Feeling lonely ( Archived) (41)

Sep 28, 2010 3:28 PM CST Feeling lonely
RadioheadFan123
RadioheadFan123RadioheadFan123Rochester, New York USA115 Threads 28 Polls 471 Posts
I am a shy person and today I tried to move out of my comfort zone and outwardly show people something I am interested in by going to the Visual Arts and Music building on campus and playing my guitar there. I thought maybe people would notice and stop and have a conversation but no one seemed to care. A lot of my friends are too busy to hang out, they have either dropped out, or moved onto a different college. I've seen people from last semester that I know and a few are in my class but I rarely see them outside of class. One person stopped and he was someone I knew yet it was very briefly, since he had somewhere to go I guess. I feel maybe I could've done something more so people would notice me. There are times I want someone to talk to about similar interests and someone to talk to when I feel sad or distressed. I would do the same for them. Do you think it's something I did or that the people were too busy and/or didn't care? Please don't think that I am just going on about how miserable my life is. I feel lonely and I want to change that and it should mean something.

Thank you for reading my post.
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Sep 28, 2010 3:30 PM CST Feeling lonely
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
Its sad that life has gotten so busy that we cant stop and see the peeps around us blues hug wave
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Sep 28, 2010 3:31 PM CST Feeling lonely
cincity
cincitycincitytoronto, Ontario Canada9 Threads 2,496 Posts
Maybe next time you should speak to them and not just play your guitar....Join a club or association that you are interested in...
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Sep 28, 2010 3:32 PM CST Feeling lonely
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
But hey! you can always jump into the forums and hang with us...we will gab at ya...usually nonsense but yaknow it passes the time teddybear
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Sep 28, 2010 3:33 PM CST Feeling lonely
Amity
AmityAmityDodging Daggers, Wiltshire, England UK49 Threads 6,217 Posts
hug teddybear
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Sep 28, 2010 3:35 PM CST Feeling lonely
Desertguy49
Desertguy49Desertguy49South Western Desert, Arizona USA7 Threads 2,259 Posts
Jump in the matchmaker thread and find yourself a woman, I had one but my relationships never last very long....cheers
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Sep 28, 2010 3:36 PM CST Feeling lonely
RadioheadFan123
RadioheadFan123RadioheadFan123Rochester, New York USA115 Threads 28 Polls 471 Posts
cincity: Maybe next time you should speak to them and not just play your guitar....Join a club or association that you are interested in...


I actually have. I'm involved in the Comics Creators Club which meets once a week. There aren't many people in it unfortunately. Hopefully more will join.
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Sep 28, 2010 3:37 PM CST Feeling lonely
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
Besides, your cute, smart, and play guitar...theres no reason for you to be lonely, the chicks should have you covered up! dunno
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Sep 28, 2010 3:37 PM CST Feeling lonely
RadioheadFan123
RadioheadFan123RadioheadFan123Rochester, New York USA115 Threads 28 Polls 471 Posts
Thank you Amity.
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Sep 28, 2010 3:38 PM CST Feeling lonely
ironman57321
ironman57321ironman57321Russellville,Ar., Arkansas USA247 Posts
You just got to get in there and pitch withum,sonhead banger
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Sep 28, 2010 3:39 PM CST Feeling lonely
robsantiago15
robsantiago15robsantiago15Lowell, Massachusetts USA11 Threads 713 Posts
RadioheadFan123: I am a shy person and today I tried to move out of my comfort zone and outwardly show people something I am interested in by going to the Visual Arts and Music building on campus and playing my guitar there. I thought maybe people would notice and stop and have a conversation but no one seemed to care. A lot of my friends are too busy to hang out, they have either dropped out, or moved onto a different college. I've seen people from last semester that I know and a few are in my class but I rarely see them outside of class. One person stopped and he was someone I knew yet it was very briefly, since he had somewhere to go I guess. I feel maybe I could've done something more so people would notice me. There are times I want someone to talk to about similar interests and someone to talk to when I feel sad or distressed. I would do the same for them. Do you think it's something I did or that the people were too busy and/or didn't care? Please don't think that I am just going on about how miserable my life is. I feel lonely and I want to change that and it should mean something.

Thank you for reading my post.
Best thing to do about is to find your passion in life. Find a hobby. If in the process you manage to meet somebody great and if you don't feel bad about it. Think positive always. The true reality is that as we get older and live busy life it gets harder to make friends or to find dates.
Is not the same when you were a kid that everything was all fun.

Like I said stay positive. Be yourself and don't try to change the way you are because that is part of your personality.
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Sep 28, 2010 3:41 PM CST Feeling lonely
RadioheadFan123
RadioheadFan123RadioheadFan123Rochester, New York USA115 Threads 28 Polls 471 Posts
venusenvy: Besides, your cute, smart, and play guitar...theres no reason for you to be lonely, the chicks should have you covered up!


Thank you for the compliments. Maybe it's because women don't usually go for chubby guys like myself. I'm not really sure dunno

There was a girl there who was singing and playing guitar but by the time I got back to where she had been with my guitar she left not long before I guess.
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Sep 28, 2010 3:43 PM CST Feeling lonely
RadioheadFan123
RadioheadFan123RadioheadFan123Rochester, New York USA115 Threads 28 Polls 471 Posts
robsantiago15: Best thing to do about is to find your passion in life. Find a hobby. If in the process you manage to meet somebody great and if you don't feel bad about it. Think positive always. The true reality is that as we get older and live busy life it gets harder to make friends or to find dates.
Is not the same when you were a kid that everything was all fun.

Like I said stay positive. Be yourself and don't try to change the way you are because that is part of your personality.


Thank you for the advice. handshake
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Sep 28, 2010 3:50 PM CST Feeling lonely
Medsummer
MedsummerMedsummerflopping around on the beach, Liguria Italy78 Threads 8 Polls 1,682 Posts
Good to see you did get out of your comfort zone, it only be doing so that you have new experiences and meet new people.
It is probably nothing you did, it's just that life has gotten busier and busier and in the modern world quality time is a rare thing to enjoy for many people.
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Sep 28, 2010 3:55 PM CST Feeling lonely
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
Desertguy49: Jump in the matchmaker thread and find yourself a woman, I had one but my relationships never last very long....



Well!! I do declare! you should stop two timing then! snooty
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Sep 28, 2010 3:59 PM CST Feeling lonely
Desertguy49
Desertguy49Desertguy49South Western Desert, Arizona USA7 Threads 2,259 Posts
Well what you have to do is make that ol depression work for ya,
put on some sad country music,
grab a cold one or six, kick back with your boots up and just say to yourself a few times over.... I'm a man and I can deal with it,
next thing you know, there 'll be another one waiting in the wings for ya...laugh cheers cowboy
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Sep 28, 2010 5:49 PM CST Feeling lonely
lifeisadream
lifeisadreamlifeisadreamMexi Go, Mexico State Mexico156 Threads 20 Polls 16,713 Posts
Your very own happiness is inside yourself, once you realize it you will be free!

wine
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Sep 28, 2010 5:56 PM CST Feeling lonely
sweetlyscented1
sweetlyscented1sweetlyscented1Gosford, New South Wales Australia60 Threads 1 Polls 3,060 Posts
Im not one to complain......but just so you know my life is painfully lonely right now, for many reasons and I do sit and cry sometimes out of loneliness, but I also know its up to US to make the changes that are needed.....you need to GET OUT and make effort...

allot of the advice given here is sound and very true.


I feel your pain though....and I am sending you hugs.

teddybear
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Sep 28, 2010 6:00 PM CST Feeling lonely
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
deadbutwhy: Nope... things are going just GREAT


Cesspool agitator!!scold
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Sep 28, 2010 6:03 PM CST Feeling lonely
deadbutwhy
deadbutwhydeadbutwhyeast, Eastern Province Saudi Arabia9 Threads 2 Polls 1,295 Posts
Practice your flirting with the girls here... let your funny and sensual self shine through... some women will notice... you don't have to expect anything from here (afterall most women would be thousands of miles away), just laughs and friendship and practice for the real life.
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