I tend to look at things from both sides of the coin. As you say there are 10 years between you. It sounds to me that his focus is more on his career and his friends than on establishing a relationship with anyone.
Another thing is that if you ever watched the movie How to lose a guy in 10 days then you know texting and calling non-stop without an answer or reply from the other person will only get no answer.
Be patient and the right person will come your way. Chalk this guy up to a learning experience and find someone that isn't married to his job oh but make sure he does have a job. lol
Good luck!!!
Another thing is that if you ever watched the movie How to lose a guy in 10 days then you know texting and calling non-stop without an answer or reply from the other person will only get no answer.
Be patient and the right person will come your way. Chalk this guy up to a learning experience and find someone that isn't married to his job oh but make sure he does have a job. lol
Good luck!!!
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BoyracerBMW: Life is complicated. So are women. Thank god men are simple. Opposites attract.
Boy, really? Hmm, I wonder if that means I'll attract indecisive, unpunctual, indisciplined, erratic, optimistic, happy-go-lucky kinda guy. That's an interesting theory and I won't mind trying to go out on dates with this sort of man, though! Haha
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The 1st time we met, it was okay...just had coffee no dinner, decided not to rush into things. And we agreed to meet again the next time.
The following 2 planned dates were cancelled flat out coz he was busy and unwell, had sudden company function, whatnots. They were true, coz he showed me some photos on 2nd date.
In between the days, he'd text me, but never called, saying that he missed me, but I'm puzzled outta my wits: why is it so hard to just call? Does he actually mean what he's been saying?
2nd date was a dinner...pretty alright (that was when I witnessed The Germans slain England). We kissed (I know...so stupid of me to give it too quickly, but I don't regret it that much). Period, the evening ended.
And the following week had been tumultous. He hardly called me (despite his habit of telling me how much he missed me). It ALWAYS took him ages (literally) to reply my sms. EVERY SINGLE time I called, he never picked it up and never bothered to call back or ask what was the matter. And so far, 4 out of 6 planned dates ended up being cancelled and 3 out of 4 were coz he couldn't make it. What frustrates me even more was on the last 'supposed' date, he didn't show the courtesy of calling or texting me to cancel. It was I who asked him first about where he was 30 minutes before the stipulated time. And the reply that came was surprisingly expected "Sorry baby, I can not come". PERIOD. I had to ask what was the matter then he explained that he had to be with his friend who was still unconscious after breaking his back an hour before. I mean, he could've called or sms, no? Or is it just me who's too particular?
I'm not exactly known for patience (I think), but with reasonable excuse and sincerity, you'll find me pretty level-headed.
Alas today, I decided not to take anymore crap from this guy after he told me he can't meet me again this weekend coz he has company gathering in Bali (imagine how envious i get! haha...) I believe I deserve someone who could at least spare 5 minutes in his busy day just to hear my voice, to just chat for a little while. Shouldn't it take a person only seconds to reply an sms from a special person? Shouldn't you feel the burning urge to call this special person after seeing '3 missed calls' on ur phone? That, apparently, was not the case with this man...
So, if anyone of my fellow cs-ers believe in the same thing as I do, kindly show ur encouragement for me in this state of confusion, that'll be truly appreciated. However, if u have different views, kindly speak up too. After all, more brains is better than only one, right?
Thank you so much for reading til thus far, Cheers sunshine! =)
Lee