What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating (12)

Nov 1, 2010 12:52 AM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
Palilas
PalilasPalilasMumbai, Maharashtra India1 Threads 1 Posts
Hey Everyone,

Please help me out! I really want to know what are the things we should keep in mind before trying online dating. There many dating tips on the internet. But I need some easy and simple tips.


Thanks in Advance heart wings
Nov 1, 2010 3:20 AM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada30 Threads 16,544 Posts
Rule #1: Stay away from people advertising other dating sites that aren't being advertised by the actual site.professor


I'm guessing that means you.laugh
Nov 1, 2010 2:42 PM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
seriousone
seriousoneseriousonescarborough, Ontario Canada3 Posts
no one is committed to wht tehy say or have true meaning talk is cheap '''remember that''''
Nov 1, 2010 5:49 PM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
musicfreak
musicfreakmusicfreakParadise City, British Columbia Canada20 Threads 1 Polls 670 Posts
Palilas: Hey Everyone,

Please help me out! I really want to know what are the things we should keep in mind before trying online dating. There many dating tips on the internet. But I need some easy and simple tips.Thanks in Advance


Thanks for spamming you...... doh
Nov 1, 2010 9:13 PM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
bleeding
bleedingbleedingfergus, Ontario Canada7 Posts
Go with your gut feelings communication is important
Nov 2, 2010 1:32 AM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
langleygirl
langleygirllangleygirlWestlock, Alberta Canada70 Threads 8,202 Posts
kidatheart: Rule #1: Stay away from people advertising other dating sites that aren't being advertised by the actual site. I'm guessing that means you.


Lol ..... very true Kid. wave Hope life is treating you well and that you aren't working too hard!

As for tips - just as others mentioned, trust your instincts and if possible, meet asap in a public place. Don't be afraid to ask tough questions, either. There are all kinds on these various sites (just as in real life) but the internet seems to be a good playground for those who are deceitful as sometimes its hard to verify info. Stick to people closer to home - those people you actually have a chance of meeting. Someone across the world - its probably not going to happen.
Jun 8, 2011 2:30 PM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
seriousone
seriousoneseriousonescarborough, Ontario Canada3 Posts
ALWAY REMEMBER THAT WE ALL SAY WHAT WE ARE LOOKING FOR BUT ARE WE WILL TO COMMITT TO WHAT WE SAY WE WANT AND LOOKING FOR'
Jun 9, 2011 4:30 PM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
Northerngal45
Northerngal45Northerngal45Thunder Bay, Ontario Canada3 Posts
Know what you want and what you won't stand for and stand by that. Trust your gut, listen to the little voice that we all have that guides you. All the best to you.
Jun 9, 2011 6:53 PM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
KHD100
KHD100KHD100Edmonton, Alberta Canada129 Threads 3 Polls 2,495 Posts
The dark side of online dating

The tragic case of nurse Sonia Varaschin's death and suspicions that someone she had met online was involved has made daters especially wary of the potential dangers from these sites.

Julie Spira, best-selling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, is a staunch believer in online dating, but encourages women to ration their information flow when they first meet someone.

"You shouldn't give out your last name, street address, where you work, and you should always meet in a public place," she cautions.

Strong, smart and cautious, Meaghan (name changed to protect her identity) never dreamed she was the type of person who might get victimized by a man she met on a dating site.

"I was extremely wary of the whole process," says the Toronto-based artist. "I only met up with people once I had chatted with them enough to get a sense of who they were and felt comfortable."

Then she met "Peter" online.

He was kind. Handsome. Sensitive. Doting. They would spend hours on the phone, but didn't meet in person, as Peter told Meaghan that he was out of town for a couple of weeks due to a family crisis.

"After a few weeks, he said things hadn't progressed well with his family, and said it would be a bit longer before he was home. I didn't care - I was patient, we had great rapport, it didn't seem dangerous."

Eventually, "Peter" became emotionally abusive, threatening suicide. After Meaghan ended things, he began to threaten her. She called the police and was stunned by the results of their background check. To say the least. Peter, as she knew him, did not exist.

"He was virtually untraceable," she says. "His phone had been somehow redirected or connected through someone else's. The woman who lived at his address never heard of him. God knows who is really in all the photos of he and his family I have. God knows who I was speaking to all that time. The cops were convinced that he lived in my city, and could potentially be a danger to me. They kept a close eye on me for a few weeks."

Although Meaghan reported Peter to the online dating website administration, they did nothing about it. His profile is still up.

To her credit, Meaghan got right back in the game: "After the whole Peter nightmare, a very dear friend told me that it was just terrible luck, and I was hit with a random psycho. She told me not to give up on online dating." So Meaghan asked out a boy she'd met online before Peter, although they'd never actually met up. "I knew he was a real life boy this time. And he turned out to be perfect. A date to make myself feel better turned into a long-term relationship with a wonderful man whom I love very much. "

"Remember that online dating is a numbers game," says Spira. "You need to play to win, so enjoy the experience. There are a lot of terrific people that you can meet in an Internet dating site."

Playing it safe

Here are some other online dating safety tips, courtesy of Julie Spira and Cyberdatingexpert.com:

Have a friend that you can text during the date to let them know that you're fine. Let that same friend know the screen name of who you are meeting and the site that you met on. This should be a ritual for you.

If you feel uncomfortable for any reason, leave.

Avoid late night dates. If you don't know someone very well, late night dating and drinking may result in your safety being compromised.

Go ahead and Google your date in advance - just don't bring it up in an early conversation.

Take your relationship from online to offline as soon as possible. Otherwise, you might have a false sense that you're in a relationship. And you never know who is hiding behind the computer screen.
Jun 11, 2011 11:58 AM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
Be careful, and value true frienship first above all. Anyone in hurry be wise & smart before u take a leap!

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Jun 11, 2011 12:00 PM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
Dawn50
Dawn50Dawn50Ottawa Valley, Ontario Canada182 Threads 1,338 Posts
Hi KHD hug

I applaud this cheering very wise with smarts peace
Jun 11, 2011 1:04 PM CST What are the things to keep in mind before trying online dating
A_Non_A_Moose
A_Non_A_MooseA_Non_A_MooseWestlock, Alberta Canada116 Threads 8 Polls 4,340 Posts
kidatheart: Rule #1: Stay away from people advertising other dating sites that aren't being advertised by the actual site. I'm guessing that means you.


Nice catch, bro!

I was about to type a whole load of advice,...and then I saw what you were getting at,...
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