Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing ( Archived) (112)

Jul 12, 2010 7:33 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
davpk10
davpk10davpk10somewhere, New York USA23 Threads 1 Polls 2,934 Posts
I mean here on the forums (and in real life if you will) we all have to have a "thick skin" to survive....At least we think we do...

So is that a good thing or bad..dunno

Are we so thick skinned we do not allow others to get close as we fear being seen as vulnerable...and if we are vulnerable is that really a bad thing?


Sometimes I think everyone (here and in real life) is to busy trying to be seen as a tough guy/gal to allow someone to get close, as they are scared to be taken as weak....


I could be wrong of coures....laugh
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Jul 12, 2010 7:36 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
Amity
AmityAmityDodging Daggers, Wiltshire, England UK49 Threads 6,217 Posts
Good topic!! thumbs up
Im way too emotional for my own good...and sometimes wish for more of a back bone.
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Jul 12, 2010 7:41 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
davpk10
davpk10davpk10somewhere, New York USA23 Threads 1 Polls 2,934 Posts
Amity: Good topic!!
Im way too emotional for my own good...and sometimes wish for more of a back bone.
emotions are good.....makes you a "real" and caring person ..nothing wrong with that ....I say embrace what you see as your weakness and make it your strength..conversing


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Jul 12, 2010 7:45 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
ChasingCars
ChasingCarsChasingCarsCrappy Thrappy, Northamptonshire, England UK26 Threads 5 Polls 1,006 Posts
Emotional or sensitive? Showing some emotion is not a bad thing.

Or do you need a stiff British upper lip? I'll send you one in the post.
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Jul 12, 2010 7:46 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
Amity
AmityAmityDodging Daggers, Wiltshire, England UK49 Threads 6,217 Posts
davpk10: emotions are good.....makes you a "real" and caring person ..nothing wrong with that ....I say embrace what you see as your weakness and make it your strength..

I agree...although over the net it helps to have that extra layer of "whatever" approach which i seem to be missing laugh laugh
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Jul 12, 2010 7:47 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
Amity
AmityAmityDodging Daggers, Wiltshire, England UK49 Threads 6,217 Posts
ChasingCars: Emotional or sensitive? Showing some emotion is not a bad thing.

Or do you need a stiff British upper lip? I'll send you one in the post.


Possible a lil of both!!
And yes that extra lip will come in handy rolling on the floor laughing bouquet
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Jul 12, 2010 7:49 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
GalwayGuy35
GalwayGuy35GalwayGuy35galway, Galway Ireland25 Threads 1,537 Posts
In response to: I mean here on the forums (and in real life if you will) we all have to have a "thick skin" to survive....At least we think we do...

So is that a good thing or bad..

Are we so thick skinned we do not allow others to get close as we fear being seen as vulnerable...and if we are vulnerable is that really a bad thing?Sometimes I think everyone (here and in real life) is to busy trying to be seen as a tough guy/gal to allow someone to get close, as they are scared to be taken as weak....I could be wrong of coures....

Its a good thing to be thick skinned on a dating site anywaylaugh
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Jul 12, 2010 7:52 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
davpk10
davpk10davpk10somewhere, New York USA23 Threads 1 Polls 2,934 Posts
ChasingCars: Emotional or sensitive? Showing some emotion is not a bad thing.

Or do you need a stiff British upper lip? I'll send you one in the post.
Nope I'm good ,thanks anyway tho...handshake

Here in the forums I feel that sometimes we all feel the need to be to defensive and that MAY hinder us in what we all came here for in the first place.....and I think that maybe ,just maybe that spills out in real life...or is that persona only for CS forums confused


which would be self distructive in our goals maybe...dunno
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Jul 12, 2010 7:52 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
other
otherotherImaginary place, Tierra del Fuego Argentina96 Posts
The opposite of vulnerable is not thick skinned, but secure in yourself. angel
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Jul 12, 2010 7:53 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
davpk10
davpk10davpk10somewhere, New York USA23 Threads 1 Polls 2,934 Posts
GalwayGuy35: Its a good thing to be thick skinned on a dating site anyway
Is it really tho...dunno
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Jul 12, 2010 7:54 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
davpk10
davpk10davpk10somewhere, New York USA23 Threads 1 Polls 2,934 Posts
other: The opposite of vulnerable is not thick skinned, but secure in yourself.
Agreed...Thin line to walk however....handshake
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Jul 12, 2010 7:56 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
other
otherotherImaginary place, Tierra del Fuego Argentina96 Posts
davpk10: Agreed...Thin line to walk however....
Like anything of worth cheers
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Jul 12, 2010 7:58 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
davpk10: Agreed...Thin line to walk however....


Do you think so D?? I dont I believe being secure in yourself is a complete way of being...not a thin line. dunno
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Jul 12, 2010 8:06 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
GalwayGuy35
GalwayGuy35GalwayGuy35galway, Galway Ireland25 Threads 1,537 Posts
davpk10: Is it really tho...

Well yeah it is. There was a guy had a thread up last night moaning he was let down and another one sayin he couldnt find true love. Life and relationships are tough going at times and noone like rejection but ya have to suck it up and get on with it. Not go around moaning and looking for sympathy.
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Jul 12, 2010 8:08 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
davpk10
davpk10davpk10somewhere, New York USA23 Threads 1 Polls 2,934 Posts
venusenvy: Do you think so D?? I dont I believe being secure in yourself is a complete way of being...not a thin line.
I agree (in a way)....but being secure in yourself and scared of being seen as vulnerable is I think a thin line to walk for some....and being secure in ones self is fine and dandy till it starts to stop us from finding what you are looking for..


Is there Mr/Mrs perfect or perfect for me..... dunno


See the above way of of looking for a spouse as mr/mrs perfect for me ...may hinder you finding your love.....


Why spend a life time looking for someone when you could spend your life time making your life with your spouse perfect for you both....dunno


Has the ready made life style spilled into our search for a spouse as well?...wine
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Jul 12, 2010 8:09 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
davpk10
davpk10davpk10somewhere, New York USA23 Threads 1 Polls 2,934 Posts
GalwayGuy35: Well yeah it is. There was a guy had a thread up last night moaning he was let down and another one sayin he couldnt find true love. Life and relationships are tough going at times and noone like rejection but ya have to suck it up and get on with it. Not go around moaning and looking for sympathy.
again tyhat is a thin line to walk ..moaning and being seen as loving and caring.....hard to stay on the fence ...don't you think?handshake
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Jul 12, 2010 8:10 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
leostartingover
leostartingoverleostartingoverSandton, Gauteng South Africa33 Threads 1 Polls 1,685 Posts
You have a good point. One does have to be thick skinned to a point on here, and it isn't always easy especially when someone shoots your opinion down with a huge BLAST! Personally, I think showing your vulnerability both here and in real life is honest and real, and helps people to get to know the real you.... Allowing someone to see who you are under all the layers creates depth of relationship. thumbs up
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Jul 12, 2010 8:11 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
davpk10
davpk10davpk10somewhere, New York USA23 Threads 1 Polls 2,934 Posts
Have to run and get some materials for the guys ...have fun ...I will check in ,in a bit.....


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Jul 12, 2010 8:19 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
GalwayGuy35
GalwayGuy35GalwayGuy35galway, Galway Ireland25 Threads 1,537 Posts
davpk10: again tyhat is a thin line to walk ..moaning and being seen as loving and caring.....hard to stay on the fence ...don't you think?

Not sure on that one. We have all been let down but we have to keep going. Just dont see the point living in the past pondering on relationships that didnt work. I agree its important to be caring but there is a fine line between that and looking for a sympathy vote which i think some are.
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Jul 12, 2010 8:22 AM CST Being thick skinned ,is it really a good thing
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
davpk10: I agree (in a way)....but being secure in yourself and scared of being seen as vulnerable is I think a thin line to walk for some....and being secure in ones self is fine and dandy till it starts to stop us from finding what you are looking for..Is there Mr/Mrs perfect or perfect for me..... See the above way of of looking for a spouse as mr/mrs perfect for me ...may hinder you finding your love.....Why spend a life time looking for someone when you could spend your life time making your life with your spouse perfect for you both.... Has the ready made life style spilled into our search for a spouse as well?...


I see what your saying...but I think love is strong enough to blow down walls and really arent we all vunerable to love? But I do see how some peeps end up guarding thier hearts to the exclusion of love...Ive seen that in action...but no man is an island! But in the end I think those peeps are the ones that tumble hardest. After all, its a looong fall from the top of a wall...ask Humpty grin hug
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