Kids.... (4)

.....I guess I know the answer already, but anyway here goes.

During a visit this year I went out with my offspring, two of whom were making lewd jokes at my expense. No probs, I just proffered a lewd comment of my own, not against them you understand, but very much in keeping with the content of the other comments that were being made.And no it wasn't obscene nor using sweary words. Anyway, my daughter snapped and bit my head off, said I'd crossed the line and it ruined the whole night, she just froze me right out of the conversation. In fact, I diplomatically claimed to be tired and went back home, really just didn't want to be responsible for messing up everybody else's night out. She has not spoken to me since even though I apologised, but I pointed out that what they had said was ten times more offensive, especially as it was directed at me personally.

Now, casually visiting a certain social networking site I see the most disgusting and vile banter between her and her friends (re certain body fluids and male and femal body parts)in a very public forum. Of course, she knows I have access to this site, we used to communicate through it.And she knows that I have some very good friends on the same site, mature people,who would be equally disgusted by the banter.

Two things, I know I should just ignore this lack of social maturity, but I am appalled that she she could take such offence with me yet be so publicly offensive elsewhere.

I know, it wasn't so much what I said, it was the fact that it was coming from me,her dad.I still think such a duplicitous attitude is a bit rich.

I am not asking for advice,so please do not feel the need to give it, but equally feel free to do so if you wish. I will just ignore it and I am not chasing after her, if and when she wants to speak to me she will, I guess.

Another night out, I commented that another person, female, waiting in the same queue for a restaurant table, had a very pretty face. I was immediately told off (by my other daughter) for being a perve, which I aint, not by a long stretch.

She then added insult to injury by claiming that their mother didn't go round eyeing up blokes.I said nothing til we got home then pulled her to one side and very strongly told her to never ever compare me with her mother on moral grounds since her mother not only eyed up other blokes but also broke up a twenty year marriage with her extra marital affairs, which all my kids already knew about.

Again I've been frozen out,no contact. I guess I ought to have bit my lip and accepted the comments with a pinch of salt,but it did annoy me immensly to be compared in that way. Again,a duplictous attitude, mum can screw the whole damn world whilst still married to dad and bring our whole world crashing down, but single dad can't openly admire a pretty face.Really all I said was " hey look, that lady has got a really pretty face".

Again, I guess it's because it's dad,even the slightest hint that dad might actually have any appreciation of females, even if it's just a pretty face, it just aint on.

Ladies view please.

Just a thought or two Elley,1 is perhaps she is angry with you(or at someone else)for something she doesn't feel able to call on,and the personal slap she gave you was blown out of proportion,and an excuse to show her anger.
2nd is my dad often makes comments,which I find hugely inappropriate,coming from my father,and make me feel very uncomfortable.same comments from my friends wouldn't phase me for a second.
goodluck.x