I mean here on the forums (and in real life if you will) we all have to have a "thick skin" to survive....At least we think we do...
So is that a good thing or bad..
Are we so thick skinned we do not allow others to get close as we fear being seen as vulnerable...and if we are vulnerable is that really a bad thing?
Sometimes I think everyone (here and in real life) is to busy trying to be seen as a tough guy/gal to allow someone to get close, as they are scared to be taken as weak....
Amity: Good topic!! Im way too emotional for my own good...and sometimes wish for more of a back bone.
emotions are good.....makes you a "real" and caring person ..nothing wrong with that ....I say embrace what you see as your weakness and make it your strength..
AmityDodging Daggers, Wiltshire, England UK6,217 posts
davpk10: emotions are good.....makes you a "real" and caring person ..nothing wrong with that ....I say embrace what you see as your weakness and make it your strength..
I agree...although over the net it helps to have that extra layer of "whatever" approach which i seem to be missing
In response to: I mean here on the forums (and in real life if you will) we all have to have a "thick skin" to survive....At least we think we do...
So is that a good thing or bad..
Are we so thick skinned we do not allow others to get close as we fear being seen as vulnerable...and if we are vulnerable is that really a bad thing?Sometimes I think everyone (here and in real life) is to busy trying to be seen as a tough guy/gal to allow someone to get close, as they are scared to be taken as weak....I could be wrong of coures....
Its a good thing to be thick skinned on a dating site anyway
ChasingCars: Emotional or sensitive? Showing some emotion is not a bad thing.
Or do you need a stiff British upper lip? I'll send you one in the post.
Nope I'm good ,thanks anyway tho...
Here in the forums I feel that sometimes we all feel the need to be to defensive and that MAY hinder us in what we all came here for in the first place.....and I think that maybe ,just maybe that spills out in real life...or is that persona only for CS forums
which would be self distructive in our goals maybe...
Well yeah it is. There was a guy had a thread up last night moaning he was let down and another one sayin he couldnt find true love. Life and relationships are tough going at times and noone like rejection but ya have to suck it up and get on with it. Not go around moaning and looking for sympathy.
venusenvy: Do you think so D?? I dont I believe being secure in yourself is a complete way of being...not a thin line.
I agree (in a way)....but being secure in yourself and scared of being seen as vulnerable is I think a thin line to walk for some....and being secure in ones self is fine and dandy till it starts to stop us from finding what you are looking for..
Is there Mr/Mrs perfect or perfect for me.....
See the above way of of looking for a spouse as mr/mrs perfect for me ...may hinder you finding your love.....
Why spend a life time looking for someone when you could spend your life time making your life with your spouse perfect for you both....
Has the ready made life style spilled into our search for a spouse as well?...
GalwayGuy35: Well yeah it is. There was a guy had a thread up last night moaning he was let down and another one sayin he couldnt find true love. Life and relationships are tough going at times and noone like rejection but ya have to suck it up and get on with it. Not go around moaning and looking for sympathy.
again tyhat is a thin line to walk ..moaning and being seen as loving and caring.....hard to stay on the fence ...don't you think?
leostartingoverSandton, Gauteng South Africa1,685 posts
You have a good point. One does have to be thick skinned to a point on here, and it isn't always easy especially when someone shoots your opinion down with a huge BLAST! Personally, I think showing your vulnerability both here and in real life is honest and real, and helps people to get to know the real you.... Allowing someone to see who you are under all the layers creates depth of relationship.
davpk10: again tyhat is a thin line to walk ..moaning and being seen as loving and caring.....hard to stay on the fence ...don't you think?
Not sure on that one. We have all been let down but we have to keep going. Just dont see the point living in the past pondering on relationships that didnt work. I agree its important to be caring but there is a fine line between that and looking for a sympathy vote which i think some are.
davpk10: I agree (in a way)....but being secure in yourself and scared of being seen as vulnerable is I think a thin line to walk for some....and being secure in ones self is fine and dandy till it starts to stop us from finding what you are looking for..Is there Mr/Mrs perfect or perfect for me..... See the above way of of looking for a spouse as mr/mrs perfect for me ...may hinder you finding your love.....Why spend a life time looking for someone when you could spend your life time making your life with your spouse perfect for you both.... Has the ready made life style spilled into our search for a spouse as well?...
I see what your saying...but I think love is strong enough to blow down walls and really arent we all vunerable to love? But I do see how some peeps end up guarding thier hearts to the exclusion of love...Ive seen that in action...but no man is an island! But in the end I think those peeps are the ones that tumble hardest. After all, its a looong fall from the top of a wall...ask Humpty
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So is that a good thing or bad..
Are we so thick skinned we do not allow others to get close as we fear being seen as vulnerable...and if we are vulnerable is that really a bad thing?
Sometimes I think everyone (here and in real life) is to busy trying to be seen as a tough guy/gal to allow someone to get close, as they are scared to be taken as weak....
I could be wrong of coures....