Well, since the "what he or she wants" threads are so contagious, I'll contribute. This in not about women, it's about both genders in a new relationship, and when things change after those first few magical weeks.
Perhaps George Michael's best production (okay, maybe Careless Whisper was).
"I guess I must have loved you. 'Cause I said you were the perfect girl for me, Maybe... But now we're six months older... And everything you want and everything you see, Is out of reach...not good enough... I don't know what the hell you want from me but boy" - Wham
Okay, the theme here is how things can change in a new relationship. That first initial take-off can be so awesome---those first 6-8 weeks. You could do no wrong, she could do no wrong. Then after the fireworks are done, and the smoke is settled, new views on our partner emerges, and we think---oh dear, what's up with that? Funny how it didn't matter in the beginning, but then after a while, we start to see things in a different light.
Just thinking out loud here. Funny how everything is perfect in the beginning. Thoughts?
ABSOLUTELY! I think those challenges are an important part of the bonding process that relationships go through. It can be annoying and/or uncomfortable, but I don't think it's a bad thing.
kcuc0574Ho Chi Minh, Southeast Vietnam Vietnam2,003 posts
opentuit: ABSOLUTELY! I think those challenges are an important part of the bonding process that relationships go through. It can be annoying and/or uncomfortable, but I don't think it's a bad thing.
Hi Open,
I dont know why, but i just find SF's posting very funny, especially when i clicked to open the song, LOL,...
I think at the moment George Michael probably wants a soap on a rope more than anything - apparently his singing in prison has got him a hit in the number 2 slot.
ChasingCars: I think at the moment George Michael probably wants a soap on a rope more than anything - apparently his singing in prison has got him a hit in the number 2 slot.
Are you this good live... I would LOVE to party with you sometime!!
venusenvy: Love changes all of us. Couples grow together as they fall in love ...It cant be helped.
Yes, understood. However, my point is growing out of love. A lot of relationships fall flat after the initial take-off phase of those 6-8 magical weeks. Things that were seen as cool and funny at first, all of the sudden become not so funny, and we tell our partners this, or we keep it bottled up and wonder what we got into. There are many reasons for this.
Now, I have my explanations for this process, but I'll hold off for now since I am pounding beers (long story). I just want to see more views here.
StressFree: Well, since the "what he or she wants" threads are so contagious, I'll contribute. This in not about women, it's about both genders in a new relationship, and when things change after those first few magical weeks.
Perhaps George Michael's best production (okay, maybe Careless Whisper was).
"I guess I must have loved you. 'Cause I said you were the perfect girl for me, Maybe... But now we're six months older... And everything you want and everything you see, Is out of reach...not good enough... I don't know what the hell you want from me but boy" - WhamOkay, the theme here is how things can change in a new relationship. That first initial take-off can be so awesome---those first 6-8 weeks. You could do no wrong, she could do no wrong. Then after the fireworks are done, and the smoke is settled, new views on our partner emerges, and we think---oh dear, what's up with that? Funny how it didn't matter in the beginning, but then after a while, we start to see things in a different light.
Just thinking out loud here. Funny how everything is perfect in the beginning. Thoughts?
bodleingGreater Manchester, England UK13,810 posts
All relationships begin in projection. All projection occurs unconsciously, the force that pulls two people together (usually a combination of complexes,) is the same energy that can eventually force them apart. Love hate relationships demonstrate these polar opposites quite well. More often than not the unconscious dynamic that drove two people together may one day come to the surface, and what they see is seldom a pretty picture.
afterbam: cool!!..in the good and in the bad... who next?
I'll stop the world and MELT WITH YOU
bodleing: All relationships begin in projection. All projection occurs unconsciously, the force that pulls two people together (usually a combination of complexes,) is the same energy that can eventually force them apart. Love hate relationships demonstrate these polar opposites quite well. More often than not the unconscious dynamic that drove two people together may one day come to the surface, and what they see is seldom a pretty picture.
Have you been reading the book of Ra?
Agreed though---energy and projection can work both ways since it never stays still for many people. Rule it, don't let it rule you due to labels and indoctrinations projected by Hollywood and Romanticism.
I will say that a lot of relationships do begin in projection, but not all of them. Some people are beyond the rabbit hole and see things in their true light
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Perhaps George Michael's best production (okay, maybe Careless Whisper was).
"I guess I must have loved you.
'Cause I said you were the perfect girl for me,
Maybe...
But now we're six months older...
And everything you want and everything you see,
Is out of reach...not good enough...
I don't know what the hell you want from me but boy" - Wham
Okay, the theme here is how things can change in a new relationship. That first initial take-off can be so awesome---those first 6-8 weeks. You could do no wrong, she could do no wrong. Then after the fireworks are done, and the smoke is settled, new views on our partner emerges, and we think---oh dear, what's up with that? Funny how it didn't matter in the beginning, but then after a while, we start to see things in a different light.
Just thinking out loud here. Funny how everything is perfect in the beginning. Thoughts?