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Love can be very subjective, even selfish in many ways. I've seen all the expectations and conditions attached to true and real love, many of which that turn out to be counter-productive in the long run.
The high divorce rates in our society speak a cruel truth as to how we define love in our modern day society. Perhaps our definitions of love is not sound? Perhaps we do have too many expectations, maybe we do expect our partners to fill a void that we can only fulfill from within?
Maybe we've become to impatient, we've become too selfish, and we've become too arrogant? Maybe we are better off being single?
Maybe we've been fooled into thinking that love should never encounter adversities and challenges? Maybe we give up too soon? Maybe we look for this idea of perfect love elsewhere when our relationships encounter a hiccup---only to run into the same problems elsewhere?
True love, real love---what do expect of your partner and in a relationship? What is true and real love to you? When do we draw the line to look elsewhere?
To be honest, we've become a reflection of our selfish and impatient society where happiness is dependent from outside the self. If our partners make any kind of mistake, we perceive that as a weakness that diminishes our views of just how strong the love and relationship is. We demand that our partners fit in with our ideal picture of how a partner should act and react, and forget to give them the liberty to be themselves. We take things too personal, have too much need to change our partners. We want more and more and more while forgetting to look in the mirror.
It's no coincidence that nobody stays together. We've been trained to give up, indoctrinated to demand, conditioned to not respect and roll with the changes...