Im asking yall cos in my time on this site I've noticed that many of yall are very prone to this and im just trying to understand yalls logic here....
basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....
and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!
what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????
and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!
personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!
my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!
MetalMilitia: Im asking yall cos in my time on this site I've noticed that many of yall are very prone to this and im just trying to understand yalls logic here.... basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????
and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!
personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!
my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!
MetalMilitia: Im asking yall cos in my time on this site I've noticed that many of yall are very prone to this and im just trying to understand yalls logic here.... basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????
and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!
personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!
my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!
Would you lie to talk about whats bothering you??? Sorry couldn't resist and i'm only joking, have enough issues in my own life without being an agony aunt
MetalMilitia: Im asking yall cos in my time on this site I've noticed that many of yall are very prone to this and im just trying to understand yalls logic here.... basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????
and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!
personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!
my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!
Ok. I know what you mean. It can be difficult to open up to people who think they know you, when they clearly have no idea what's really going on inside you.
An unbiased observer in form of a counsellor might come in handy - basically someone you pay to listen to whatever you say, who will have to take it when you shout angrily and who will have to keep his/her mouth shut in case you let go and break down.
Do what you want - find what you need - just don't cause any damage to those who were just too helpless to guess what you needed to hear at the time they were around.
If someone posts a topic/problem on the forums, it leaves them open for scrutiny and other people's opinions. Keeping one's business to oneself doesn't mean you go about publishing a manifesto on a forum and soliciting advice and then when someone says something you don't agree w/ you don't get to cry foul.
A forum is public domain and as such, anybody can say anything they'd like and that's the way it is. You can get all frustrated and ticked off, but if you don't like it, don't post it. Keep your business to yourself if you don't want anybody knowing about it. Plain and simple.
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basically its like this. you know of someone who is facing some difficult times, be it relationship wise, work wise, family wise, whatever....
and so you think that you HAVE to help and you keep on acosting this individual saying things like: "im here, you can talk to me" or "im here to help you too" or "its ok to talk about it", and even after you say: "im good, thanks for the offer, i'll call you if i decide to talk to you about it", they still cant lay off and instead they start talking to you trying to get you to "open up" !!!!!!
what im trying to understand is if yall are just so melodramatic that you NEED to meddle into other people's business, even if you barely know them (just read the threads and you'll see what im talking about) or if IM so weird that im the only person in this planet who thinks my private life is private and I GET to chose who i share it with????
and btw... im not talking about people who are close to you doing this, im talking about people who barely know you, if at all !!!
personally, when im in pain (physical or emotional), depressed or upset, asking me "how are you doing?" sort of adds insult to injury.... i mean if say, im dealing with a break up and im depressed and you ask me how im doing... im likely to say: "well, how the f,..k do you think im doing? what kind of a f....ing question is that?" !!!!!
my point is.... keep yourself to your own business and let me deal with mine.... if i EVER need your help, i will be sure to contact you !!!!