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I find that other people can be immensly (did I spell that right?) unhelpful when it comes to giving me advice about losing weight. There are people who say things such as, "Have you tried exercising more?" and others who say, "You need to eat less fatty foods". Well such comments just make me angry because don't those people think that a guy as big as me knows HOW to lose weight? It's the will-power I lack, and there are many reasons for that. Then there are people who try to be kind by telling me I don't look that fat anyway - Well I know people are being kind but it really doesn't help. I am bigger in the flesh than it appears in my photos (that was confirmed the other day after I'd met someone who I'd been writing to for a few weeks). Also, people say that as long as I'm happy, I shouldn't care what other people think of my looks. Well the problem is that I'm NOT happy with my size. Also, it's causing me health problems and I'm not working because of one of the problems caused by it. I know my blood pressure is high too because of it so that is obviously dangerous.
So the sort of help I need isn't someone telling me how to lose weight, it isn't someone telling me "You must see a doctor if your blood pressure is high" and it isn't someone recommending various low-fat foods. It's all about having the will-power to stop eating and have the 'get up and go' to exercise. The sort of help I need isn't really what I can get from people in forums anyway so I'm not asking for it here. I just wish I knew local people so that I had people to go out with and talk to face to face.
So there you have it! It's the third day of my diet and I've done well so far so I just hope I can keep it up. It'll be easier now it isn't so hot at least. The heat during the summer makes it almost impossible to exercise when you're as fat as me, and anyone who's very big will understand why.
I only wrote this because I need to share my feelings with someone and I don't know who to tell, and I've met some decent people here so it seemed like a good place. :) Please though, don't someone come back at me and tell me that I have to see a doctor ok? That won't help me. I can almost 'hear' it now from a certain person in these forums who thinks he's better than everyone else (no names mentioned but nobody I've directly written to) who will be saying it to make himself look good rather than to help me. Understanding my situation is what will help me.
Thanks for listening everyone, and maybe others could share their weight-loss experiences in this thread? Like how did you get the will-power, did you manage to keep it off, how did it change your life, etc.?
Geoff. (one of those is a Diet Coke because I don't drink!).