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scorpiosirendrogheda, Louth Ireland24 Threads 1 Polls 1,100 Postsim in an on off relationship for 8 yrs but now have feelings for another its not a physical attraction more a deep soul connection i do love my partner very much though i dunno wot to do wit my other feelings
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scorpiosiren: im in an on off relationship for 8 yrs but now have feelings for another its not a physical attraction more a deep soul connection i do love my partner very much though i dunno wot to do wit my other feelings
when one love fades out, another one evolves ... the time between those two can be called the twilight zone
what you should do??? , 8 years you have followed your heart ..
what is it telling you now???
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Boban1: when one love fades out, another one evolves ... the time between those two can be called the twilight zone
what you should do??? , 8 years you have followed your heart ..
what is it telling you now???
what you should do??? , 8 years you have followed your heart ..
what is it telling you now???
i simply dunno boban i dont eveen know if my feelings for the other is mutual,,,im quite happy to continue my relationship wit my on/off partner but vant help fantasising lol lol lol
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I agree with boban...plus the grass is not always greener on the other side...so be sure before you make the next step.
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demonfairy: I agree with boban...plus the grass is not always greener on the other side...so be sure before you make the next step.
i know, its jst such a different connection im having trouble dealing wit its more intense,chalk n cheese the 2 of them are
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scorpiosiren: im in an on off relationship for 8 yrs but now have feelings for another its not a physical attraction more a deep soul connection i do love my partner very much though i dunno wot to do wit my other feelings
if you can love s.o by a deep soul connection and without a physical attraction, that will be good for you, u will not hv the jealous feelings for your love anymore, your mind is always peaceful,
for me, i will love a man with both of physical attraction & deep soul connection, lacking one of two above elements, then just left in me a friendship,
good luck to you,
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kcuc0574: if you can love s.o by a deep soul connection and without a physical attraction, that will be good for you, u will not hv the jealous feelings for your love anymore, your mind is always peaceful,
for me, i will love a man with both of physical attraction & deep soul connection, lacking one of two above elements, then just left in me a friendship,
good luck to you,
for me, i will love a man with both of physical attraction & deep soul connection, lacking one of two above elements, then just left in me a friendship,
good luck to you,
there's a wee bit of physical in there too i dunno im jst mesmerised by him
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scorpiosiren: im in an on off relationship for 8 yrs but now have feelings for another its not a physical attraction more a deep soul connection i do love my partner very much though i dunno wot to do wit my other feelings
dont want to upset just need to ask yourself:
on/off for 8 yrs what does that say about you/him? 8 yrs is a long time for a non committed relationship. is it you are only together for comfort and not wanting to be alone ? when was it "off". was it off when one of you were with another?
was it on when you were both single?
looking at what you posted (and thats all) i feel it is a mutual cling-on relationship. before you look to another decide if your cuurrent b/f is really what you want? if it is commit to each other, if it is not end it and move forward before starting another relationship. if you decide to end it. make it final and for good. as i say 8 yrs is a long time for a on/off thing.
hope i have helped and like all advice here, just my opinion.
mick
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maybe it's the newness of this other person, the possibility of excitement and anticipation. I agree with other posts, the grass
isn't always greener, you may be afraid to get away from what you're used to, comfort zone, but only you know that answer deep down inside....if this other person doens't feel that way, then what? If they do only for a time and then leave, then what? Is there something missing in one you find in another..search your heart carefully...you may find that it was only temporary and you let the really good thing go... Good Luck!
isn't always greener, you may be afraid to get away from what you're used to, comfort zone, but only you know that answer deep down inside....if this other person doens't feel that way, then what? If they do only for a time and then leave, then what? Is there something missing in one you find in another..search your heart carefully...you may find that it was only temporary and you let the really good thing go...
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scorpiosiren: there's a wee bit of physical in there too i dunno im jst mesmerised by him
If you are married best to stick it out,8 years together there must have been something there, best to work on the relationship you have already,then to chance being left with no one in the end...
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mick64: dont want to upset just need to ask yourself:
on/off for 8 yrs what does that say about you/him? 8 yrs is a long time for a non committed relationship. is it you are only together for comfort and not wanting to be alone ? when was it "off". was it off when one of you were with another?
was it on when you were both single?
looking at what you posted (and thats all) i feel it is a mutual cling-on relationship. before you look to another decide if your cuurrent b/f is really what you want? if it is commit to each other, if it is not end it and move forward before starting another relationship. if you decide to end it. make it final and for good. as i say 8 yrs is a long time for a on/off thing.
hope i have helped and like all advice here, just my opinion.
mick
on/off for 8 yrs what does that say about you/him? 8 yrs is a long time for a non committed relationship. is it you are only together for comfort and not wanting to be alone ? when was it "off". was it off when one of you were with another?
was it on when you were both single?
looking at what you posted (and thats all) i feel it is a mutual cling-on relationship. before you look to another decide if your cuurrent b/f is really what you want? if it is commit to each other, if it is not end it and move forward before starting another relationship. if you decide to end it. make it final and for good. as i say 8 yrs is a long time for a on/off thing.
hope i have helped and like all advice here, just my opinion.
mick
thank u mick its a complicated relationship to say the least....
for ur questions when its off no one was wit another that i know of lol its on cos we kinda cant live without each other as i said i do really love him i'm jst mesmerised by this other guy
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scorpiosiren: im in an on off relationship for 8 yrs but now have feelings for another its not a physical attraction more a deep soul connection i do love my partner very much though i dunno wot to do wit my other feelings
This is borrowed from I don't remember where:
It is all right to walk on the left side of the road. It is all right to walk on the right side of the road. But it is dangerous to walk in the middle of the road.
So spare yourself and the people that you like a lot of heartache. Don't juggle two balls (or is it four?) at the same time.
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laura139: maybe it's the newness of this other person, the possibility of excitement and anticipation. I agree with other posts, the grass
isn't always greener, you may be afraid to get away from what you're used to, comfort zone, but only you know that answer deep down inside....if this other person doens't feel that way, then what? If they do only for a time and then leave, then what? Is there something missing in one you find in another..search your heart carefully...you may find that it was only temporary and you let the really good thing go... Good Luck!
isn't always greener, you may be afraid to get away from what you're used to, comfort zone, but only you know that answer deep down inside....if this other person doens't feel that way, then what? If they do only for a time and then leave, then what? Is there something missing in one you find in another..search your heart carefully...you may find that it was only temporary and you let the really good thing go... Good Luck!
u hit the nail on the head there when u said is there something missing yea there is my partner is very deep doesnt talk to much about things where as i like to deal wit things head on the other guy is like me he's very open we have a lot in common ive been a bit ill for a few weeks my partner is worried but doesnt talk the other guy is concerned for me tellin me to take things easy n not to do this n not to do that im very independant and dont like to be fussed about but sometimes it is nice
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night_whispers50: If you are married best to stick it out,8 years together there must have been something there, best to work on the relationship you have already,then to chance being left with no one in the end...
na im not married dont think i ever will be lol lol
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scorpiosiren: u hit the nail on the head there when u said is there something missing yea there is my partner is very deep doesnt talk to much about things where as i like to deal wit things head on the other guy is like me he's very open we have a lot in common ive been a bit ill for a few weeks my partner is worried but doesnt talk the other guy is concerned for me tellin me to take things easy n not to do this n not to do that im very independant and dont like to be fussed about but sometimes it is nice
That's not deep enough.
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Why must most people always think they must have a partner to feel complete ,whats wrong with going to bed and waking up on your own 
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scorpiosiren: thank u mick its a complicated relationship to say the least....
for ur questions when its off no one was wit another that i know of lol its on cos we kinda cant live without each other as i said i do really love him i'm jst mesmerised by this other guy
for ur questions when its off no one was wit another that i know of lol its on cos we kinda cant live without each other as i said i do really love him i'm jst mesmerised by this other guy
infatuation can ruin so many here i beleive.
i can add something that may or may not help.
i too was in a relationship where i needed to talk about everything, the good , the abd and the uncertain. my partner was the opposite. if we had an argument she would walk away but i coul;dnt leave things like that and it would only cause more drama. same as when things were good, i just loved sharing my moments and sharing her moments, talking about the kids and so on. she seemed to talk alittle but wouldnt go deep and caused a lot of frustration. in the end she left me and i have been suffering ever since. so if you trully love you b/f...... stck with him and just be friends with the new guy. infatuation will pass, love will be with you forever even when we lose a partner the love we felt at the height of that relationship stays to a certain degree. so my friend , as others have stated, look into your heart and feel what your heart tells you but at the same time listen to your head. somewhere in that mix is the answer.
mick
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jonnt: Why must most people always think they must have a partner to feel complete ,whats wrong with going to bed and waking up on your own
try it for 17yrs. not pleasent and healthy
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jonnt: Why must most people always think they must have a partner to feel complete ,whats wrong with going to bed and waking up on your own
hey,you i get cold at night,i need a body warmer...
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mick64: infatuation can ruin so many here i beleive.
i can add something that may or may not help.
i too was in a relationship where i needed to talk about everything, the good , the abd and the uncertain. my partner was the opposite. if we had an argument she would walk away but i coul;dnt leave things like that and it would only cause more drama. same as when things were good, i just loved sharing my moments and sharing her moments, talking about the kids and so on. she seemed to talk alittle but wouldnt go deep and caused a lot of frustration. in the end she left me and i have been suffering ever since. so if you trully love you b/f...... stck with him and just be friends with the new guy. infatuation will pass, love will be with you forever even when we lose a partner the love we felt at the height of that relationship stays to a certain degree. so my friend , as others have stated, look into your heart and feel what your heart tells you but at the same time listen to your head. somewhere in that mix is the answer.
mick
i can add something that may or may not help.
i too was in a relationship where i needed to talk about everything, the good , the abd and the uncertain. my partner was the opposite. if we had an argument she would walk away but i coul;dnt leave things like that and it would only cause more drama. same as when things were good, i just loved sharing my moments and sharing her moments, talking about the kids and so on. she seemed to talk alittle but wouldnt go deep and caused a lot of frustration. in the end she left me and i have been suffering ever since. so if you trully love you b/f...... stck with him and just be friends with the new guy. infatuation will pass, love will be with you forever even when we lose a partner the love we felt at the height of that relationship stays to a certain degree. so my friend , as others have stated, look into your heart and feel what your heart tells you but at the same time listen to your head. somewhere in that mix is the answer.
mick
ah im sorry for ur loss mick
but its sooooooo frustrating at times
but we do get on wit things n i do love him i wud die if i lost him so thanks i jst needed my head cleared n a few opinions thanks u have really helped
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