Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!! ( Archived) (35)

Aug 30, 2010 4:52 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
MetalMilitia
MetalMilitiaMetalMilitiaseattle, Washington USA6 Threads 576 Posts
Im asking yall cos in my time on this site I've noticed that many of yall are very prone to this and im just trying to understand yalls logic here....dunno dunno


basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....


and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!


what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????

and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!

personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!very mad

my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!frustrated
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Aug 30, 2010 4:54 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
solsticemoon
solsticemoonsolsticemoonjavea, Valencia Spain64 Threads 4,504 Posts
well generally dude if people post their "private" business online, then are'nt they leaving it up to public discussion?
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Aug 30, 2010 4:55 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
RDM59
RDM59RDM59Edinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK92 Threads 5 Polls 14,070 Posts
They just want into your pants man ....doh

I thouht YOU would have known that one ... wow grin laugh
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Aug 30, 2010 4:56 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
Margarete
MargareteMargareteDublin, Ireland8 Threads 339 Posts
popcorn popcorn popcorn popcorn popcorn hole hole
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Aug 30, 2010 4:56 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
RDM59
RDM59RDM59Edinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK92 Threads 5 Polls 14,070 Posts
solsticemoon: well generally dude if people post their "private" business online, then are'nt they leaving it up to public discussion?


Hello gorgeous,hug long time no see, how the heck are you ? .... wine bouquet wave
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Aug 30, 2010 4:57 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
solsticemoon
solsticemoonsolsticemoonjavea, Valencia Spain64 Threads 4,504 Posts
RDM59: They just want into your pants man ....

I thouht YOU would have known that one ...


you dont wear em R!!rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Aug 30, 2010 4:58 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
MetalMilitia
MetalMilitiaMetalMilitiaseattle, Washington USA6 Threads 576 Posts
RDM59: They just want into your pants man ....

I thouht YOU would have known that one ...



no... it aint that... they are just being melodramatic instead of factual about things !!!!



mumbling
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Aug 30, 2010 4:59 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
Veritaas
VeritaasVeritaasLondon, Greater London, England UK2 Threads 5,839 Posts
rolling on the floor laughing
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Aug 30, 2010 4:59 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
solsticemoon
solsticemoonsolsticemoonjavea, Valencia Spain64 Threads 4,504 Posts
RDM59: Hello gorgeous, long time no see, how the heck are you ? ....


hey lovely..well you know the expression while the cats away.............jeez is this the most fun the mouse can havedoh


yeh I enjoy iy and Ive missed it!
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Aug 30, 2010 5:00 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
Grandepensees
GrandepenseesGrandepenseesVerviers, Liege Belgium45 Threads 1 Polls 3,691 Posts
MetalMilitia: Im asking yall cos in my time on this site I've noticed that many of yall are very prone to this and im just trying to understand yalls logic here.... basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????

and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!

personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!

my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!


So how the hell are you doing anyhow?wine
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Aug 30, 2010 5:00 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
morgan5
morgan5morgan5chelmsford, Essex, England UK87 Threads 8,237 Posts
MetalMilitia: Im asking yall cos in my time on this site I've noticed that many of yall are very prone to this and im just trying to understand yalls logic here.... basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????

and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!

personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!

my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!
Would you lie to talk about whats bothering you??? rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing Sorry couldn't resist and i'm only joking, have enough issues in my own life without being an agony aunt tongue
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Aug 30, 2010 5:01 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
MetalMilitia: Im asking yall cos in my time on this site I've noticed that many of yall are very prone to this and im just trying to understand yalls logic here.... basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????

and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!

personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!

my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!


Fine.....Ill be right here .... waiting ....frustrated
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Aug 30, 2010 5:01 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
merrilou
merriloumerriloucarlow, Carlow Ireland670 Posts
Grandepensees: So how the hell are you doing anyhow?

rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
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Aug 30, 2010 5:01 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
bodleing
bodleingbodleingGreater Manchester, England UK238 Threads 8 Polls 13,810 Posts
solsticemoon: well generally dude if people post their "private" business online, then are'nt they leaving it up to public discussion?


wave


teddybear
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Aug 30, 2010 5:01 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
Swissblueeyes
SwissblueeyesSwissblueeyesa lake, Michigan USA13 Threads 3,371 Posts
cheering
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Aug 30, 2010 5:03 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
solsticemoon
solsticemoonsolsticemoonjavea, Valencia Spain64 Threads 4,504 Posts
hey G hows my favourite guy...........................................bodie of courselaugh
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Aug 30, 2010 5:10 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
suggasugga
suggasuggasuggasuggaLos Angeles, California USA8 Threads 1,267 Posts
solsticemoon: well generally dude if people post their "private" business online, then are'nt they leaving it up to public discussion?
thumbs up thumbs up thumbs up
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Aug 30, 2010 5:15 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
invinciblemuse
invinciblemuseinvinciblemuseDresden, Saxony Germany38 Threads 2 Polls 6,026 Posts
Ok. I know what you mean. It can be difficult to open up to people who think they know you, when they clearly have no idea what's really going on inside you.

An unbiased observer in form of a counsellor might come in handy - basically someone you pay to listen to whatever you say, who will have to take it when you shout angrily and who will have to keep his/her mouth shut in case you let go and break down.

Do what you want - find what you need - just don't cause any damage to those who were just too helpless to guess what you needed to hear at the time they were around.

My best wishes to you. hug
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Aug 30, 2010 5:17 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
MetalMilitia
MetalMilitiaMetalMilitiaseattle, Washington USA6 Threads 576 Posts
Grandepensees: So how the hell are you doing anyhow?


well have all the reason to cry and be depressed, however im the only one who isnt !!!!


dunno
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Aug 30, 2010 5:18 PM CST Why are you so pushy???? mind your own business !!!
lilmamma71
lilmamma71lilmamma71St. Louis, Missouri USA31 Threads 1,345 Posts
If someone posts a topic/problem on the forums, it leaves them open for scrutiny and other people's opinions. Keeping one's business to oneself doesn't mean you go about publishing a manifesto on a forum and soliciting advice and then when someone says something you don't agree w/ you don't get to cry foul.

A forum is public domain and as such, anybody can say anything they'd like and that's the way it is. You can get all frustrated and ticked off, but if you don't like it, don't post it. Keep your business to yourself if you don't want anybody knowing about it. Plain and simple.roll eyes
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